The hot food is rising and the atmosphere is tense. Wang Lingjia lowered her head and didn't say anything, waiting for another quarrel.
The first to launch the attack was the 8-year-old girl, and her opponent was a grandmother in her 60s. Grandma picked up the food for the girl and put it in her small bowl, "I don't want it!" The girl was taught by her mother since she was a child to eat with public chopsticks. She looked at her grandma's chopsticks and refused bluntly. "I raised you so big, what bacteria can there be?" Grandma began to be dissatisfied, and the grandparents and grandchildren refused to give in.
Sharp words fell into Wang Lingjia's ears. She lowered her body and wanted to hide under the dining table. This is the 6th day of her 23-year-old as a nanny. Whenever conflicts that have nothing to do with her occur, she always uses silence to resist the crisis. "Talk less and do more" is a compulsory course taught by the aunts in the company.
Last year, Wang Lingjia graduated from a second-tier university in Nanning . When she worked as a customer service specialist in Dongguan , she earned 5,000 yuan a month, rested alone, and worked overtime often. In June this year, she was attracted by the post of the nanny at home, which said that her monthly salary could exceed 10,000 yuan. When she came, she realized that reconciling the contradictions was also heartbreaking.
"It's for money." This is the reason why Wang Lingjia persisted and the main reason why most respondents chose to engage in this industry.
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【1】Show Ma Wei
In the collective dormitory of a housekeeping company in Shenzhen, the youngest Wang Lingjia became the focus of the aunts. "You are so young and have such a high education, why do you do it?" Wang Lingjia smiled and said, "For the money." The aunts didn't give up and pulled her to tell her a lot of bitterness in this journey. Wang Lingjia remembers that an aunt was asked to wipe the floor piece by piece in a house of more than 400 square meters. But Wang Lingjia was mentally prepared for these things.
6 In June, after 10 days of training, Wang Lingjia attended a customer meeting organized by a housekeeping company. The lobby on the first floor was full of people, and dozens of aunts sat next to the client. The client proposed the conditions, and the aunt who met the conditions could raise her hands and then have a one-on-one interview.
A client came up and asked if there was any bachelor's degree. Only Wang Lingjia and another girl who graduated from a normal university raised their hands.
Wang Lingjia is cheerful and loves to play. When I was in school, I would ride an electric bike out for a while and eat all the internet celebrity foods in Nanning. The couple who came to the interview were the boss of a company. The daughter was 8 years old and was also lively and cheerful. They fell in love with Wang Lingjia at a glance. The monthly salary of 8,000 yuan in the agreement is Wang Lingjia’s largest income after graduation. After the interview with
, she went to the bookstore to buy two recipes and an children's psychology tutoring book, and made full preparations for this high-paying job. But when she arrived at the client's house, she was still stunned.
intermediary organization meeting. Photo provided by the interviewee
For the convenience of his daughter's school, the client rented a three-bedroom and one-living room near the school, living in a family of three and the grandmother of the child. Only a small storage room was left for Wang Lingjia. The room includes a 1-meter-wide bed and various debris. In this room, the space she can move is only two steps wide, and opposite the window is another building next to it. When the lights are turned on at night, a figure will appear on the sliding door containing frosted glass . "No privacy at all." Wang Lingjia was a little disappointed.
A nanny like her, who has a bachelor's degree, is young, knows English, and is even proficient in piano painting. Originally, she just wanted to find a shortcut to make money, but when she came in, she found that it was not easy to tutor her children's homework and deal with various conflicts between clients' homes.
For example, this lunch told at the beginning, although Wang Lingjia tried to remain silent, the 8-year-old girl did not let her go. "Sister comes to judge." Wang Lingjia gritted her teeth and squeezed out a smile and became a peacemaker. "If you don't want to eat that piece, just put it next to you and eat your own." Grandma didn't say anything, but was dissatisfied on her face.
"How do I judge such a thing?" Wang Lingjia said helplessly afterwards. After that day, grandma became more picky about her and expressed her dissatisfaction with all kinds of trivial matters. Wang Lingjia was suppressed by words and could not find a chance to breathe.
is uncomfortable, which is Zhang Xinyue’s summary of this nanny’s life.
