You are very important, but your emotions are not that important
text | Zhang Zongchao
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You are very important, but your emotions are not that important
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, I had a few words with the seller. In fact, I know that every line is not easy, I never give bad reviews, nor do I use the right to complain casually, and I understand it if I can understand it. At that time, I could clearly see my emotions, but I still couldn't help but squirt a few words.
is not for anything else, just because the seller's service made me very upset. For the questions I consulted, I only said that I would be responsible and that I would check logistics. I didn't expect that I would track a package. After taking a day, I got no reply. I was rejected for a refund. I asked again and said that I was too long-winded... I have always hated people who can delay things when they can do things. I didn't expect that I would still encounter them.
Some people like to use the "drag-up technique" to deal with things. I hope that big things will be delayed and small things will be delayed. The less temper you are, the more others will feel that you are the ones you are being deceived.
Finally, I called myself to complain about the express delivery and it was resolved. The main reason why I complained about the express delivery rather than the seller is that I know that no matter how emotional it is, things have to be divided into two parts. What I am unhappy is the seller's service and delay in doing things, and the responsibility for the loss of the package lies with the express delivery.
Although it is not a big deal, if someone dares to touch some bottom lines, they have to swing them back with one stick. The world is very complex. Not everyone understands each other's understanding, and not everything can be solved by reasoning.
In many of my words, I advocate being myself, so in the eyes of those who like to care about other people's opinions, I have some kind of hostility from the world, and I admit that this is a fact.
—You have your concern and ties, and I have my way of martial arts.
Recently he had a little unhappy with me. I watched the person I grew up and said a lot of emotional words to me.
Those emotions are probably like the plot in a TV series. They cry, make a fuss, and hang themselves. If they don’t work, they will run away from home or something. It's a bit ironic to say this, but it doesn't matter. For a person who is not strong enough, anything is ironic.
—Life is a practice for the strong, and a bitter scene for the weak.
I think if it were me, I would have such emotions at that age, so I tried to express what I wanted to say in an understanding way, but in the end I received a series of extremely emotional replies.
helplessly, I had to reply:
"I tell you very clearly that I never thought you were inferior to me at that moment, and I never thought you were worse than others. What I have always believed is that after many years, you will definitely do well.
Others are always worried, afraid that you will not do well in the future. I always say no, but after falling, it will get better and better in the future.
So, don't say some useless emotional words at all times, do things steadily. To a large extent, people only look at the results. , Don’t always think that others look down on you, because you are not strong enough, so you care about other people’s eyes very much.
You said I have my career and can do what you want, you should also know that I have my pressure, go forward with debt, survive a day of eating a rice bowl, don’t dare to sleep late at night, and be afraid of waking up too early, and lose ten pounds in half a year. I haven’t cheated anyone with a word, I just endured myself because I chose the road myself. Do you understand? No one lives easily."
- Don’t always get used to looking at other people’s good things, but ignore the difficulties behind them, and then feel that the world is unfair.
—Some people are like this. If you don’t say a few words, you really think you are right.
People always like to be recognized and recognized. The more the better. Especially when they are young, they often find it difficult to achieve any great achievements because of their youth, so they will always fall into confusion and even begin to become inferior. It is also because of this that it is particularly easy to get emotional.
But in fact, you are very important, your emotions are really not that important.
If a person can win more affirmation and recognition because of his big emotions, I think everyone can pat his chest and say, I am the person with the greatest emotion and the greatest grievance.
doesn't like that lifestyle, either take action to change immediately or endure it, instead of doing nothing but complaining. . Who has never paid the price behind the scenes that you do what you like and live in the way you like? Who is not under tremendous pressure to resist the world and confront other people's vision while moving forward?
Life is not an emotional garbage dump. No matter how big the emotions are, find the right way. After venting, you have to do whatever you should do, and you have to bear what you should bear, and you have to pay for it yourself.
No one should take care of your entire emotions, and no one should pay for the results brought by your emotionality. This is basic common sense and a basic understanding that everyone should have.
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You need to identify something to truly gain something
Over the years, I have heard stories from many people and observed the growth paths of many people. I have found that those who can really go far and live a wonderful life are not those who meet a good opportunity or have a good deed of good cards in their hands, but those who know how to identify something.
A few years ago, a friend went to work in a remote mountain village to teach and had to run to a small hillside by making a phone call. So he complained to me for a long time. At that time, I thought that life should be like this.
But later I found out that I was wrong.
He is doing well now, with his passionate job, and a group of students who love him accompany him. He still travels around to socialize during the holidays and experiences different lives. The complaints at the time are just the past.
Although he does not have the seeming freedom, there is no dazzling spotlight, nor the appearance he wanted at the beginning. There is no shadow of him in the crowds of busy cities, but now he is still living a good life, with his own excitement, his own touch and warmth.
This is how life is. You always like to borrow other people's bullshit opinions and scare away a group of people who are eager to pursue the kind of life they want. Those who can go far and live a wonderful life are those who dare to identify something.
- Only by daring to identify something can you truly gain something.
—It is absolutely unbearable without that kind of life. When suffering comes, everyone is a hero in their own life.
What you want to get, you have to exchange it with all your own things. Life is exchanged again and again. No one can hold all the misfortunes, just like no one can catch all the beauty.
My friend told me that he also faced many choices and many tempting choices. If there is a company that he is willing, he can directly be responsible for the market in a region after graduation and show his skills. But in the end he chose a relatively stable job.
For many people, there is never a shortage of opportunities in life, what is lacking is the ability to seize opportunities. But in my opinion, what is more terrifying than the lack of ability to seize opportunities is that it never dares to identify something, always stands on the edge, wants to advance and retreat, and is worried about gains and losses.
always feels that you must encounter the best choice in order to use the big move and defeat the enemy with one move. How many people can place bets in real life? I want to use only a handful of words to describe them as slightly exaggerated.
"Plato asked Socrates what love is" is a good story. There is no absolutely the thickest and strongest tree in the woods. You think that one is because you really have it.
is like business. The projects you are optimistic about, especially money-making projects, may also be the nightmare of other people's lives.
Life is not lacking in beauty, but more often what we need is that we must learn to recognize it.
- Recognize the truth and identify it is a kind of wisdom in life.
Just like the movie "Beautiful Heart", Professor Naixu proposed to his later wife Ailisa, saying that he hoped to prove through how to prove whether the two could be together for a long time, and Ailisa's answer was, let Naixu tell her how big the universe is? In the end, Naixu just said that he didn't know, but believed that it was infinitely large.
- "You might as well take a bold and risky attitude towards life, because at least you have to lose it."
, you must take the initiative to fight for what you want, and don't be afraid of losing anything. Life is a process of continuous loss and continuous gain.
Before getting something, what is more important than action is to know how to believe and understand the recognition.
Author Profile: Zhang Zongchao, a young author who strives to experience life and strives to convey a better life concept, writes life planning, workplace cognition and self-growth methods. Not only is he a first certified consultant from New Oriental Online, he is good at domestic and overseas examination planning; he is also a full-time teacher in advanced application teaching of computer office software.
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