My best friend Xiaoya’s husband is stationed on business trips all year round because of his work relationship. Therefore, their family has a clear division of labor. Her husband Achun's main task is to work and make money, while Xiaoya is solely responsible for disciplining the

My best friend Xiaoya’s husband is stationed on business trips all year round because of his work relationship. Therefore, their family has a clear division of labor . The main task of husband Achun is to work and make money, while Xiaoya is solely responsible for disciplining the children.

During holidays, when Achun goes home to visit relatives, Xiaoya will create various opportunities for her husband and son to spend more time together. Xiaoya knew very well: Compared with other children of the same age, her son was always a little less masculine because he lacked the company of his father all year round.

I still remember that during the Dragon Boat Festival this year, Xiaoya made an appointment for our bestie reunion early. Everyone was surprised why Xiaoya would sacrifice the precious time of family reunion? In this regard, Xiaoya's explanation is: she hopes that her husband can be alone with his son, so that his son can feel the "zero distance" father's love.

But the bestie reunion was over that day, and Xiaoya was almost so angry that she almost died when she got home.

My husband was chatting on the phone about work in the bedroom, while my son was hiding in the bathroom playing with water alone. The picture of "a loving father and a filial son" did not appear at all, leaving a pile of chicken feathers waiting for her to clean up.

Xiaoya couldn't help but get angry at her husband: "It's rare to go home all year round, so can't you put down your work and spend quality time with your son?"

Achun retorted confidently: "How can I support my family if I put down my work? I worked so hard, am I still wrong? "

Xiaoya was stunned for a moment. It seemed that Achun was right. The division of labor in the family had always been arranged like this.

Seeing Xiaoya not saying anything, Ah Chun pressed on and asked: "Besides, the child is almost ten years old, can run and jump, and there is no safety risk when staying at home, and he still wants me to accompany him closely. Do you want to play? "

Seeing his parents quarreling, his son Tongtong quickly stated his position: "Mom, don't quarrel with dad. I don't need dad to accompany me. I can play by myself."

Xiaoya sighed helplessly and ended. After the argument with her husband Achun, she subconsciously hugged her son tightly and distressedly.

After that, Xiaoya told me the whole story. She asked in confusion: "Who was at fault between me and Achun?"

As a good friend, I am familiar with Xiaoya's family situation, and I stand on the sidelines. From a standpoint, I told her very objectively and calmly: The fault is not with you and your wife, but with the absolute division of labor in the family.

In my opinion, the reason why Xiaoya’s son Tongtong can understand the hard work of his father is not because he is so obedient and sensible. It's because his father lacks company all year round. Tongtong has a relatively indifferent relationship with his father. He has an instinctive emotional rejection in his heart and is unwilling to get too close to his father.

Furthermore, although Xiaoya attaches great importance to her son’s education, compared with many children of the same age, Tongtong’s character appears to be timid, timid, introverted, and more feminine in personality. This is probably what she has been following all year round. It was caused by living with mother Xiaoya.

As the old saying goes: "Like father, like son."

The role of father has a "pivotal" significance in the growth process of children. A father's character, thoughts, speech and behavior, ideal sentiments, and even the way he treats others will have a subtle impact on his children.

Therefore, in my opinion, the division of labor in the family cannot adhere to the traditional principle of "men take charge of the outside and women take charge of the house".Especially when it comes to childcare, which is the top priority of the family, is allowed to be prioritized , but the responsibilities and obligations that parents need to bear are in no particular order. What's more, for families with sons, I prefer the father to take care of the family. baby!

What are the benefits for a father to take care of his baby? These are some things you may not have thought of!

☆Children have stronger resistance☆

Although innate genes account for a large part of a child's physique, acquired exercise can also be of great help in improving the physique.

Due to the disparity in physical strength between men and women, usually in a family, it is the father who is stronger and has developed motor cells. Therefore, the mother takes care of the child, and the child gets fewer opportunities to exercise.

In many families I know, mothers take their children alone when traveling, and leave the task of running and running to their children to complete independently. However, sports still have a certain team and competitive nature. When children have playmates, they may jump around for a while. Once there is only one person left, the children will lose interest in sports.

Furthermore, due to safety considerations, mothers have fewer opportunities to take their children alone for outings or mountain climbing. On the contrary, the father is different. can accompany his children to exercise , which not only exercises the body, but also promotes communication between the parent and child.

Therefore, those children who are often taken care of and accompanied by their fathers will have stronger talents in sports, and their own resistance will be better.

☆Children are more independent☆

In most families, fathers are representatives of the "thick lines". Just like my teammates, I am always very uneasy when it comes to raising children. I often travel alone with my children. , the child either fell down or bruised his skin, and every time he had to "hang something".

There was a time when I forbade my teammates to take their children out alone. But soon, I found that my judgment was somewhat wrong.

For example, if a child wants to climb a piece of sports equipment, I will have an alarm bell ringing in my mind and resolutely stop the child from moving. The reason is what if he falls and gets hurt? But the teammates stood aside and asked the child, do you think you can succeed in the challenge? The child nodded, I think it can work!

Just like that, I watched my child climb an elevated structure that was several times higher than others. Halfway through, I felt myself break out in a cold sweat, but my teammates stood aside calmly and said to me: "I'm not still there to protect him." Him?"

The child also replied: "Yes, Mom, Dad will protect me!"

At that moment, I suddenly realized why children are more independent when their father takes care of them? Because mothers always want to protect their children, they will subconsciously refuse their children to try new challenges. Over time, the children will not dare to try them. The father is allowing the children to act independently , so even if there are occasional small adventures, the children have exercised their independence in the attempt, and gained greater .

Dear sisters, although "fathers are often unreliable in raising children", we cannot deprive fathers of the freedom to raise children "because of choking". After all, raising a child is a "practical" activity. Dads cannot just rely on "words". General talk about principles is not enough to support the growth of children. Action is the principle!

What is the division of labor in your family? Would you trust your father to take care of the baby alone? Let’s talk about the interesting things about dad raising his baby!

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