"I would rather persuade gambling than prostitutes" means that you can persuade gambling people to stop, and not persuade one person to quit prostitutes. Both are bad habits that violate social public order and good customs . Why can the former persuade the latter not?
Why can you persuade "bet"?
gambling is explicitly banned in our country. Although it was not explicitly banned in ancient times, no one regarded this as a good thing. If a man who likes to gambling will sooner or later be the ending of his family's family being ruined. The so-called " small gambling is good for love, big gambling is harmful to the body" is just the self-comfort of people who love gambling. Very few ordinary people can escape from the gambling table. "Nine out of ten gamblings" is the norm.
A person participates in gambling, and they all start with small gambling. After tastes the sweetness, it will not be possible to get . If you win today, you want to win again tomorrow. If you lose the day after tomorrow, you think about making a profit. Then you get deeper and deeper. The small gambling of becomes a big gambling, and the bet is to lose everything and lose your family and lose your family. Throughout history, there have been countless examples of the word "gambling" changing a lifetime.
In "Wulin Waizhi", Bai Zhantang showed off his gambling skills and felt good about himself. When he met Jiuzhi Xuanyuan, he was educated hard, and eventually lost a lot. In the novel " Living ", the protagonist Fugui also had a similar experience. He lingered on the gambling table all day long, and all the wealth left by the landlord's father lost all the money, and eventually ended up in the bankruptcy of .
Why can we persuade gambling?
One is because gambling is illegal , and it is a reasonable and legal good thing to persuade people to quit gambling. Needless to say, modern society's attitude towards gambling is not to mention. Even in ancient times, there were strict restrictions on gambling. For example, in the early Ming Dynasty, the beggar-born , Zhu Yuanzhang, , hated gambling very much and once formulated strict laws to prohibit it. "Gathering Gambling" will not only lead to sentences, but in severe cases, they will directly chop off their hands. To persuade people to quit gambling is equivalent to saving people from water and fire.
2 is gambling does not involve privacy , and is often a secret that is open between friends, which has the basis of admonition. At the beginning of gambling, you often win money. At this time, you have to brag about it. If you win money but others don’t know it, wouldn’t it be like walking in the night in brocade clothes? But losing nine out of ten bets is an inevitable result. I advise my friends to stop as soon as possible to avoid the ending of family destruction, which means saving a family. Saving a life is better than building a seven-level pagoda, let alone saving a family?
Many people know the dangers of gambling, and they also know that most of them lose if they continue to be gambling for a long time, but many times is deeply trapped in it and cannot control themselves . Therefore, if you advise your friends to quit gambling, the other party will understand your good intentions and will not turn against each other. If you can successfully persuade them, it will be a great thing with great merits in , and it will definitely make your friends remember them.
Why can’t we persuade you to “prostitution”?
In modern times, prostitution is like gambling, which is despised by others. However, in ancient times, people had different ideas and their tolerance for "prostitution" is significantly higher than that of "gambling", because this belongs to personal affairs , and in ancient times it was also a legal behavior of , and even left many beautiful stories about talented men and beautiful women.
In ancient times, women had a low status and it was not shameful for men to go to brothels. Some literati and scholars even regarded going to romantic things as a way to social networking. This is the social atmosphere. Many people are still looking forward to encountering the good thing of "talented men are worthy of beautiful women", so naturally no one will persuade them. Just like Du Mu also wrote "Ten years of dreams of Yangzhou, winning the reputation of being a brothel." She has been living in brothels for decades. Not only did she not receive any criticism, she also wrote poems to memorize .
In addition, ancient marriages paid attention to "Parents' Destiny and Matchmaker's Words" . There is almost no chance for couples to meet and cultivate feelings before getting married. If they are lucky, they may also respect each other as guests. If they are not lucky, they will marry a woman they don't like . Many people will throw their wives at home and become frequent visitors of the place of love.
In ancient patriarchal society, "prostitution" was a legal act, and it involved the love between men and women, which were all personal matters. If someone dissuaded at this time, the nature was a bit similar to "breaking up a couple". Not only would it not get any benefits, but it was also complained. After all, there was an saying in ancient times that "it would rather demolish ten temples than destroy a marriage" .
In addition, for the "prostitution" matter, no matter what, involves personal privacy . Few people will show off everywhere that they are in love with a woman. If they hear the wind and go to persuade them rashly, on the one hand, the other party will definitely not admit it even if they beat them to death. On the other hand, it is equivalent to making this matter public. Not only may the persuasion be unsuccessful, it may also be counterproductive. In the end, has no friends to do .
Based on these reasons, persuading "prostitution" is not like persuading "gambling", which will be considered good-willed by the other party. The greater possibility is that they will be considered to be interfering in privacy, and then become enemies. Therefore, there is still the second half of the sentence "persuading gambling but not persuading prostitution", that is, "persuading prostitution and not interfering with each other" , which is likely to never interact with each other.
now wants to "persuade prostitution and gamble"
time has changed. Although the sayings passed down by ancient people are some wisdom in dealing with people, many of them are not suitable for in modern society. Just like gambling and prostitution, they are now illegal. When you encounter friends around you, you must quickly dissuade them. It is naturally a good thing to be able to save your friends. If the persuasion is not successful, it just happens that can separate the relationship between these fox friends and these friends .
In addition, we should also correctly understand the ancient saying, "It is better to persuade gambling than to persuade prostitution" is not to say that prostitution is better than gambling , but because of the difficulty of persuading, it is much more difficult to persuade prostitution than to persuade prostitution, so this philosophy of "persuading gambling but not to persuade prostitution" has emerged.
gambling, losing all your money; prostitution, separation of your wife and children! Today, these two are bad behaviors that lead to family misfortune. We must always be vigilant. must not be blinded by desire. . If you should persuade, you should persuade. There is no greater thing to return to good deeds when you are lost. Seven emotions and six desires is human nature. Born as human beings, we cannot be dominated by desires and disturb our minds by the colorful world. Instead, we should strengthen our own cultivation and be the masters of desires.
"Do not do good because of small good, do not do evil because of small evil." Many bad habits in life started with lucky mentality , such as pornography, gambling, drugs, and always feel that you have strong will. Try it without any impact. Driven by curiosity, I tried it once, and then I became addicted to and couldn't extricate myself, so I fell deeper and deeper until I was doomed. made mistakes in one step and mistakes , which eventually made me have no room for turning around in my life. At that time, I wanted to change but had no chance to .
is actually not just gambling and prostitution. eating, drinking, betting and smoking is recognized as the "five poisons" . Don't get involved in these bad habits. When you encounter similar signs of friends, you must dissuade them in time. This may save him and his family. Even if you break up for this, it doesn't matter. If you can't resist the temptation and get along with your friends, the final result is likely to be jailed by , , be friends outside, and be inmates inside, and be good friends for life!
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