The client's home is in the suburbs of Beijing, with two villas, one for self-occupied and the other for drivers, chefs and nannies. In mid-January, Zhang Xinyue became the private nanny of a 6-year-old girl and lived with the girl. A four-story villa with a basement, and many luxury cars. This is a scene that Zhang Xinyue only watched in the TV series. The girl and her grandmother live on the second floor, and Zhang Xinyue needs to be responsible for the girl's diet, daily life and hygiene on the second floor.
Last year, she graduated from a municipal key university in Tianjin. After failing the national exam, she worked as a nanny to earn living expenses. She was also attracted by a family in Beijing because of her education. As soon as she arrived at the client's house, she noticed the camera everywhere in the room, but at first, she thought it was just a tool for supervision, and no one would stare at the surveillance camera if nothing happened.
One morning, Zhang Xinyue went to her grandma's room to get something and caught a glimpse of the scene in the girl's room playing on her computer screen. She felt a chill on her spine. Since then, when telling the girl to get up, Zhang Xinyue will always remind herself to be gentler.
【2】Attractive
For 25-year-old Zhou Ye, being a living nanny is somewhat helpless.
She was born in a small county in Guangdong. She is withdrawn and used to being alone. The university's city is adjacent to her hometown, which makes her faster and tired of it. "What's the use of guarding that acre of three-point land?" She spoke softly with a Guangdong accent. When she said this, her speech speed was faster and she was particularly excited.
When she was in college, she had done business, delivered takeaway, and spent her spare time in various part-time jobs. But after graduation, her colleges and universities were ordinary, and she repeatedly encountered obstacles when looking for a job.
"I forced myself so hard, isn't it just to prepare for wandering around the world?" Later, under the introduction of her parents, she entered an internship in an accounting firm in her hometown.
Accounting, tax filing, auditing, which was originally a decent job, but the pressure was also great. The leader next to her kept urging her, and at 11 pm, she dragged her tired body home. Remove , five insurances and one fund, and , Zhou Ye can only get an internship salary of more than 1,000 yuan a month.
"I work overtime every day, and I am not as high as others have a higher salary." Once, the leader's cousin went to the office to do business, and Zhou Ye noticed the young nanny behind her. During the chat, she learned that nowadays, nannies only need to take care of their children and can earn 7,000 yuan a month.
has not become a regular employee in the past year, so Zhou Ye resigned.
In October 2021, she carried her suitcase to Shanghai and squeezed into a single room with two Henan girls looking for a job together. I submitted my resume all my books, but there was no news, and I could only rely on scattered part-time jobs to support my life. A month later, she thought of the young nanny.
Publish your resume online to promote yourself, and Zhou Ye eventually became the private nanny of a two-year-old boy. But on the large flat floor in the center of Shanghai, she not only had to take care of her younger brother, but also had to feed her 8-year-old brother when eating. After the family finished eating, she and other aunts were able to eat in the kitchen. "Every day is full of cabbage." The food was not nutritious and high-intensity labor caused Zhou Ye's body to change, his face turned pale and his head was dizzy.
complementary food made by Zhou Ye. Photo provided by the interviewee
"If I mind, I won't do this industry. Now, don't think that white-collar workers are very glamorous in the office, their salary is only three to four thousand. I am a very real person. I don't have an indecent job, only a job that can save money." Faced with the ravines when I first entered the industry, Zhou Ye forced himself to endure it.
Compared with Zhou Ye, 32-year-old Zhao Nanxi has more choices.
Zhao Nanxi's home is in a small border town in Heilongjiang. After graduating from university in 2012, she traveled in Beijing for two years and returned to teach in a public primary school in the small town. Because she was excluded by the parent committee, she resigned from her teaching position and opened a training institution after two years of work.
This year is Zhao Nanxi's sixth year of entrepreneurship. The training institution has recruited more than 200 students. "At my scale, I can lie flat until I grow old in my hometown."
8 years in a small town, the flames of going out have never been extinguished. Zhao Nanxi couldn't stand the rigid teaching methods in the small town. The ancient poem was written incorrectly. The teacher asked the students to copy them constantly, "one mistake was punished by five", "one mistake was punished by one hundred", which was a word she could not imagine when she was studying in the Chinese department. "There are even more extreme teachers who asked you to draw the grid of characters on paper. If you can't make a mistake, you will have to punish you."
