When I was browsing Xiaohongshu, I often saw many self-discipline notes, 21-day self-discipline plan, completely changing myself in 30 days, and 100 days I lived to be the envy of others ... Seeing these popular sharing, many people began to get ready.
Reading can change yourself, so I bought a lot of books at once, but several months have passed, and I haven't finished reading a single book, so I'm left to the shelf, and I sighed very hard when I moved;
Fitness exercise can shape my body, I'm very smart without spending a lot of money to apply for a fitness card, I got a fitness software, and I collected all the popular exercise tutorials, and never opened them again;
Writing can make money, I have collected some writing book lists and writing websites, but I have never typed a keyboard or written a word...
Self-discipline is difficult, but once you treat self-discipline as a habit, it will be really good. The more books I read, the smoother the articles I write, and the higher the income...
Now I write, read, and learn skills every day... This kind of self-discipline brings me a great sense of accomplishment.
Regarding how to maintain self-discipline, we should maintain self-discipline in those things. We cannot share 4 small things that are effective in personal testing (habits).
.ONE.Continuous learning
01 Read more
Just like the TED "The Power of Reading" says that Reading may not completely change a person's life, but over time, it can indeed make you a person who is free, courageous, has ideas, and knows how to think.
I may have read 1-2 books a month before. Although I can't read more than a dozen books a month like others, it's quite easy for me to keep reading 5 books a month.
In the past two years, I have read not 100 books, and there are more than 80 books. I have learned a lot of new ideas, recorded a lot of reading notes, and even wrote articles much smoother.
02 Have a skill that can continue to deepen
Remember Jay Chou said: "Having one's own skill is more important than education."
No one is born to know what they like and what they are good at. Those so-called special skills that can open up gaps are all formed through acquired learning and exploration. Many times, after doing things for a long time, it will become a love and your skill .
If you like PPT, then go and read more courses and see more other people’s excellent works; if you like photography, then learn more about composition and take more photos...
I seem to have found another interest in my recent days: iPad Drawing. I went to find a lot of brushes, a lot of line drawings to learn to control the pen, and also collected a lot of tutorial videos. After persisting for a few days, I feel that it is really good to relieve the pressure. I hope I can persevere.
03 Learn English
Because of the experiences of the people around me, I have a very real feeling: people with good English have more opportunities than ordinary people. So, if you have the opportunity, take the time to learn English.
Memorize words, read the original book, listen to English speeches, read Chinese and English speeches.... It can improve your knowledge and broaden your horizons and improve your English level.
.TWO. Make money to make a living
I often see this sentence on the Internet, and I think what I say makes sense: "80% of the difficulties in life can be solved with money, and the remaining 20% can also be alleviated by money."
"You will understand the embarrassment in life, only if you lack money once." Improve your work ability and strive for promotion and salary increase. If you have more time, follow the trend of "must-have side jobs" and strive to get a second income.
Before, I shared the experience of making money in Zhihu , Youdao dictionary, and Xiaohongshu on my official account.Less pretentious when you have nothing to do, go and see more when you have time. When you take action and get substantial returns, the numbers in the bank card will grow little by little, and the confidence in your heart will increase little by little.
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. THREE. Love yourself and please yourself
01 Go to bed early
Chen Ami once said: " Staying up late cannot solve any problem, but instead makes pessimism rage in the middle of the night." In the world of adults, there are always constant pressure and countless troubles. Staying up late can't solve it, it will only overdraw your health, so you can go to bed early if you have nothing to do.
02 Don’t talk about consuming your love, don’t fall in love brain
I have talked about a three-year consuming love. I feel uncomfortable, pleased, and afraid of breaking up, mainly because I am afraid that I can’t find a better one after the breakup. Now I look back at that relationship, and even when I fall asleep, I remember to slap myself twice.
When a relationship makes you feel uncomfortable, you should learn to cut the mess quickly, and if you break it, you will break it. This is my experience in love brain for 43 years. I hope all sisters have more courage than me.
03 Stop internal consumption
There is a question on Zhihu that I have been following for a long time: "What is the root cause of a person's tiredness in life?" There is a highly praised answer that says this:
"It's not a problem of ability, not a problem of appearance, but a failure to handle the relationship with ourselves."
We live very tired and feel very painful. Sometimes it does not depend on the matter itself, but on the conflict in our hearts. We always care about other people's evaluations, demand perfection, regret, self-blame, entanglement, anxiety...
, and the best way to get rid of internal friction is: action. Thinking is always a question, and only doing can lead to answers.
04 Keep your mouth open and your legs
Eat less sugar, drink less milk tea, and exercise more. When you have a healthy body, have a strong figure, have less troubles caused by sub-health, and have gained a lot of envious eyes, this is probably the pleasure brought to you by self-discipline.
. FOUR. Simple life
01 Don’t argue for right or wrong, get less trouble
Zeng Guofan said: "You should not act with your heart, and you should not speak with your mouth."
When you were young and energetic, we were keen on various debates, but the older we grew up, the more we found that some debates were consumption, which was a trouble in life and emotions. If you have different values, you will never be able to convince or argue with the gangsters. No matter how you lose.
Control your mouth well, cause less trouble, and live your life well, which is the top self-discipline for adults.
02 Stop short-term pleasure
Don’t watch short videos anymore, and don’t be addicted to playing games. Although these can make you forget the current worries for the time being, once you stop, your inner emptiness, confusion and anxiety will double down, making you more afraid of the future.
Delete too many social software, game software, and shopping software on your phone, quit short-term pleasure, read more books, write, and go out for a walk if you have nothing to do.
03 Leave
Happiness is not what you have what you want, but cherish what you have. I bought a lot of clothes and bags late at night; I bought a lot of small ornaments when shopping because of my appearance; I always bought some promotional products with the word "it can always be used in the future"...
Many people like to shop wildly, but they are unwilling to clean up physics, and have a strong obsession with items. And In fact, cleaning up items is to clear away distracting thoughts in your heart.
Change your life state by throwing away unnecessary things, clothes you don’t wear, shoes you don’t wear, and expired cosmetics.
Subtract matter and add spirit, leaving limited space for more important things.
Finally, I quote a sentence from Laozi : "Those who defeat others are powerful, and those who defeat themselves are strong." The so-called true strength of a person is not to defeat others, but to defeat himself.
or above, encourage them together.
