Marriage is a major event in life. In ancient my country, marriage was not only related to family happiness, but also related to the continuation of family incense and social stability. Therefore, there were many customs and proverbs about marriage.
Why did marriages in ancient times pay attention to being well-matched?
In ancient times, marriage between men and women was about being of the same family, that is, the social status and economic status of the families of the men and women must match to be suitable for marriage. So how did the perfect match come about?
There were two important things on the door of every household in ancient my country. One was a flat stone pier or stone drum on the left and right sides of the door. Some of them were engraved with patterns called "mendang". One is that there are two carved bricks or wood carvings above the lintel, and there are also patterns of various rare birds and animals engraved on them, called "house pairs". The patterns on door posts and household pairs are carved according to the owner's identity or wealth level, and are symbols of the owner's identity, status and wealth. If there is no pattern on the door, it means that the owner is an official. If there is a flower pattern on the door, it means that the owner is in business. Men and women from families of the same or similar class are suitable for marriage and are considered to be a good match.
When today's boys and girls are looking for a partner, they will also consider a match, but they do not only consider the other person's economic conditions and social status, but also consider whether the two parties are mentally compatible.
How ancient people dated
In ancient my country, the behavioral requirements between men and women were very strict. "No physical contact between men and women" means that there should be no skin-to-skin contact between men and women. If a woman wants to give something to a man, she must first put it in a container and then hand the container to the man. If there is no container, the woman has to put the thing on the ground and bow to each other before the man can take it away. Therefore, when it comes to marriage, young men and women cannot make their own decisions at all. Who to marry or who to marry is decided by their parents. The so-called "parents' orders, matchmaker's words", men and women cannot meet before the wedding.
So, how did young men and women in ancient times date each other? In the ancient patriarchal society, the man had more initiative and choice in marriage. During a blind date, the man's mother or relatives would go to the woman's house to see the girl, but the girl could not meet the man before the wedding. It is recorded in the "Tokyo Menghua Lu" of the Song Dynasty that during a blind date, if the man is very satisfied with the woman, he will put a hairpin in the girl's head. If he does not like the girl, he will leave some silk and satin for the woman's family to express their disapproval. suitable. Blind dates at least let the man know what the girl looks like, but the girl has no idea about the man's appearance, temperament, living habits, talents and hobbies. Such a marriage will often cause tragedy in the woman's life.
Ancient wedding proverbs
proverbs are traditional concepts that ancient people have established in their long-term life and production. There are many folk sayings about marriage, such as "Look at the mouth first when marrying a wife, look at the hands first when marrying a man", "Better marry a second-time beauty than marry an heir", and another saying in is: "Don't marry a good man." A tiger thorns a plum blossom, and a good girl will not marry a lilac hammer." What do "Tiger Thorn Plum" and "Streaming Hammer" mean?
"Tiger Thorn Plum" is a plant that has bright colors when it blooms, but has thorns at the tips of its branches and is poisonous. "A good man should not marry a tiger-thorn plum" means that although a woman like a tiger-thorn plum has a glamorous appearance, she has a bad character, is also mean, full of thorns, and is difficult to get along with. If a man marries a tiger-thorn plum, Such a woman will not have a happy marriage.
"Streamer hammer" refers to a hammer that has a smooth and beautiful surface but is very uncomfortable to use. "Liuguang Hammer" is used to describe a man who is only superficial, looks good but has no use, is idle and does not do his job properly. "A good woman should not marry a gay man" means that a good woman should not only care about a man's appearance. When getting married, she should choose a man who is mature, steady, progressive, pragmatic and enterprising.
Finding a life partner is not an easy task. You must carefully screen and find a reliable person to live your life happily. Although times have changed, many of the sayings left by our ancestors still make sense.
