A couple who are internet celebrities posted a video to share their "Poetry and Distance". Some netizens left a message:
Having a baby will not delay poetry and distance. The following comment from
made people laugh:
Netizen m: It’s like you gave birth to a child, and there are poems and distant places.
Netizen n was on the topic: It sounds like if you don’t have poetry and distance, then no one else in the world has the same.
netizen m replied: It’s like you have poetry and distant places.
Netizen n: Hmm, I really have...
The source of these happy comments and the blogger of the video are a DINK couple born in the 1970s.
html Post-170s, DINK, naked words, and sojourn are their life labels.
(DINK couple born in the 1970s)
In their video comments, many people were confused and questioned about their "DINK". Some asked them why, and some earnestly advised them to have a baby quickly. Those who couldn't be persuaded just gave up. They said "just wait until you regret it"...
But the couple insisted:
Life is a multiple-choice question, and what we choose is just one of many lifestyles.
We are loyal to our hearts and do not regret this choice.
The two have known each other for 22 years and have agreed not to have children for the rest of their lives. It has been 15 years now.
Why did they choose DINK?
What is their life like now?
turned around from the nightclub and met
, a DINK couple. The husband is Lao Yu and the wife is named Xinxin .
Let’s go back in time for a while and see how they met in the rolling world.
Lao was born in , Beijing, in 1976. His father is the president of a university in Beijing, his mother is a teacher in a high school, and his uncle is a music teacher at Beijing Tibet Middle School. , he comes from a well-educated family.
(Little Lao Yu plays the piano at his uncle's house)
Although the family is not too wealthy, the parents are relatively open-minded and the family is relatively democratic. When their son raises needs, the parents will try their best to satisfy them.
Like a skateboard worth a few thousand yuan or a leather jacket worth more than 6,000 yuan, Xiao Lao Yu has pocketed them all.
But Xiaolaoyu has a strong personality and doesn't like studying very much. His grades have always been poor. By the time he was in his second year of high school, he failed the general examination in six subjects.
His parents asked him to learn piano from his uncle in order to prepare for the college entrance examination and take the path of being an art student.
This time, Xiao Laoyu worked really hard and passed the piano level 8 in one year.
However, because the piano art exam required vocal music, audition, ear training, etc., he still failed the exam.
His parents were not angry, nor did they attack him. They suggested that he study management.
Parents believe that it is enough if their son can take responsibility for himself.
The relaxed environment and enlightened parents allowed Xiao Laoyu to develop self-confidence and a happy temperament.
Later, he went to college and studied tourism and hotel management.
In his youthful years, Xiao Laoyu lived a very happy life.
plays rock and DJ, and often goes to Sanlitun Bar Street to perform...
makes friends with foreign students who play DJ;
meets Cui Jian, Dou Wei, etc. in the rock circle at the same venue...
Staying at the nightclub, smoking, drinking, day and night, all I could do was watch the sunset during the day...
In the blink of an eye, it was the graduation season, and Xiao Laoyu was assigned to a hotel to make quilts.
He left without reporting.
During the years of playing DJ, Xiao Laoyu experienced all kinds of people and all kinds of things in the small world of the bar.
He is sensitive and always has some strange feelings in his heart.
After a performance, he looked at the light coming from the windows of the surrounding residents' homes. It was warm and beautiful, and he suddenly longed for the warmth of home.
He decided to leave the rock circle and pursue warmth.
(Lao Yu and Xinxin)
This year is 2000, and he is 24 years old.
In the online chat room, Xiao Laoyu met Xinxin from Tianjin.
Xinxin is studying international finance at Nankai University.
While chatting, Xiao Laoyu got to know Xinxin very well.
She has a brother who is 12 years older than her. Because of her father's and brother's work, she and her mother travel back and forth between Tianjin and Shenzhen.
The whole family loves Xinxin.
Xinxin’s parents were forward-thinking and had the courage to move their family from Tianjin to Shenzhen at the beginning of its development.
But when it comes to education, they dare not let go, and their control is relatively tight.
Xinxin likes to study archeology, but her parents were reluctant to let their daughter suffer from field work and directly rejected her idea.
They suggested that she study finance, thinking that this way their daughter would have a higher chance of having a decent life.
But this is not Xinxin’s preference, and it has also affected her career path to some extent.
Later, when he really didn’t want to work anymore, he decisively resigned and left the workplace.
