Many lovers cried out the mistakes of Mai Yuan when their relationship was broken and falling apart: "He was very good when he was with me, but now it is completely different. I really didn't think he was such a person."
But in the world, he is still the same him, but you didn't see it clearly from the beginning.
Couples who fall into love can easily be fascinated by love and are used to wearing colored glasses to observe each other. Can get along for a long time, the freshness is exhausted, all contradictions and estrangements will surface unconsciously.
He has not changed, but he no longer hides his true self. When you can't accept his exposed shortcomings and shortcomings, you will easily become disappointed, and the so-called "love" is long gone.
Love and deep love are two completely different things after all. To truly love someone, you will never change your heart because you see the other person clearly, but even if you see it through, you still don’t want to separate.
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When getting along is very happy, not necessarily love
Why do you say that when getting along is very happy, not necessarily love?
Because happiness is not the only criterion for love. Today you feel very happy to get along with him. The two people have many common languages, so you can talk and relax. But tomorrow, you may have the same reaction with another person, feel that you are too late to meet, and even cannot bear to part.
Encountering a bosom friend in a huge crowd is certainly worthy of joy, but this is not love. It is not so much that you love him, it is better to say that you like the relaxed and happy atmosphere when you get along with him. This kind of feeling can be called appreciation, but it is still close to love.
True love is just the opposite. Today you feel that you are too late to meet each other and you can share each other's happiness with him. When you are unhappy tomorrow, two people can also talk to each other and tolerate each other. This is the expression of love.
Love is not only about sharing happiness with each other, but also taking responsibility for each other.
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Love is very inclusive
The most ideal love in the world is not two people who have no shortcomings grow old, but the lovers are still willing to be tolerant after understanding each other and discovering each other's shortcomings and shortcomings. , Treat this feeling with peace of mind.
True love will tolerate each other's shortcomings. The longer two people get along, the more reluctant they will find each other's strengths. Lovers are always in a virtuous circle of complementing each other's strengths and weaknesses. Only those who have truly loved know that "beauty in the eyes of a lover" is not a lie.
So good love starts with understanding, willing to put yourself in empathy, willing to stand in the other side's perspective, and feel his joy and sadness. When both lovers have such thoughts and are even willing to tolerate each other in this way, they have already harvested ideal love.
Although love is very inclusive, tolerance does not mean giving blindly or giving in blindly, or in other words, this relationship should be interactive. After all, maintaining love is not the responsibility of one partner, and it requires the joint management of two people. The unilateral tolerance and dedication of
is destined to lead to an imbalance in the status of the couple and make the other party less cherish.
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Love does not need to deliberately manage
When many couples are in love, there is always a feeling that the more they love, the more tired they are. You work hard, exhaust all your energy to keep the freshness when you first meet each other, and you want to always remember the joy of meeting on the first day. Although this idea is good, it is unrealistic, because true love does not require deliberate management, let alone exhaustion of your energy. When
likes a person, we will deliberately pretend to be ourselves, hoping to be perfect at all times, so that the other party will not forget the joy when we first met. The reason you do this is because you know in your heart that once the freshness is missing, he will leave you immediately.
can deeply love the difference, true love does not need to be deliberately disguised, and it will not suffer from loss because of the exhaustion of freshness. Love is unconditional company, even if you have many shortcomings, he will still treat you as before.
Like is the heartbeat, deep love is the heart, true love will not worry about losing, even if you don't say it, love will leak from the eyes and corners of the mouth. Love each other deeply and be with you forever. There is no need to swear each other, let alone operate deliberately.
writer Han Han said: "If you like someone, you are happy together; if you love someone, you still want to be together even if you are not happy."
this is hiHuan and deep love are the most obvious difference.
is like this in many love affairs in this world. When two people first met, they were very happy and enjoyed the joy that this happiness brings. However, this relationship cannot withstand the time required for postgraduate entrance examinations. It is easy for the couple to run out of freshness and get bored after recognizing each other, which leads to the end of the relationship.
Therefore, I hope everyone can stay awake, and don't decide to accompany their partner for life because of temporary appreciation and joy. Deep love is different from liking. It is not love at first sight when first met, but recognition and nostalgia from the bottom of my heart.
Even if you are not happy, you still have to be together. Even if you see through the other person and know that he has many shortcomings, you are still willing to give your heart and stay with him.
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