Are you playing friends? Why are you single when you are alone and lonely and can't stand other people's affection? On the eve of "11.11", the "Chongqing Marriage and Love Big Data" created by Metropolitan News · Xiangyu and Upstream News released the 8th issue of the big data of marriage and love survey in 2020, and formed the "Why Are You Single? Survey Report" (hereinafter referred to as "Report" 》). The survey randomly selected 732 valid samples for analysis. Among the people who participated in the survey, 60% of singles had an attitude of "successfulness" toward leaving orders, but can "relianceness" leave orders?
survey object-
gender: male 42.6%, female 57.4%
age: 3.3% after 60, 1.6% after 70, 9.8% after 80, 14.8% after 85, 45.9% after 90, 21.3% after 95, after 00 3.3%
data analysis-
The attitude of nearly six adults withdrawing from singles is the attitude of singles
withdrawing from singles. According to the "Report", 59% of people said that they would follow suit, 37.7% said they expected it, and 3.3% said Indicates rejection.
Super three adults are most looking for someone when they are bored.
"Report" shows that only 29.5% of singles said they want to find someone at any time. When they are bored, 34.4% of people want to find someone. 32.8% of people want to find someone when they show affection, and 3.3% of people want to find someone when they give money.
Six adults believe that love is a person who seeks mutual care for the rest of their lives.
Regarding the nature of love, the "Report" shows that 60.7% of people think they are people who seek mutual care for the rest of their lives, 32.8% think they seek empathy, 6.5% Of people believe that it meets psychological and physical needs.
Nearly eight adults believe that love is a psychological sustenance to themselves
"Report" shows that 78.7% of people think that love is a kind of psychological sustenance to them, and 21.3% of people think that love is a restraint of freedom for them.
The love model of mentor and helpful friend is the most popular
For the love model that they like, the "Report" shows that 39.3% of people like to have space for both sides, and 39.3% like the mentor and friend type, and 14.8% like to play like a child , 6.6% of people like to stick together at all times.
Discussion 1: Why are you single?
"fate" has not reached
Mr. Tu (29 years old, budget officer): I really can't rush to get out of the order. I also had a relationship experience before, but it has been more than five years since I broke up, and I have never met a suitable person. Although my family has urged marriage and introduced some blind date, I always feel that love cannot be forced, others just refuse me Once I will not pursue it again. I think it's because the fate hasn't arrived, and when the fate has arrived, he will leave the order in minutes.
don't want to be constrained
Miss Jin (24 years old, fitness coach): Let's do whatever it takes and wait for the right person to arrive. However, I think it’s good to be single. Two people have to think about each other’s feelings when they are together. You have to think about what the other person wants to eat when you eat. You can eat whatever you want. When to sleep. There is no one between two people to be comfortable, and if two people do not have the same three views, they will be very tired. I am too lazy to find someone now. I think I may die alone.
Thinking too much about the back road
Mr. Wang (25 years old, art teacher): I have been single for more than a year, and the reason for breaking up with my ex-girlfriend is that there is a disagreement about where to stay, work and life. The reason why I am single now may also be that I think too much about the future. Some time ago, my family introduced a girl, and I thought that I might not always be in Chongqing in the future. I don’t know if I can keep going and what will happen in the future. , And then I feel that this is not good and that is not good, and in the end there is only "Forget it". I think I really think too much. Before I start dating, I think too much.
circle is too narrow
Liu Bo (31 years old, teacher of training institution): Since graduating from university, I have been working in a training institution. The university where the university classmates can be together is together, graduatedLater, they all have their own jobs, and only a few roommates are in contact. There is not much possibility for colleagues to group together, and the customers are basically elementary school students and parents of unequal ages. There have been some blind dates over the years, but none of them are suitable, and now I can only wait for the fate to come.
Discussion 2: Can "revolve" be released?
can take off the order, but the chance is very small.
Zhao Fangfang (28 years old, pastry chef): Many singles will say to take off the order: let it happen! Two people need fate to fall in love, and cannot be forced. However, there is a saying that "fate is determined by nature, and separation depends on man." I think fate is after encountering it, and then you have to actively fight for and work hard. It's difficult to get out of the list just blindly.
can’t, fate needs to fight for
Mr. Li (29 years old, supervisor): There are not so many you like in the world, and the other party also likes your good deeds, so fate also needs to work hard to fight for. My wife and I were able to get married because of my hard pursuit. My wife was beautiful and had a higher income than me. She actually didn't like me at the time, but I moved her with sincerity and action. In fact, everyone has the right to fight for love. If you want others to like yourself, you must strive for it, show your strengths, and let the other person like yourself. Only after working hard and fighting for it, no matter what the result is, I will not regret it. The love you win through your own efforts will be more cherished.
Comments:
refuses to go to the subject against his own subjective wishes.
Xiangyu Emotion Expert Lu Wenji believes that humans are social animals and intimate relationships are vital to humans. From a health perspective, we need to fall in love and need company. But everyone is very different. When you need the care of your loved ones, this varies from person to person. For example, there are a very small number of people who do not need close relationships, such as some philosophers, mathematicians, and physicists, who have developed close relationships with the subjects they love. Respect for personal choice and refuse to be labeled are a sign of social progress. The timing, motivation, and intensity of each person's need for a lover are very different. We must respect the choices of others, and we must not use our own ideas to demand others, and we must not go against our own subjective wishes to find objects. After all, the ultimate happiness can only be experienced by yourself.
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