(Author: Lawyer Guo Zifu of Li Ke Thinking) Weibo revealed that Gao Xiaosong's divorce was announced to the public a year later. Later, Xiaosong's ex-wife "Xi Youmi" expressed through Weibo that she did not want a divorce, but from her Weibo However, Bo Zhong saw that her attitud

(Author: Lawyer Guo Zifu of Science and Technology) Weibo revealed that Gao Xiaosong was divorced, and it was announced to the public a year later. Later, Xiaosong’s ex-wife "Xi Youmi" expressed through Weibo that she did not want a divorce, but from her However, it can be seen from his Weibo that his attitude towards relationships and marriage is too hasty and he has committed a major taboo in marriage. The real reason for the divorce may be precisely caused by his own reasons. I will analyze the reasons below and hope to let more people know the reason for the divorce. Women know how to maintain a marriage:

"Xi Youmi" mentioned on Weibo: "I became a mother when I was 20 years old. I always feel that I am still a child who has not grown up. When I am with my daughter, I always They were laughing and joking, playing like sisters, and playing wildly, but never really considered the cruelty of life." "It was not just the greenhouse fortress that my daughter and I had protected for many years that collapsed, but also my twenty-sixth year. Years of faith. Born in a traditional family, I witnessed the happy and complete marriage of my parents. Since I was a child, they have taught me, "If you love someone, you must love them for life." I believe that love should support each other, and marriage should support each other. We should grow old together. So, when I met Xiaosong, I loved him with all my heart. He taught me about the world and opened many windows for me. I had countless fantasies about the future and wanted to stay with him forever. I wanted to hold his arm when he was too old to walk, and even thought about how we could celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary."

The above text shows that due to the 19-year age gap between the two, "Xi. "Youmi" relies on Gao Xiaosong for everything. Although Gao Xiaosong protects his wife and children, the stronger he looks as a man, the more fragile he is inside. Therefore, Gao Xiaosong is overwhelmed and cannot get the love of "Xi Youmi" , and finally took the initiative to file for divorce because he felt unhappy. And as a wife, I think that "I even thought about how we should celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary" is to pay for love. It is too simple to think that love is not just something as simple as creating a little romance. Therefore, female friends, please remember that when you need a warm family and a stable relationship, you should think of men as the pillars of the family. In fact, they need more care and understanding. Special attention is that women should not provide romance. The atmosphere is what makes a man happy. On the contrary, your romance will make a man feel disrespected, because true love is simple.

"Xi Youmi" Weibo also mentioned: "But I never thought that the rose-colored fantasy would be shattered overnight. When he said the word "breakup", my mind just went blank and he said "Okay" ". It's not because I don't care, but because I think fate can't be forced. I don't know how to entangle and retain, and I'm not good at it. Perhaps, in the remaining rationality, I still have the last trace of self-esteem."

said "Xi "Youmi" is childish and hasty in dealing with relationships. When the other party proposes that he is unhappy and wants a divorce, it must be that he still loves you, but is just too tired. Maybe, if you really love this man, you don't agree stupidly. , but out of care for the other party, you should communicate and ask clearly the reasons. If you directly agree to break up for the sake of self-esteem, it means that you have great disrespect for love.

"Xiyoumi" Weibo mentioned again: "To this day, I am still grateful to her for accompanying me in the most difficult year of my life. Then, another girl with full of positive energy joined me and accompanied me from beginning to end. , pulled me out of the haze. During the brand preparation period, I told them my stories every day like a resentful woman. I told them all the happy and sad ones. Everything I want to say in my life has been paid in advance, and the pain that once seemed insurmountable has gradually disappeared without a trace."

This shows that she seldom communicates with her husband, so that after the divorce, she suddenly gave up all the pain to her husband. In fact, people have made a mistake when they talk to each other. It is correct to vent the pain in the heart. However, Gao Xiaosong may have just felt unhappy when he divorced, so his original intention was not to really lose his family. If "Xi Youmi" chooses at this time If the person to confide in is not someone else, but Gao Xiaosong himself, maybe their relationship will be rekindled.

In addition, "Xi Youmi" only started his own business and became self-reliant after his divorce from Gao Xiaosong? Isn’t it possible during marriage? If you don’t plan to do things by yourself during your marriage, you can just work with your husband to help him do things. This has nothing to do with professionalism. For example, Zhou Libo’s lover did not actually learn “Shanghai Qingkou”, but many of Zhou Libo’s works It was modified by his wife, so that Zhou Libo can be very successful, and Zhou Libo is accompanied by his lover every time he appears on the scene. From his image to his clothing, his lover's advice and care are given. This is love. Chen Peisi, the king of Chinese sketches, is no exception. The first audience for Chen Peisi's sketches is his lover. Each of his works has his lover's hard work, but his lover does not act in sketches or write sketches at all, because Chen Peisi's Madam loves Chen Peisi, so she naturally understands the creation of sketches. Similarly, if "Xi Youmi" didn't have her own career, instead of "laughing and joking" with her children, she devoted herself to her husband's career, I'm afraid their love would have lasted a long time.

"Xi Youmi" Weibo also mentioned: "After experiencing so much, I am like a person who has just recovered from a serious illness and been reborn after death, and then I understand that no one is afraid of leaving. I used to always look for others. The sense of security created for you, later I realized that no one can always give you sense of security, only yourself is your strongest backing."

This shows that "Xi Youmi" completely regards marriage as the object of demand, because the sense of security is mutually beneficial to both parties. It is not simply given by one party to the other party. When you mature, start doing things externally, and have an independent personality, it is the time when you can give the other person a sense of security. But you feel that you don’t need the other person anymore. You should understand that the other person also needs a sense of security, and you should give the other person a sense of security. It’s time to feel grateful. It’s not that “it’s not scary for anyone to leave.”

"Xi Youmi" Weibo also mentioned: "I am not Gao Xiaosong's beloved wife, I am Xi Youmi." This statement is completely different from Gao Xiaosong's attitude. Gao Xiaosong seems to be safeguarding the interests of the two of them at all times. Humane, and "Xi Youmi" seems to be more heartless, as if there is no relationship at all after the divorce. Although I support this attitude, it can be seen from this sentence that she does not seem to have any emotional investment in marriage. Often, from From a realistic perspective, the so-called love means that the more you give, the more you love.

The above is my analysis of Gao Xiaosong’s marriage problems. I hope that future generations can learn a lesson and seriously maintain the relationship between both parties. Love needs to be managed. (Guo Zifu: Top 100 Lawyers in China, CCTV Keynote Lawyer, Economist, Engineer, Bachelor of Physics, Cartoonist, WeChat Official Account: guo-zifu)