She has seen a third-grade child who doesn't write homework and doesn't listen to class, and completely puts it on. "It's terrible that there are 5 such children in a class. "Zhao Nanxi also made a fucking slack, and her weight increased from 100 kilograms to 136 kilograms. She was just playing games in class, "It was really depressing. "
In February this year, she closed the training institution and decided to go out. It was also on social media that Zhao Nanxi saw a post about a nanny at home. She was attracted by the conditions of food and accommodation in big cities, "I need some time to try opportunities and lay the foundation. "
【3】Soiled
8's teacher experience made Zhao Nanxi stand out among the competitors. In May this year, she quickly signed a contract with a client in Hangzhou, promising a monthly salary of 8,000 yuan, and only caring for children.
In recent years, whether it is an intermediary company, a client or a nanny, they have reached a consensus tacitly - housework is not the focus of nanny with a bachelor's degree, but the work boundaries of this industry are blurred, and these nannies will encounter more challenges.
According to " First Financial ", with the acceleration of family miniaturization and population aging in Chinese society, coupled with the implementation of the two-child policy and three-child policy, a large number of potential demands for housekeeping services have been created.
iMedia Consulting data shows that from 2015 to 2020, the market size of China's government service industry has grown steadily year by year, reaching 878.2 billion yuan in 2020, and increased by about 26.0% year-on-year. In 2021, the data has increased to 1.0149 trillion yuan, and the market size of the housekeeping market is expected to reach 1.089 trillion yuan in 2022. Among them, more and more highly educated talents are involved in the housekeeping industry.
books bought by Wang Lingjia. Photo provided by the interviewee
Zhao Nanxi's client's home lives in , Gongshu District, , with a large flat floor of more than 500 square meters, and the nanny room is equipped with independent bathrooms. The 5-year-old boy is simple and cute. When he met for the first time, he asked Zhao Nanxi: "Can you sing "The Lonely Brave"? "The little boy was speechless, but he sang hard, and the two became friends after singing.
But this way of taking care of the children made her unable to bear it. For example, the parents were busy with work and went home only at 11 or 2 o'clock. Before Zhao Nanxi came, they often took their children to have midnight snacks after get off work. The children could not bear it, and their dark circles hung on their noses, and they always complained that their stomach hurt. During the May Day holiday, the parents took their children out, and the air conditioning temperature in the hotel was too low, and the child caught a cold, and his nose couldn't stop flowing.
"I have never raised a child myself, but I know what parents should look like, and what kind of monsters are they. "Zhao Nanxi couldn't stand it and offered to sleep with the child. At 8 o'clock in the evening, she took the child to bed to read picture books, and at 8:30, the child fell asleep.
At 7 o'clock in the morning, she prepared breakfast and asked the child to get up, and took the subway to kindergarten together. On the subway, the child would curiously ask what the words on various road signs were. During that time, he knew a lot of words.
With Zhao Nanxi's company, the child was slowly changing. When she first came, the child punched and kicked his mother because he didn't eat hot dog , and she told the child, "It's wrong to do this. If you love your mother, you must be gentle to her. "Zhao Nanxi discovered that since then, he really rarely lost his temper. The child loves exercise, and Zhao Nanxi accompanied him to learn surfing , take basketball classes, play real CS, and go to the farm to barbecue.
"Children are very healing. "During that time, Zhao Nanxi was the closest companion for boys.
is similar to Zhao Nanxi, and Hou Na's source of achievements is also a child.
23-year-old graduated from a preschool education major in a university in Guangxi. In March this year, she came to Shenzhen to work as a nanny.
The family she serves has three children, a 5-year-old sister and a pair of two and a half-year-old twins, each of which has his own nanny. Hou Na is responsible for the younger brother of the twins.
5-year-old sister has a weird temper and often hits people. On the first day of her household, Hou Na was bitten by her sister. Her sister didn't like her two younger brothers, so she often hit them and was not allowed to enter her room. Her younger brother was introverted and afraid of contact with people. When she was in a bad mood, she cried from 9 o'clock to 11 o'clock.