After meeting Xinxin, Xiao Laoyu's life became heated.
quit smoking and drinking, and cut off from the original circle;
went back to study computer science, took the exam for two years, and finally passed the Beijing Institute of Industrial Machinery Adult University;
passed the 4 international certifications of Microsoft ;
went from online chatting to online dating , the two played online games and reserved Internet cafes, and they became more and more able to talk and play together...
html Thirteen months later, the two met, and the feeling of meeting each other was just four words: I regret meeting each other so late.
Parents originally thought that online dating was unreliable, but when they saw that the two got along so well and liked each other more and more after meeting, they began to support it.
(Xinxin)
In 2003, Xinxin graduated and joined a foreign company in Shenzhen to do international freight.
In 2004, Xiao Laoyu graduated and joined a company in Shenzhen to do electronic information automation.
Since then, they have taken root in Shenzhen.
got married, and the concept of choosing DINK
Xinxin was considered alternative and advanced at the time.
After dating Xiao Laoyu, I also had the idea of not getting married. I really felt that a certificate could not prove anything;
later got married, and told my mother that she would not hold a wedding. For this reason, it took a lot of persuasion to convince my mother. ;
believes that having children is not a woman’s bounden duty, so before getting married, she said she would be a DINK after marriage.
But Xiao Laoyu's attitude at that time was that it didn't matter.
Both parents did not understand it at first, but after the two of them continued to work, their attitudes finally relaxed.
In 2006, the two took a trip to Sichuan and Quan Dang held a wedding.
After getting married, the two kept their promise, nails, iron nails...
From Monday to Friday, they were "white-collar workers", working from nine to five, working together; at other times, they didn't have much social interaction, and they basically spent time with each other.
The daily life is like this:
goes to work and has a busy day;
gets off work, the couple cooks delicious food according to the recipes, and also sets a small goal of not ordering takeout for 5 years; after the meal, they hold hands for a walk, watch blockbusters, and shoot videos to share their life;
On the weekends, they either visit the elderly or save up for various vacation trips to linger in the beautiful scenery;
Fitness is also their daily routine.
The two of them were in sync with each other and agreed to resign and live a freer life after paying in full social security for 15 years.
For this reason, the two of them made detailed plans for living and travel expenses, etc. They also made plans for their stay and time to spend with their parents.
The two of them also bought a house and a car in Shenzhen.
(Lao Yu and Xin Xin)
The time came to 2012.
This year, the two traveled abroad for the first time, and the coordinates were Maldives .
From then on, they became obsessed with traveling and couldn't take it back.
Travel abroad during long vacations and annual vacations, and domestic travel on weekends and short vacations...
In 2019, they began to use videos to share their daily life, interesting stories about self-driving travel, embarrassing things, aurora, sea fishing, food...
"DINK couple's 19-year experience The popularity of love only increases..."
What attracted the attention and discussion of netizens was their "DINK".
Some people expressed their understanding:
DINK has the happiness of DINK, and having a baby has the happiness of having a baby. Find a life that you like and is suitable for, and appreciate each other without interfering with each other.
Some people are so worried that they try to persuade the child to have a baby:
I'm afraid that if Dink gets there halfway, the man will regret it and the woman will regret it before it's too late...either they have to have a baby quickly, or they can work out a plan so that there is no way for each other to fall back.
Faced with doubts, the couple patiently explained.
is just a way of life, just like you choose to go to work, and some people choose to start their own business and be the boss. In fact, there are more ways of life, but working is the choice of most people.
Between continuing the family line and living a free life, they chose the latter.
But Dink does not care about running a family. They have this view of family:
The simpler life is, the happier it is;
advocates frugality. For example, when Lao Yu is Tony’s teacher, Xin Xin’s washing, cutting, blowing, and dyeing are all covered by him;
The laughter in the kitchen is the best state of a home;
Husband and wife are not only traveling companions in this world, but also soul mates.
Accompanying the elderly and getting together with their relatives are also their daily lives.
(Xinxin and niece)
Xinxin’s niece, who is studying abroad, is a frequent guest in their videos.
My niece misses them so much that she comes back from abroad to stay with them for a while when she has time.
Aunt and niece are just a hair apart.
When the aunt and nephew get together, they inevitably go "crazy" together.
knows that my uncle loves to drink coffee. Regardless of whether he is in China or not, my niece mobilizes her circle of friends to send various kinds of coffee to her uncle.
My uncle was so moved that he posted it online again and again.
The couple is not "nailed" to have a fairy spirit, they are still carefree and unrestrained, and the world is a company.
