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Text: Shili
Illustration: From the Internet
Some people say that contemporary marriage is always linked to money. Although I don’t want to admit it, this sentence does have a certain truth. If you look closely, you will find that there are always some similarities in life. Events related to money disputes occurred, and most of these events occurred before marriage.
In fact, arguing over money is also an opinion and something worth understanding. After all, everyone in this world loves money. If a person leaves money, the future will be more difficult, so everyone It’s okay to care about money, but everything has to be limited.
Everyone can defend their own property. This is human nature, but you cannot calculate the property of others. Otherwise, marriage will no longer be a marriage, but a calculation. A marriage full of calculations will never be happy.
Actually, whether two people truly love each other, whether a person values money above everything else, or wants to live a good life, it can be seen from before marriage, some things can be seen in a person’s inner world, for example, before marriage The most obvious manifestation of the wealth and contribution.
People who live a good life will pay when they should, and when they should guard their own property, they will protect their own property and ensure that they will not suffer losses, but they will never count others.
People who treat marriage as a calculation are full of calculations from beginning to end. They will try their best to prevent themselves from losing, and do their best to get what they want from the other side.
But once something has been done, there is no room for looking back.
Ma Kun is thirty years old this year, and his parents have turned his head over his life-long events. Some people may think that this seems a bit exaggerated, but it is not.
Ma Kun’s hometown was originally in a small mountain village, where it was not easy for people to marry a wife. After all, there was an imbalance between men and women, and most of the girls were picky. When they were in their twenties, their family had no houses or cars, so, No matter how many things the matchmaker said to them, the result was nothing.
When he was twenty-nine years old, Ma Kun went out to work by himself, and then met his current girlfriend. People often say that when a girl falls in love, IQ is zero. This statement does have some truth.
Girls don’t care about his family conditions, and they are willing to marry him. This is a good thing. Then Ma Kun’s parents also borrowed money and mortgaged a house in the county, so that they will be in the future. Can also live better.
may be because of the sudden ownership of a house. Ma Kun instantly felt that his worth was much higher. Because the family conditions of their family were not so good, and the house was bought, the decoration money was simply Can't get it out, so Ma Kun wants his girlfriend to bear the expenses.
He told his girlfriend the news of buying a house. At first, his girlfriend was very happy, and let him not have too much pressure. In the future, they can repay the mortgage together. With a house in the city, their future children can Studying in the city can get a better quality of education, which is also beneficial to the cultivation of the next generation.
From this point, we can see that the girlfriend is still a very real person. She thinks wholeheartedly about how to live in the future, without knowing Ma Kun's true intentions. When
was very happy with his girlfriend, Ma Kun finally expressed his thoughts. He said that their family borrowed money from various places to buy a house and had already done everything they could, so the girlfriend's house should be responsible for decorating the house. The
girl was surprised at that time, because the house had already been bought and the real estate certificate had already been issued. There was no way to add the name of the other half to the house that was already under mortgage. The girl was still clear.
Since there is no way to add your own name to the other party’s house, why do you have to pay for the decoration? Although the girl is willing to sacrifice for love, she is naturally not so confused when she thinks about it.
So she replied: "It will cost more than 100,000 yuan to decorate. If our house has the money, I will pay for the decoration. I will buy a set by myself."
Ma Tao thinks this is what his girlfriend said. Unwilling to pay, because the girlfriend’s family rulesIt is better than his family, as long as their family is willing to pay for the decoration, purchase furniture, home appliances is completely possible, not to mention the girlfriend's parents are not patriarchal.
Ma Tao wants to persuade his girlfriend. He said that although the house has been bought, it has not been renovated, and there is no way to talk about furniture and appliances. Their family now has no extra money to do these things. If the girlfriend can’t get out Money decoration, then they have no place to live after they get married.
His girlfriend told Ma Tao that he didn't need to worry about this. Naturally, their family would find a way. He thought that his girlfriend meant that their family would pay for the renovation, so he went home happily.
But a week later, he suddenly learned that his girlfriend had mortgaged a house with two bedrooms and two living rooms. It cost about 100,000 yuan. It was said that it was a second-hand house. The house was still very new and could be moved in with a bag.
Ma Tao was completely angry now. He ran to his girlfriend to make a fuss. He felt that his girlfriend was too improper. He had a house. To repay the mortgage, the pressure was not small, but the girlfriend was on his own. Isn’t it even harder to get a mortgage?
girlfriend replied: "You mortgage a house, the real estate certificate does not have my name, you still want me to pay for the decoration costs, buy furniture and appliances, and said that otherwise there will be no place to live. I also mortgage a house now, You can move in with a bag. What are you dissatisfied with? You don’t want to pay the mortgage. You are dissatisfied because you can’t take advantage of it?” The
girlfriend is a considerate person, so she would say this Naturally, it was also forced by the situation. What Ma Tao did before broke her heart, so she has never thought about marrying him now.
Now their situation has become very delicate. The girlfriend is determined to break up, but Ma Tao refuses to let it go because he knows it clearly.
Although he has a house now, it is difficult to marry a wife. Firstly, because he is old, and secondly because they have no money to decorate or even buy furniture and appliances.
What's more, most girls really mind that the other party does not have their own name on the real estate certificate. Based on this alone, other girls cannot be as generous as their girlfriends.
After thinking about it, he is still the best girlfriend, but it is a pity that he used his words and deeds to hurt his girlfriend's sincerity, so now he says that all the results he gets are on his own.
Understand each other, give each other, and live with a sincere heart, so that we can create a beautiful home.
If you suddenly want to get married one day, you must understand why you get married. It is because your parents urge you to get married when you are old, or because you meet and want to live together People who live the rest of their lives?
Do you want to find someone to live with, and your husband and wife will become the same bird in the same forest, and if they die, they will fly separately, or do you want to find someone who lives with each other sincerely?
If you are longing for the latter, then don't become a person who only knows how to calculate, but does not know how to pay, because calculation is a taboo for marriage.
Lovers are for love, not for calculation. Only when you love each other can you accompany you for the rest of your life, and share the joys and sorrows. If you count the people who want to spend the rest of your life with you, what is left in your life?
As everyone knows, husband and wife are the closest people in the world. From the moment you enter the marriage hall together, you are destined to work together and spend the rest of your life in peace, unless you don't want to live a good life.
Parents will grow with age, and you will live their lives after you leave your children when they grow up. In the moments when you are old and weak and need someone to accompany you most, only your significant other will stay with you. This is the simplest truth.
People who really understand things and who are intelligent know how to treat their spouse kindly. Only those who are ignorant and think about calculating others all day to get what they want will do such a confused thing, and this Once something is done, there is no room for regret.
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Today’s topic: "Do you think it is right"?
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