In a trance, I went through my childhood, my study era, and I also entered society. I met the person in my life, fell in love, got married, and had children, and finally realized a different life in the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Looking back suddenly, the ups and downs of life have become memories, but some are blurred, while others are buried deep in memory and often remember them.
No matter what happened, at least, as mothers of children, we learn to "grow up"----
1. When we were still children, we naturally enjoyed maternal love
The past, we naturally enjoyed the love from our mothers, the endless housework, the less delicious food we did, and even when we got into trouble and rolled around, we all felt that it was normal--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Other things, we can all have the opportunity to do it again, such as if you don’t like clothes, change to a new one; if your work is not going well, change to another environment; if you fall in love wrong, heal your heart and sadness, and fall in love again when you meet the right person-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
2. From a girl to a woman to a mother: subversive changes
Once upon a time, every day, I put on makeup and dressed up my own thoughts, and went out or went to work beautifully. I would be fine no matter how late I wanted to play. Is cosmetics safe after having a baby? Does it have any impact on the baby? You must get up early and go to bed early so that you can have more energy to take care of your baby.
Once upon a time, the first thing I did after waking up was to browse my phone, but now it is: kiss the child's little face, change his diapers, dress the baby, wash the baby, feed the baby--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- It doesn't matter what you dress. I let go of my laziness and learn to be a dedicated mother.
Once upon a time, a journey that was easy to walk on was very satisfactory. Now, what I think is either that the baby is not suitable for going, or that I am not at ease, and I think about the child everywhere.
Once upon a time, spicy snacks, buy them when you see them, and eat them when you buy them. Now, this is because one gets angry after eating, and the other one will get diarrhea after eating, which will affect the health of the child. We will endure it.
used to be careless and said whatever you want, but now, speaking like this doesn’t have a good impact on your baby, so you have to set an example for your child.
Once upon a time, when I saw something I like, I bought it without hesitation. Now it is more about which one is suitable for babies. We take some changes for granted by
, but in the eyes of others, it is incredible. This subversive change has a great impact on people. But this is what we, as mothers, naturally, worthy, and even more necessary change.
I remember that the year of the baby was born, it was the New Year. The baby only met me after the whole night of pain. Although I felt that all the pain was worth it when I saw the baby, I really had no idea to take care of the baby in the cradle, and I didn’t even dare to hug her, afraid that my actions would hurt her little one. It was the mother who took the baby and not only took care of me, but also took care of the baby. Teach me how to hold the baby; teach me how to feed it; teach me how to change diapers; teach me how to bathe the baby---------
What impressed me most was that one night, the baby woke up and cried. I was extremely sleepy, so I let the baby sleep again with milk in my mouth. The baby, who was more than a month old, had not eaten much, and stopped after taking a few bites.The milk wet my clothes and also flowed into the children's clothes along the children's chin. Even the child's head was still covered in the quilt. And I didn't realize all this at all and was still sleeping soundly. It was the mother who heard the child's crying, lifted the quilt and woke me up at the same time, otherwise the consequences would be really unimaginable. From then on, no matter how tired or sleepy I would let my baby eat before he dared to fall asleep. I never slept well again and listened to the child's movements at any time. I also know that as a mother, you must ensure the safety of your baby at any time.
3. After becoming a mother, the initial "soldiers" and the final ease all come from love and responsibility.
"Mom, come, baby is pooping -----"
"Mom, come, baby is going to take a shower------"
"Mom, come and see, baby seems to have a fever-------"
"Mom, today my uncle's house is holding a moving wine, how much gift do I have to give?"
finally got a party with my best friend, and everyone was having fun chatting, but I was not on the bench, and I remembered that it was time to breastfeed, and then I ran back with my feet. From then on, my best friend no longer called me to take care of the child at the party.
Finally, his figure has recovered almost. When he saw the beautiful clothes, he hesitated for a while, and let it go. He took the child with him. No matter how beautiful clothes look, they will get dirty after a few strokes. It’s better to keep the money to buy clothes and toys for your baby.