During the Spring Festival reunion time, the couple will go home to accompany the elderly.
What the two of them didn't expect was that the old man was "brainwashed" by them and often traveled, so they had to make an appointment to go home six months in advance.
After returning to their parents, they are still the treasures in their parents' hands.
From this point of view, not only do the three views of the couple match, but also with the tolerance of their parents and family, this makes their poetry and distance possible.
(family gathering)
Follow your heart, resign naked, and live abroad
In 2020, the couple made a decision.
html In April, Xinxin resigned; in October of the same year, Laoyu resigned.
At this time, the two people have paid social security contributions for more than 16 years. Compared with their 15-year goal, they have exceeded their goals.
(Lao Yu and Xinxin are working out)
html In November, they went to Dali, Kunming, looking for a house, looking at homes, negotiating prices... Finally, they rented a yard they liked and began a one-year sojourn.
In April 2021, they went to Tibet for the sixth time.
In their hearts, Tibet is already their second home.
During the more than 100 days in Tibet, they thoughtfully recorded and shared what they saw and felt.
Secret realms, adventures, snowy mountains...
Netizens were so hooked, it was as if they had gone on a trip themselves.
The couple is still as innocent as children when they play.
One is interesting and the other is simple and cute! Great!
The male protagonist is bold and careful, while the female protagonist is brave and tender, which is fully demonstrated during the exploration!
It is said that a relationship can be seen most clearly during a journey.
netizen said, perfect score for both of you!
Netizens who questioned how boring their daily life would be without children also tasted a different flavor in the daily life they shared.
This couple has their own way of preserving their love and managing their marriage.
How couples get along
Some netizens left heartfelt comments:
"You have set a good example, telling us what is mutual gratitude, mutual respect, mutual support and mutual understanding between husband and wife; how to symbiotically and mutually Independence, thumbs up for your wisdom! "
So what is the secret of the way they get along?
(Learning flower arranging on weekends)
From playing online games together to falling in love with traveling together; from being foodies, to washing hands and making soup for each other; from I know what you are talking about, to I also know what you are thinking.
can sing and dance with excitement when seeing the beautiful scenery, claiming to be two wild children;
The two of them can stare at a deer for a long time, feeling sorry for its antlers being injured;
loves hiking in the forest and picking wild things. Fruits, listening to birdsong, and liking camping more and more...
The two of them are also improving their cooking skills to satisfy each other's appetites.
Having the same outlook and hobbies is a secret to a better and better relationship between husband and wife.
On the way to Tibet, Laoyu changed the tires of his car, and Xinxin asked other cars to help him. To thank him, he gave them food and put it in their car.
As a result, they walked away and they couldn't find the car keys.
Seeing that it is getting dark, what should I do if I am out of the blue?
What the two of them were afraid of was that they had "given" the keys to someone else's car?
Fortunately, I am always wise in my haste, so I simulated the situation and finally found the key in the trunk.
Speaking of this episode, Lao Yu boasted that he was a good husband. Because he did not blame his wife, netizens agreed with Lao Yu's statement.
How many couples can avoid blaming each other when they are in trouble?
The couple did it.
Not blaming each other when things happen and finding ways to solve problems is the correct way for couples to get along.
(The couple was traveling)
In Dali , one day, Xinxin grabbed a seat at his favorite special hotel and had a romantic date with Lao Yu.
Appreciating the beautiful scenery, tasting delicious food, endless interesting things to talk about, endless longing for...
Happiness came so suddenly, Lao Yu looked at Xin Xin with tears in his eyes.
Needless to say, this is also sweet to netizens.
Netizens lamented: "A good wife who knows how to live a good life meets a good husband who knows how to appreciate and has good taste."
Adding a little sweetness to the marriage from time to time can keep the couple's relationship fresh.
The copy of one of their videos reads:
Mr. and Mrs. Dink have been in love for more than 20 years. They have become the same person and are at home wherever they go.
Through every detail of their lives, I can feel that they are peaceful and open-minded, considerate when dealing with problems, respect each other, and are willing to contribute to each other.
This is what love should be like.
Share and interact
In the video, their young appearance and youthful vitality allow netizens of the same age to see their former selves.
The two people are sincere and straightforward. Netizens shouted, "How come they look girly and boyish even though they are the same age?"
Netizens left messages one after another:
I like your short video. The two of you have discussions, division of labor and cooperation, and live a happy life!
Xinxin said to shake it, so he actually got out of the car and shook himself a few times, and returned the favor without hesitation!
