I don’t know when it started, melon-shaped face, double eyelids, big eyes, thin waist, long legs... became everyone’s definition of beauty.
It is understood that many teenagers face varying degrees of "appearance anxiety".
and surveys show that every winter and summer vacation and graduation season, students will have plastic surgery. The post-00s generation has become the main force in medical beauty consumption.
In order to become beautiful, more and more people are embarking on the road of "plastic surgery". I believe you have heard such a voice:
"I have gained weight again, I won't have dinner today."
"I have single eyelids not good-looking, I'll get double eyelids."
"My nose bridge is not straight enough, I want to put a nose on it." ...
Speaking of which, there are actually many people around me, and it seems that they have long-term or intermittent "appearance anxiety".
I wonder if this sound has also appeared around you, or are you also deeply involved in it?
In the editor's opinion, moderate anxiety can make us grow, and excessive anxiety can only make us suffer.
This era of "looking at faces", in fact, "appearance anxiety" is just a microcosm of various anxiety in our lives.
So how can we let go of our obsession with appearance and improve our acceptance of ourselves?
Actively control the source of anxiety
Social psychologist George Herbert Mead mentioned in "Mirror Self-Theory" that people regard others' attitudes towards themselves as mirrors and know themselves through this "mirror".
. Some people are particularly susceptible to others' evaluations and attitudes, and are overly expected to be recognized by others, which is affected by the popular monotonous aesthetic, which in turn creates appearance anxiety.
So, if you feel anxious about your appearance, you might as well try to stay away from them.
Leave the environment that causes self-denial or others, pay more attention to things that make you happy, and actively regulate your emotions.
Avoid falling into self-frustration mode
Psychologist Adler put forward a core point when studying individual psychology: "Everyone has inferiority , but the form of expression is different"!
In life, there are always some people who feel that they are not good enough and have many flaws, especially when compared with other people's beauty, they feel that they are not bad enough, they have no advantages and are not as good as others at all.
Some people even don’t know their beauty, just like the well-known celebrity Zhang Meng , you should have plastic surgery for love.
not only has the face swollen, but the filler is also particularly obvious. Even the smooth lines on the face disappeared, which ruined my acting career.
Everyone is unique and has their own unique beauty.
Don’t always look at yourself from the perspective of self-frustration. Even if you have good conditions, you will still discover those "bad" things at the first time, and then create endless anxiety.
Try to change your perspective, focus on unique and beautiful places, affirm and encourage yourself, and your anxiety will also decrease.
Imperfection is the most unique
Psychologists have found that the life that most people pursue is not only happy, but also perfect - and this is exactly why most people are unhappy.
When everyone is still anxious about appearance, Lamu Yangzi emerged.
She has nothing to do with her good-looking appearance, with small eyes, a round and fleshy face, a bad figure, and a squishy body all over her body. If you can't achieve "white and young", you will still be confident.
's hot purpose became popular, allowing everyone to have more scrutiny of their figure and appearance!
This also tells us that in this world, no one is perfect, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and these add up to be the real person.
And reality is the best thing, the real you are also the most unique you, so we don’t need to pursue perfection desperately and ignore the originally beautiful selves.
As an individual, we must know what we really want inside and what life we want is like. After all, the imperfection of the body does not mean the imperfection of the psychological world and spiritual life.
You should truly love yourself, choose the happiest way of life, and live enthusiastically and freely~