During that time, Hou Na and her younger brother were in a hurry to go to the bathroom. She took her younger brother to read picture books and did cognitive training assigned by the teacher. She often talked to him when she went out to play, and said whatever she saw.Once on a trip, my younger brother sat in the car and looked out the window and suddenly said, "The mixer truck is walking forward." The mother was surprised and happy, and quickly sent a message to Hou Na: "The baby is talking. He never said anything before."
This is the most proud thing in Hou Na's nanny career in half a year.
【4】Resignation
But in Hou Na's eyes, the twins' father is a person who is not angry and powerful. He is busy with work and has little time to stay at home, but if he is a little unhappy, his face will become dark. "When I saw that he looked bad, I knew that this was definitely wrong," said Hou Na.
Once, I feed my younger brother to dinner. My younger brother kept making trouble and waved his hands constantly. When my father saw it, he said to Hou Na angrily, "Why are you doing this? Don't feed it like this." Hou Na quickly put away the spoon and comforted her younger brother in her arms. "There is no way, I have to listen to him anyway." Hou Na said that she was glad that she had not been scolded by customers for three months after serving Jingxiaoshenwei.
In the family served by Zhang Xinyue, her grandmother has a bad temper and often quarrels with her 6-year-old granddaughter.
Once lunch, grandma wanted to ask granddaughter to eat more, "You gave me the rice!" grandma said, "I won't eat." granddaughter resisted. As they were talking, the two started yelling, the child cried, and Zhang Xinyue came out of the kitchen and picked her up to comfort her. The more the grandma was quarreling, she grabbed a handful of noodles and threw them over, which just hit Zhang Xinyue in the face.
Zhang Xinyue was stunned for a moment, picked up the tissue on the table, and wiped it while advising grandma not to be angry, "She probably just made a gesture, but she didn't expect it to happen. Of course she wouldn't apologize to me." After grandma vented and left the dining table, the farce ended.
"There is a little depressing there." Although Zhang Xinyue got along well with the girl, she chose to leave two months later. Now, she works as an art teacher in an elementary school in Tianjin, and seems to have more dignity in the school.
Wang Lingjia has never been able to reconcile the small friction between her grandmother and granddaughter, and it is difficult to find a balance between the different requirements of her grandmother and mother. She left after working for 10 days. "I don't live in home now. I only go to day shifts and I am more free. I will quit my job in March next year to take the postgraduate entrance examination."
The work content of the nanny at home is not fixed, and the work effect is often based on the customer's subjective judgment. Zhao Nanxi works quickly, but the customers can't stand her idleness and often give her some miscellaneous work.
Some time ago, the client opened a coffee shop. The original three baristas resigned due to personal reasons, so the client wanted Zhao Nanxi to go to the coffee shop to help. "I thought I would give me some expenses, but the style changed later." Zhao Nanxi said in disbelief.
She refused and caused another trouble. Once, Zhao Nanxi was cooking shrimps in the kitchen, and the customer suddenly asked her to learn how to drive, hoping that she could drive to pick up and drop off her children in the future. Zhao Nanxi agreed and said that he would go after cooking the shrimp. The client was angry and pulled her to ask, "Do you think you have any experience in the past two months?" Zhao Nanxi knew in her heart that the other party would not let her go, "My biggest gain is that I have a good time with my child." She said kindly.
"You are too conceited. You live so comfortable and not motivated at a young age." The other party's accusations kept pouring into Zhao Nanxi's ears. Finally, the client said that the aunt who did housework was not going to invite him again, and wanted Zhao Nanxi to take on all the housework at home. Zhao Nanxi couldn't accept it, so he resigned.
Zhao Nanxi's resume is still popular. Five days later, she was valued by the wealthy people in Shanghai. She only had to take care of a 5-year-old boy, her monthly salary increased to 20,000 yuan, and she did not have to do housework. "This job depends on your own attention. If others recognize you, you will be given a high salary." Zhao Nanxi said.
The days of eating cabbage lasted for 37 days, and Zhou Ye finally resigned because his body could not bear it. In order to make money, she took almost every order. During the two years she worked as a nanny, she had seen all kinds of customers, and her idea of leaving became clearer. She had a good cooking skills and wanted to open a restaurant by herself. But in order to make up for the cost, Zhou Ye still has to rise and fall in the nanny industry.
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(At the request of the interviewee, all the names in the article are pseudonyms)
