You are not just Zifang’s mother, you are also Sun Sanniang. Yes, besides being the mother of your child, you are still yourself. You don’t belong to anyone, you only belong to yourself.
Sun Sanniang devoted herself to her family and her son, lived frugally, worked hard, and her life got better and better. However, her husband divorced his wife and still Encouraging her son to disown his mother and not want her, she was so heartbroken that she jumped into the river. . It was Zhao Pan'er who discovered her, and Gu Qianfan saved her despite being seriously injured. Later, in Tokyo, he and Zhao Paner opened a teahouse and made fruits together, and met Du Changfeng. They didn't know each other until they started fighting. Later, Sun Sanniang was a kindhearted person and helped Master Du. After a while, they got together. This is her rebirth, finally meeting the right person. He even managed to win Fengguanxiapei on his own and live a better life.
If she really wanted to die by jumping into the river, there would be no Sun Sanniang later.
After giving birth to a child, many mothers only see the child's cry, the child's innocent smile, the child's growth, the child's food, clothing, housing, and transportation, and the child's education. Everything is done for the sake of the children, washing, cooking, cleaning, and working around the stove. There is no time to dress up or travel. Some just have endless housework to do, working hard, taking care of everything, and being omnipotent, as if they are a warrior, protecting everyone in the family.
But often such good women who devote themselves wholeheartedly to their families do not have a good ending. Either the husband is cheating, or the marriage is in crisis and there are problems in the marriage. So men still confidently find reasons for their cheating, saying who makes you so strong, who makes you look like a yellow-faced woman, who makes you grumpy, who makes you bloated, who Telling you not to go shopping or dress up?
After watching so many old-fashioned TV dramas, I feel that women are just saving family expenses and are not willing to spend money. They just want to spend more time, energy and money on their children. I am willing to give my children the best, but I dress simply. It is the heart of every mother to leave delicious food to her children. I worried so much about my children, but in the end, I couldn't get the children's gratitude or the husband's tears of gratitude. Instead, I didn't cherish them and felt all kinds of dislike. It's no use crying, struggling, breaking down and despairing.
The only way to be self-reliant is to be yourself first. You are yourself first, then the mother of your children, your husband’s wife, your parents’ daughter, and your mother-in-law’s daughter-in-law. Be self-reliant first, then love others. You must have a self-responsible and independent personality, be sober in the world, and have a righteous outlook on life.
After a woman gets married and has children, she cannot help but be herself. She cannot be unbridled and selfish, because she has many responsibilities. She must be a good wife and mother, and she must respect the elderly. She also has to take care of her husband and raise her children, and she also has to go to work to earn money to support her family. There are really so many things given to women. So you need to set aside some time and energy to love yourself.
"Your name is Sun Sanniang, not just Fu Zifang's mother." As a human being, I hope that women will no longer be restrained, no longer teased by fate, be reborn like Sun Sanniang, and live their own wonderful lives.
