If you always "can't help but think" of someone, you often only need to do one thing

misses a person, mostly uncontrollable.

You think you have forgotten the other person and put it down, but you find that there is the other person in a small matter or inadvertent thought.

Just as Qijinnian wrote in "Dust Song", "Many things are like umbrellas held on a rainy day. When you rush into the room, you hurriedly put it away and threw it in a corner. The folds are still trapped in it. With the rain of this night. After coming over for a long time and then holding it back, a scent of damp comes in. Even if it is a sunny day, it will remind you of that distant rain."

Something, or someone, is in you When I start to think of each other constantly, it is like an umbrella that has been exposed to the rain. Even after a long time, I can't really forget it.

So, it's normal to think about it, and you may not even remember how many times you think of the other person.

is like watching a conversation. A boy asks his friend: "Have you let go of her?" The friend said, "I have already let go." The boy

heard it, and said lightly: "I haven't said who it is." In

's relationship, there may really be someone who makes you unable to stop thinking about it, even if it is deliberately pretending to forget. Can't fool myself.

If that person really exists, you always "can't help but think" of the other person, and often it is enough to do one thing-act and let the other person know what you think.

01.

Acting is to give an answer to what you miss.

Almost all misses have a reason. Finding a reason is a way to know what you want. There are three reasons for missing

in most cases.

One: After breaking up with the other party, you realize that you are already inseparable from each other; Second: You are just friends with the other party, but you want to take a step forward; Third: Two people have established a relationship, but you feel love The "concentration" is not enough.

No matter what kind of situation, what can be proved is that you are really moved, you want to be with each other from now on, and you don't want to be alone with you.

So the solution is very simple: let the other party know and give yourself an answer, so as not to cause regret.

is like in "Predecessor 3", after Meng Yun and Lin Jia broke up, they obviously missed each other and wanted to reconcile with each other as before, but did not want to bow their heads easily.

It was not until two people really missed it that they realized that sometimes bowing their heads is the way to achieve love. When

misses someone exceptionally, they will deepen this miss. In the process of missing someone, many people will think too much because they miss each other too much.

is like wanting to meet each other, but fearing that you will lose your value after putting forward your ideas; wanting to reconcile with each other, but afraid that you will look humble first; wanting to be with each other, but afraid that you will confess too early and you will not be agreed.

But being known by the other party is just to let the other party know what you think, not to ask for an ending.

When that person is able to respect your true inner thoughts, it means that he is worthy of your love. If you boldly tell the other person's mind, you get not taken seriously, which means that the person is not worthy of your love.

It’s never wrong to miss someone, and it’s not wrong to take the initiative in your relationship. Only when you fall in love with the wrong person will you feel that you have done something wrong. More importantly, if the other party is really the wrong person, it is better to know early than to know later.

02.

After letting the other person know, the "cannot help" miss can stop

. Many times, you miss someone too much, not because you really miss him, but because the other person doesn't know it.

When entangled whether to tell the other person, you think about that person again; when entangled about whether to show you like, you think about that person again.

The best explanation for this phenomenon in love psychology is the "Zeignik effect".

"The Zeignik memory effect is a kind of memory effect, which means that people are more impressed with the things that have not been processed than the things that have been processed."

In life, the existence of the Zeignik effect is also very extensive. For example, because you are in a hurry to go to work and have not finished your meal, you may keep thinking about it while you are working; you may continue to want to watch movies that you have not finished watching because of a power outage; you may continue to want to watch when someone calls; songs that you haven't finished listening to when someone else calls are hanging You want to keep listening.

including the one you did not loveThose who arrive, without time to confide, will become a heart disease of their own, always wanting to complete, always dare not to complete.

is like many people who are struggling about whether to confess or not. They are struggling whether they will confess success, how the other person feels about themselves, and whether they should confess. Because

did not do this, he hesitated.

But if you really do it, the answer is very simple. Either you will be accepted by the other party or rejected by the other party. When facing such an answer, you have the mind to do other things.

For example, a person who confesses failure may directly give up the pursuit. For a long time afterwards, he will no longer want to fall in love, just want to get rich. If

happens to be successful, your uncontrollable thoughts will also stop, because you have a carrier in reality and you know what to do next. The process of

is a process of giving yourself answers and a process of renewing your life. You always have to do one thing before you know the ending and how you will react when facing the ending.

When you are not taking action, everything is just your own assumptions. The more tangled, the thicker you miss.

03.

likes what Yang Lan said: "Sometimes, the joke of fate is that you have been hesitating until you finally make up your mind. It's time for the curtain call."

Many things in love are like this. If you miss that time, there is no possibility of remedy.

is like Jeong-hwan in "Please Answer 1988". He likes Deshan but dare not confess. He obviously wants to be with each other but dare not face his own heart.

He always feels that now is not the best time to confess. Today he is under too much pressure, so he hesitates again and again, and the result is two people missed.

also had a good impression of Jeong-hwan because of his virtues at the beginning, but he thought that Jeong-hwan didn't like himself, so he slowly fell in love with others.

Many answers in love are really not as important as action. When you insist on the answer, the answer has been changed during your constant hesitation.

So, if you always "can't help but" think of someone, just tell the other person. Your actions can let the other person see your sincerity and let yourself know whether to continue or stop here.