Look how excited you two are, like two kids who haven’t grown up! envious!
Some people say that this carefree young couple is from the Northeast!
Lao Yuhui, the male anchor is Jingyouzi , and the female anchor is Wei Zuizi!
You can feel the joy through the screen.
(Laoyu dyes Xinxin’s hair)
Sharing beautiful scenery, good food, good mood, reading comments and replies is the daily routine of the couple.
shared travel "blockbusters" and presented luxurious scenery;
shared interesting and embarrassing stories about driving off-road vehicles and , and how to maintain them;
shared food and living costs, and went to the vegetable market to find out for a price asked by netizens ;
teaches netizens how to buy special air tickets and book homestays;
shares how to apply for flexible employment subsidies...
shoots videos of Tibet travel, which are the most enjoyable for netizens to watch.
netizen said that following their lens gave his eyes a bath.
Watching their videos makes my anxious heart calm down inexplicably.
The couple found a treasure trove of suggestions for the video put forward by netizens and immediately improved it. No wonder this couple is so popular.
(Couple in Tibet)
Over the past ten years, they have visited Tibet six times and fell deeply in love with this land.
In addition to the scenery, there are many things that touched them.
This place is simple, kind and pure, but there is a lack of medical treatment and medicine, and life is poor...
Therefore, the couple collect several percent of new clothes on weekdays, and also buy new clothes during the discount season, as well as stationery, medicine, etc.
Before entering Tibet, they will pack and prepare early to bring love.
(Xinxin brought cotton-padded clothes to Tibetan children)
In the video, Xinxin took the cotton-padded clothes and put them on the thinly-clad children. The children instinctively tried to break free, but were reluctant to take them off after putting them on.
The couple gave the plaster to an elderly Tibetan man suffering from waist and leg pain.
In the yurt, chatting warmly with the elderly and children.
The love between the two people made netizens like it.
"What a wonderful thing it is to be able to help others while pursuing your dreams."
Of course, the exchange of DINK lifestyle has always been on the hot list in the comment area, with some likes and envy, but doubts are the norm.
In November 2019, the video "Families without children have less noise, but more companionship and comfort", with more than 430,000 views and nearly 3,500 comments.
The couple are also the first to interact with netizens, whether the messages are well-intentioned or otherwise.
Sometimes, just sit in silence.
Netizens said, don’t be like them. Life without children is a huge shortcoming.
They replied that DINK is a way of life, you can choose according to your own preferences and cannot be imitated at will.
Some netizens said that they are not optimistic and it depends on whether you can persist until you are 50 years old. We will wait and see!
They replied, why are you waiting to see how other people live?
In February 2020, they shared the video "Dink and his wife suddenly decided to fly back to Beijing to give their parents a surprise..."
This video has more than 1 million views and more than 1,600 comments.
Some netizens directly criticized:
Are you still surprised? Are you sure they are not forcing their smiles? Since this kind of surprise is so wonderful, why don't you enjoy this kind of surprise?
The couple replied:
Don’t guess about other people’s lives.
Over the years, they have become accustomed to all kinds of doubts, and their hearts are soft but strong.
(The couple is traveling)
They said that they share their stories and record the trajectory of their lives in words and videos, leaving them for them many years later.
also wants to convey a concept to others. Whatever kind of life you want to live, you need to work hard and be responsible to live your own wonderful life.
How you live a day is how you live your life.
No matter which lifestyle you choose, living every day seriously is the greatest respect for life.
Epilogue
Netizens said that in the past few years, watching their videos is like watching a TV series.
From Shenzhen to Dali, from Dali back to Shenzhen, and then to Beijing...
Food, rice, oil, salt, trivial life...I have to say that it is very down-to-earth.
Love, flowers, plans and visions for the future, and the spread of love thousands of miles... Is this poetry and distance?
Ten thousand people have ten thousand poems and distant places in their hearts.
Xinxin said that they are using the most real life to write a prose poem for themselves, treating the most beautiful wishes and expectations as far away.
(Lao Yu and Xinxin)
Someone said:
"The joy of raising children is your own poetry and distance."
"Raising children is not to provide for old age, but to experience the joy of growth and love."
can only say, DINK has the purity of DINK, and has the joy of having children.
Life is a kaleidoscope. Thousands of people and thousands of faces bring out the splendor. Just be well and enjoy it individually. That's fine.
As long as you live the present seriously, every day is poetry; if you have vision and hope for the future, it is the distance .
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