Finally, the baby was asleep and wanted to sleep for a while, but I realized that the baby had changed his clothes and it was almost time to cook. In order to finish the baby before he wakes up, he has to speed up.
Finally, I finally had a favorite drama to watch. For the sake of the health of my child, I had to wait until the baby went to bed before watching it.
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4. Always stand in front of your child, and once you retreat, you will be yourself and your child.
From the treasure in the mother's palm to the daughter-in-law, wife, and then to the mother of the child. Some people live an ordinary life into poetry; some people make a messy life extremely comfortable; some people live a dull life; some people live a miserable life; some people live a miserable life---------
Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a hurdle. If you meet a good mother-in-law and a good daughter-in-law, your life will be smoother and better and better. When you meet an unreasonable mother-in-law, life will be difficult, especially when your husband does not do anything, home will not be like home.
Some people even ruined their lives because of this------
On April 28, Shi Chunmei, a 28-year-old young mother in Zhangzhou, Fujian, left a last letter and disappeared with her two young children. It touches the hearts of the people across the country.
But on the morning of May 1, bad news came, and the mother and son had all passed away. The older one is only 6 years old and the younger one is only 3 years old.
In the exposed last letter, Shi Chunmei wrote: "In-laws always use their elders to suppress others. They have never had a good face since I married into this family for seven years. Every time I quarrel, the two in-laws will join in to face me alone. I just want to live a quiet life with my children in another world and get rid of the shadow of my parents-in-law in my heart. I love you, your parents can lie, if you really do your good for me, you should protect me. After I leave, I hope to safeguard my reputation and don't indulge your parents to destroy me anymore. I'm sorry, I took away your favorite sons."
"My parents don't understand me. I know that because of my family quarrel, everyone knows that the trouble is known. My mother is very angry and helpless. It is my daughter who embarrassed them. My mother listened to my parents-in-law's words and rumors about others being outside, and she was unwilling to believe in her daughter's grievances and sufferings--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- , When telling, this young mother chose to commit suicide with her child, leaving endless pain and regret to her relatives. But life has never been done once, and no matter how many repents you have, it can’t be cured.
But, what this incident brings us deep thought is: As a mother, when encountering difficulties, when facing adversity, she should face difficulties and protect herself and her children. Wu Chunmei used her and her children’s lives as the price to end all this. Is death fair to her children? Is death the only way to solve the problem? The answer is of course no. As the saying goes, “It’s better to live without a good death.” ", not to mention that the future of yourself and your children is still unlimited. If it really doesn't work, you can still get divorced. Why bother loving a marriage that you have no hope? If you can't make it, you can leave. The world is so big, there is always a place to settle down. As long as you are willing, you can work and raise your life at any time. As a mother, no matter at all, once you are unreliable and your family is not like your home, you must become stronger and you will truly live a different life for yourself and your children. The so-called "women are weak, but mothers are strong" means to use practical actions l expresses, not escape.
5. Hold the paddle of happiness and find the rhythm of life you like
Taiwan's famous best-selling writer and host Wu Danru , there is a passage in the book "Marrying and Sleeping":
I believe there is a kind of woman who is happy when you marry.
Because happiness is not in the hands of others, It is an energy in her heart. She lives well and knows how to solve problems in life, and faces the possible twists and turns in life with reason and peace. She has something she wants to pursue and knows how to gain and give up.
She does not accumulate negative energy.
She has matured and will never distort her wishes for anything, so she will not torture herself with an unsuitable man.
The paddle of happiness is firmly held in her hands, and no one can take it away, so she can survive the storm that must be in life and find the rhythm of life she likes.
No matter she We will be happy if we marry or not, and we will marry anyone.
learn all the way and grow all the way. On the road to motherhood, we will be tempered into steel and we can also be soft. May we have positive motivation, perseverance, and invincible strength on the road to motherhood, and we will all gain happiness and happiness.
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