The love of parents for their children is considered to be one of the greatest loves in the world. Since many parents learned about the existence of this little life, they have used various expressions and practical actions to show their care and love for their children. Although in this process, parents will inevitably make some mistakes and cause their children to suffer a certain amount of harm, the love in their hearts will always exist.
But love alone is not enough. If there is no correct guidance and education for children, it is likely that children will develop some wrong values, which will affect their future and even affect the relationship between parents and children. .
Every family is different, and the children’s growth backgrounds are also different. But as a parent, it doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to educate yourself. You must know more about parenting and guide your children to do the right things from an early age. .
If you don’t have the correct education methods, and you are not willing to learn humbly and patiently ask for advice, and just guide according to your own ideas, the results may not necessarily be pleasing to the eye. For example, this is the case with the protagonist of our article.
They are a father and daughter, but they caused an uproar on the Internet because of a video shot by their mother. Some netizens expressed support, while others opposed it, and even directly pointed out that the behavior between the father and daughter was a bit excessive, down to the specific details. So what exactly is in this video? What did this father and daughter do that aroused widespread discussion?
In the video, the teenage daughter and her father have a considerable height difference, which is actually very common. But in order to show the loving interaction between parent and child, the girl put her arms around her father's neck and kept acting coquettishly. Although the gentle tone did make people feel the girl's cuteness, the daughter's next behavior was a bit puzzling.
Although she was wearing a miniskirt, she always wanted to jump on her father's body and clamp her father's waist with her legs. Putting aside the fact that she was already a teenager, whether her father could bear her weight? Even if he could, he wouldn't be able to hold on for long with his legs clamped around his waist. Does she still want her father to hold her butt? And teenage children should have a certain sense of independence. Isn't it not good to still be so dependent on their father? Even if the relationship is good, they can't have so much close contact with their father, right?
As they continued to watch, everyone realized that the girl really wanted to let her father hug her. Maybe she saw that she couldn't do it after trying hard, so she simply stretched out her legs and asked her father to pick her up.
Attentive netizens discovered that when the girl wanted her father to pick her up, the father first kissed his daughter on the cheek, probably to comfort her, and then when he wanted to continue kissing her on the mouth, he inadvertently discovered The mother was facing the father and daughter with her mobile phone, probably taking a video, so the father did not continue his original behavior, but his and his daughter's bodies were still tightly together.
Regarding the comments from netizens, the mother who shot this video did not make any reply. We don’t know the reason why. Just from the mother's move, some people speculated that the mother may not think there is anything wrong with the interaction between her husband and daughter. In her opinion, they are a family that loves each other, and the accusations from netizens are completely unfounded. Unreasonable. So there is no need for her to waste time competing with netizens on the Internet, as long as her family is happy.
Every parent has a different way of expressing love for their children, which is understandable, but there must be certain norms and guidelines in the process of getting along.For example, the father Zhang Liang, who was once famous for " Where Are We Going, Dad? ", once expressed in a variety show that he also loves his daughter very much, but when he kisses his daughter, he will consider some things that are more likely to be ignored. Parts that are accepted by children and everyone and are not easily misunderstood by everyone, such as forehead, back of hands, etc. As for the mouth, he will never kiss it.
In today’s society, many fathers no longer hold the idea of “preferring sons over daughters”, which is actually a good thing. But you can't spoil your daughter either. Some fathers like their daughters too much, so they show their love to their daughters according to their own ideas, but they do not use the appropriate method.
If this continues, it is likely that children will develop some wrong values and even affect their mental health development. So what is a more appropriate way to do it? When should I start to maintain an appropriate distance from my daughter?
In fact, when a girl is three years old, she has to consciously keep a certain distance from her, because three years old is exactly when she enters the stage of germination of sexual consciousness. Then at the age of 12, as the girl develops physically and psychologically, the father must pay more attention to the distance between him and his daughter. This does not mean that you should have contact with your daughter, but that you should have a measured contact. Only in this way can children form correct values. Of course, this is not only the case between father and daughter, but also between mother and son.
