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Time is not a medicine, time contains medicine
I like a saying: "Human life is like a flood, and it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves without encountering islands and reefs."
Our life is not lake water after all, and we cannot keep the waves calm forever. On the contrary, it is possible that the waves will surging and break the surface plainness at any time.
However, it is the ups and downs and the overlap of sadness and joy that expands the width and breadth of life and makes our lives more three-dimensional and diverse.
Faced with these ups and downs, your mentality also determines your future direction to a great extent.
There are three keys in life. If you always remember these three points, you can face life more calmly and usher in a broader world.
The first key: accept
Many times when problems arise, people will habitually complain and complain about the injustice of fate to themselves; or escape the crises that have already arisen.
In fact, at this time, the most important thing to do is to accept it.
A writer once said: "Any situation in the world has its advantages and fun, as long as we are willing to accept reality."
When choosing to face and accept, the inner fear will gradually fade and anxiety can be gradually let go.
After calmly analyzing the current situation, you may find that everything you are worried about is just a paper tiger that is strong outside and hard at the middle. On the contrary, sometimes it is my own escape, which invisibly amplifies the panic.
A college classmate Miaomiao asked me to complain that the company gave her a chore and asked me how to shirk it.
found out in detail that the boss sent someone to another place for business trips for two months to connect with the new project. The old employees were unwilling to take over this hot potato. In the end, a newcomer was pushed away.
learned about this, and I patiently comforted her: "You were often praised for being proactive in your work in college, why are you still retreating now? If you didn't do it, how could you know it must be a hard work?"
Miaomiao suddenly realized, calmed down and analyzed the current work content, and did a lot of homework and preparations for the new work in advance.
As expected, after completing this new project, she was promoted to department head for her good work performance, which attracted many people's envy.
In fact, this is how life is. Except for a very small number of "heavy things that life cannot bear", most of the problems are something we can solve.
But the premise is that we do not evade and deny, and do not become deserters in life, but take the initiative to accept and face it calmly.
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The second key: Change
I once heard a story like this:
A donkey accidentally fell into a dry well and screamed miserably for several hours, looking forward to someone coming to rescue.
Who would have thought that what was waiting for was a shovel of soil from people filling the well. The miserable donkey immediately realized what was going on and began to roar in even more despair, trying to win a little sympathy from everyone.
However, the filler remains indifferent. The donkey gradually calmed down and made an unexpected move: it quickly shook the soil that hit it, and stepped on it hard.
Just like that, after a while, the accumulated soil actually lifted the donkey to the wellhead. It jumped out of the dry well and ran away quickly in front of the dumbfounded crowd.
The reason why donkeys can find such a wonderful solution in difficulties is ultimately because it has learned to change its negative mentality, and even in difficulties, it can flexibly use the resources around it and try its best to break through.
The difficulties and setbacks that life throws us are like a shovel of soil?
Pessimism and despair sometimes fall on us one after another, but if you want to survive from this dry well, you must shake them all to the ground and step on your feet.
Dilemma is also a stepping stone in life. If you want to survive, you must learn to change the status quo and fight wits and courage in desperate situations.Every time we overcome difficulties, we are one step closer to success.
What you encounter may be a crisis or a turning point. We can never know whether there is an opportunity behind the crisis, and it may be a new world after a change of thought.
Everyone who dares to change can always find a glimmer of vitality in the challenge, turning danger into safety and turning danger into safety.
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The third key: Leaving
we must admit that not your relationship with everyone will have a result, and sometimes it will gradually drift away; not everything you want to fight for will get what you want, and sometimes you must accept that there are some shortcomings in your life.
If something is too tight, don’t hold it anymore. It’s yourself who hurts; if you can’t keep it, don’t keep it anymore. The forced happiness will not last long; if things you don’t want to accept come true, don’t be sad anymore, and you must always keep going forward in your life.
Plato once said: "If you are not happy, if you are not happy, then let go; if you can't let go or let go, then it's painful."
Don't over-consuming yourself when you should give up, and don't be reluctant to let go when you can turn around. Indulging in the past will not change the results that have happened, but will make your life more and more difficult.
Time is not a medicine, it contains medicine in time. One day, everything that once made you heart-wrenching can be said indifferently.
Life is in your own hands. There is no need to grievance your heart for others, and there is no need to sacrifice your happiness for the past. It is better to leave with ease if you cannot accept or change it.
Dare to love, dare to hug, and dare to leave. Things and feelings that are no longer suitable, and no matter how reluctant you are, you must let go, to make room and mood for what is really important. Only when life is no longer burdened, can the future come true.
When encountering problems, first face and accept the matter itself actively, and then try to change yourself and find a solution. When everything is helpless, you must leave freely to avoid being dragged down by the problem.
Life is like a cup of tea. It won’t be bitter for a lifetime, but it will always be bitter for a while. After experiencing suffering, there may be beauty waiting ahead.
When facing difficulties, you feel that life is sad and hopeless. Don’t regret the efforts of the past, don’t be afraid of the thorns of the road ahead, muster up the courage to strode, and maybe you can get out of your life and see the bright future.
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