Are you experiencing a "nanny marriage" and are you playing the role of a nanny in the marriage. I thought I was married to love, but I didn’t realize that I fell into an endless cycle of boring life. Once you yearned for a beautiful and free marriage, now you have become the shackles that bind you. As a little princess at home, after you get married He became the nanny of others.
nanny marriage has unknowingly become a pain in the hearts of many women, and it is subtly destroying one family after another. Case example of
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reader Jingjing is 35 years old this year. She is wearing a very simple dress with an ordinary ponytail and no makeup on her face. The only embellishment is the wedding ring on her hand.
However, it is hard to imagine that Jingjing was a particularly beautiful girl before her marriage. Her dressing table would be filled with all kinds of lipsticks and cosmetics. But after the marriage, the man’s family is not rich, so Jingjing is willing Give up a lot of things for him.
She never knows how to cook until now she is good at cooking. She has spent money on everything before and now she cares about everything. She has to go to work every day and go home at night to cook and clean up the house. This has become her habit.
But what she did was not appreciated by her husband, nor was she recognized by her husband. Instead, her husband often said that she was not as beautiful as others and said she was boring.
Even when she had a quarrel, Jingjing complained that she did so much and that she worked so hard every day, but her husband said, "This is what you should do. You should do housework and wait for me. Otherwise, why should I marry you?" When
had a class reunion, she watched her friends chatting and laughing. Everyone lived a wonderful life and had a very rich life experience. Only her own life was bleak, and every day was wasted. Among these trivia.
When a woman unknowingly becomes a nanny in a marriage, she not only loses her freedom, but from a realistic perspective, she is also losing her own value, so the husband in the marriage will despise her she was.
When a woman is willing to take a responsibility for a man for love, such a woman must be worthy of a man to cherish, but if a woman gives infinitely, it is regarded by a man as the so-called right, then such a woman Will live in infinite pain. Case study of
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In the above case of Jingjing, we found that Jingjing has become a victim of a nanny marriage. She is physically and mentally exhausted, becoming inferior and lonely, and has no place in the family.
In marriage, a man and a woman are independent individuals, and the two people should be equal and maintain a proper balance between them.
However, once one party becomes an accessory to the other party, which is what we call a nanny marriage, then the party with a sense of superiority will become more and more arrogant.
In the TV series "Dear Myself", the role of Zhang Zhizhi in her marriage is like a nanny.
In front of her mother-in-law and her husband, she was humble and weak, and all the housework had to be borne by herself, but her husband never helped her share any problems, and Zhang Zhizhi handled all the children's education issues.
Zhang Zhizhi is a woman who works hard for the family wholeheartedly, but her husband never cared about her feelings, and even chose to cheat. The reason is simple, because what Zhang Zhizhi did is insignificant in the eyes of her husband.
Whether it is Jingjing or Zhang Zhizhi in the play, they are good to everyone in the whole family relationship, but they only forget to love themselves and lose their former appearance.
A woman should never be someone's nanny, but should be her own queen. You can give your family wholeheartedly, but this man must be worth it.
We can take on housework and share the responsibility of the whole family with men, but the premise is not to always sacrifice ourselves.
So how to break the nanny marriage?
First of all, women must be clear about their self-worth. You must be based on the current reality, and be clear about what you really want and what you want in marriage.
If you just give in stupidly, you have neither love nor lost a lot of your energy and timeIn the end, it will only be "empty".
Breaking a nanny-style marriage is very simple. The first step for a woman is to know how to resist, dare to refuse the request from the other side of the marriage, and always maintain your principles and bottom line, then the other party will not easily hurt you .
In addition, you have to satisfy yourself as much as possible and express your needs boldly to the other party. You can satisfy him, but he must also know how to satisfy you. You should learn to do something you like. thing.
boldly take the first step, communicate with each other seriously, don't always let yourself be so wronged in marriage, it is a kind of spiritual and emotional blasphemy for yourself.
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