In recent years, the issue of how parents should educate their children has attracted great attention. In order not to let the child lose at the starting line, parents have enrolled their children in countless interest classes since childhood, and the weight of a small child’s schoolbag even exceeded that of an adult.
It is under this abnormal education that many children with high scores and low energy are greatly hurt. Only score theory, only pragmatic parents have destroyed many children's Wonderful ideas .
Not long ago, a news about 33-year-old female college student Fan relied on her parents at home, reopened the scars of Chinese family education.
1, the heart-wrenching child under the deformed educational concept
The incorrect educational concept can even be traced back to ancient times.
Tiansheng 3 Years, Wang Anshi's hometown, there was a child prodigy named Fang Zhongyong . She could write poems without a teacher overnight. The poems he wrote were even appreciated by local scholars. Since then, Fang Zhongyong has become famous and many guests have begun to spend money to seek Zhongyong's poems.
The local scholar persuaded his father to ask him to send Zhongyong to a local school to study, and he will surely achieve great things in the future. His father ignored him and insisted on letting Zhongyong write poems to make money, and he did not let him learn .
In the end, Zhongyong's talent disappeared, is the same as everyone else . We often use this to emphasize the importance of acquired education. But it is undeniable that part of the reason for Zhongyong's tragedy stems from his father.
Children spend most of their time with their parents, so we often say that parents are their children's first teachers. Many of their parents' ideas sometimes affect their children a lot, let alone children with immature minds. It is very important for parents to establish a correct view of education.
What makes people even more heartbreaking is that not long ago, a boy did his homework until late at night. In the end, he couldn't stand it, so he told his mother to take a break before doing his homework, but the boy did not wake up again. In order to let the child win at the starting line from an early age, the boy's mother enrolled him in various interest classes.
After the incident, the parents who blame themselves no matter how much they blame themselves can never find his child again.
In order to help parents educate their children better and correctly, many parenting experts have begun to appear in various interview programs to help parents establish a better view of education.
2. Parents’ education is the real starting line for children
A female college student named Fan Jincheng has been lying at home for ten years. A local reporter interviewed her and found that it was caused by her parents who relied on her parents.
Fan Jincheng has liked to design some things since she was a child. Whenever she showed the things she designed to her mother, her mother always asked her to study and not touch these unnecessary things.
When Fan Jincheng showed interest in things like design from childhood, her mother always mocked her, and she couldn't learn well, and even said harsh words to Fan Jincheng that she could do things and that she could do things.
This sentence is fatal to Fan Jincheng. After that, this sentence will always be in Fan Jincheng's mind like a curse. She began to have no confidence in doing anything , and slowly thought that she was a person who was useless , and could not do anything well.
in an environment where self-denial and parents do not recognize it, Fan Jincheng is becoming more and more inferior and even dare not even communicate with others.
After graduation, Fan Jincheng started looking for a job. After finding a job, she often thought she was not competent at all. Over time, Fan Jincheng completely lost his confidence and thought he could not do anything. He began to live a life of dependent on his parents at home for nearly 10 years.
Not only Fan Jincheng, but many children in our country live in the denial of their parents.Even if these children are first in the exam, they will be denied by their parents because they do not have the full score. Even if they have the full score, they will still be required to be as versatile as other children. It is the endless demands of parents for their children that have caused many tragedies in modern education.
3. The leader in free-range education
is in sharp contrast to Fan Jincheng. The fifth place in the 2020 talk show conference Li Xueqin
The most popular talk show conference in 2020 is not the first and second place, but Li Xueqin. This stupid Northeast girl later appeared on CCTV's Lantern Festival Gala.
Not long ago, Li Xueqin's article "I'm sorry for my mother's indulgence if I don't take the exam first", which lets us understand how Li Xueqin became so outstanding under the education of her mother.
In 2018, Li Xueqin from Peking University called out to Wu Yifan at the gate of Tsinghua University. No one expected that such an ordinary video would become popular. Many people are curious about why Li Xueqin is popular, and her response to this is: "Because I am a rustic."
Li Xueqin's mother Ms. Jia has always been free-range education for Li Xueqin. In most people's cognition, academic masters are self-disciplined and hard-working , so many people do not believe that Li Xueqin is really spoiled by Ms. Jia to Peking University.
Ms. Jia has shown a different educational method from other parents since she was a child. In the first grade, the teacher asked each child to go home to wash his parents' feet, and Ms. Jia did not agree with this.
Ms. Jia has always said to Li Xueqin that You can do anything you want, and your mom will always support you . This is not an empty slogan, it is a promise that Ms. Jia can make in the next ten years.
In junior high school, other parents prohibited their children from playing games, for fear that they would become addicted to the Internet, which would be unfavorable for good study. However, Li Xueqin's computer stores a lot of game records.
When Li Xueqin was in high school, the teacher suspected that Li Xueqin had an early love relationship and asked Ms. Jia to check her mobile phone. Ms. Jia only looked through her phone after telling Li Xueqin that she was too arrogant. After seeing her, she said to the teacher that she didn’t have early love, and her favorite boy was not on the list.
It is Ms. Jia's enlightened educational method that made Li Xueqin feel that does not take the first exam, sorry for her mother's indulgence .
High School When Ms. Jia was afraid that Li Xueqin was under too much pressure, so she took her to the food stall to have a drink and have a heart-to-heart talk.
In the year of the college entrance examination, Li Xueqin was admitted to as the first place in self-recruitment of . During his time at university, Ms. Jia still conducted free-range education and supported Li Xueqin's every decision.
After graduation, Li Xueqin went to New York University to continue her further studies, but at this time Li Xueqin felt very unhappy and said to Ms. Jia, "Mom, I can't do it anymore. I don't think I can handle it anymore. I want to leave school." Ms. Jia did not hesitate at all, and asked Li Xueqin to come back quickly without asking the reason. Ms. Jia believes that as long as Li Xueqin is willing to communicate with her and , everything is not a problem.
Summary:
Like the letter Maijia wrote to his children, supports the children to move forward in the storm and experience in the thorns. We only need to cherish our bodies behind him, remind him to pay attention to his body, and protect ourselves. Today in the 121st century, people-oriented, quality education and comprehensive development have gradually formed a modern educational concept of people-oriented, quality education and comprehensive development. As long as we can establish a correct modern educational concept, we can avoid more children who lose their lives due to educational problems.
Real love for children is not to let children live according to your wishes, but to let them fly freely.
