Emotional mode: sort out your feelings and hide in your own "castle"
Thinking before reading: What is the biggest problem of personality number 5 in emotional relations?
Among all personality types, No. 5 Personality is the type that is least likely to have intimacy. They are so uncomfortable, reject all kinds of social occasions, and hide in their own private spaces. Even if they are in a crowd, they will find opportunities to come to a corner with few people and quietly observe the reactions of various people, but they do not directly participate in the exchange.
Compared with the isolation in action, what really makes people feel elusive is the mind of Personality No. 5. They built a wall in their hearts, or to be precise, a Great Wall to prevent others from prying into their hearts. It is difficult for you to see the joy, anger, sorrow, and joy on their faces. Even if you see a change in expression, it may be an extremely limited aspect that they deliberately showed you.
No. 5 personality person has a unique habit when dealing with interpersonal relationships-divide his life into different quarantine areas, each area contains friends from different circles, and they will not introduce people from different areas to each other . Interestingly, the content of their conversations with people in different areas often does not overlap too much. In other words, friends in each area can only see one side of Personality 5. This is still a part of their true self after careful calculation. Except for a very small number of familiar acquaintances, personality No. 5 will not let others know the complete self, and even only let the other person see their modified image.
They worked so hard to ensure that they have a space to be alone and release their suppressed emotions without scruples. They will also meditate and recharge silently here, and accumulate the knowledge and strength to solve the next problem. Although the No. 5 personality is easy to leave a sad and lonely impression on people, they never think so. On the contrary, they do not feel lonely, but enjoy the pleasure of not being disturbed by human relations and mundane things.
What troubles other people today is that Personality No. 5 not only has layers of defense, likes to avoid public attention, but is also afraid of having too close relationships with others.
The basic defensive psychology of personality number 5 is not to focus on feelings. The reason why they always maintain an almost indifferent reason,It's because I withdrew myself from my feelings. They are also human beings, and they are eager to have sincere feelings, but they do not trust them. When Personality No. 5 is alone, he will have a strong miss for those close to him. But when they really met, their thoughts and feelings seemed to be sealed, and they couldn't find their own feelings. Only when alone, can the No. 5 personality be the true self, because that is the safe state where they can let go of all their guards.
However, personality number 5 is not without affection. It's just that their emotional processing methods are quite special, first they appreciate each other on the spiritual level, and then on the emotional level. They will not easily make promises, but as long as they make a promise, they will give each other a feeling that can stand the test of time. Because they like to save life energy, they will only deliver their feelings to selected and trustworthy objects.
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