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I saw such a post on the forum a few days ago "I have an only child at home, will my parents buy you a house?"
The netizen who asked the question is An only daughter, , lives in a small county in an ordinary city. My father spends all his money on the hobby of buying a car. There is basically no savings at home.
She sees that more and more parents in society now buy houses for their daughters, but 's own parents have absolutely no plans to buy a house for her or save her dowry.
Therefore, this netizen was very disappointed. While disappointed with his parents, he also envied other parents' plans for their daughters. Why is there an only child in the family, and the parents do not plan for her future?
In a short period of time, this post caused hundreds of netizens to reply. Before a daughter gets married, she must prepare a house as her pre-marital property. It is a dowry and guarantee.
@燕儿飞:
daughter is now in college, and we have prepared a suite in our hometown.
doesn't know where she will develop in the future. If she goes out, this house can be rented or sold. It is all her property; if her daughter returns to her hometown, this is her own small house, and she decides how to dispose of it.
@do not want the sunset red:
must buy!
has such a daughter at home, and even if the area is a little smaller, the location is a bit close, and only a down payment is available, she still has to buy her own house.
If your daughter is married well, this is her dowry, if you don't marry well, this is the guarantee of life in the future. Z2z's purpose is to prevent her daughter from having nowhere to go when her husband says "This is my home".
In the traditional public perception, it is only natural for parents to buy a house for their son and wife, and the daughter and the purchase of a house seem to be totally indifferent. Surprisingly, still has many replies similar to the above-mentioned "parents will buy a house for their daughter", accounting for the vast majority of replies to this post, "subverting" the traditional perception in everyone's mind.
In recent years, the concept of patriarchal preference has changed, and the living standards of each household have also improved significantly. Therefore, buying a house for their daughter has become a choice for many families, especially those with only children.
In order to let her daughter be more confident in her marriage and not be arrogant in front of her in-laws, parents with wealthy families have already prepared a suite when their daughter is studying.
If the daughter is not happy, the couple will inevitably have a small fight. This house can calm her for a few days, even to the point of divorce, and it can also make her have the courage and confidence to leave. A place to stay.
You are a girl, and you will marry someone else's sooner or later. Your parents don't need to buy you a car or a house.
@Listen to the voice in the rain:
Although it is common for parents to buy a house for the only child, unfortunately, I have not met such parents. They never thought about this problem. They always felt that their daughter was married to someone else's family, and buying a house was a waste.
My dad teased my second uncle (two sons): "You have to work hard, you have to buy two houses!" The second uncle
will also joking with my dad: "Yes, not luckier than you, your family is also a girl You don’t need to buy a house, and you’ll be done with some money when you get married.”
@专治All kinds of dissatisfaction:
If you are a son, of course you will buy it. It is not necessary at all.
Otherwise, it will be cheaper for the man in the future. Is this not a wedding dress for others? I don't want to be called "taken by others". Z1z has to build a house after giving birth to a daughter.
Of course, there are many such answers. Even if has only one daughter in the family, the parents are unwilling or never want to buy a house for their daughter.
The reason is that is, of course, the deep-rooted patriarchal thinking, that it is right to buy a house for the son, and "the water thrown out by the daughter who married out" , the girl should rely on her husband and wifeFamily, after getting married, it has nothing to do with her natal family, let alone any house as pre-marital property.
Second, some parents are not patriarchal, and treat their daughters in every possible way. However, has no awareness of buying a house for their daughters as a "protection".
It is good for parents to buy a house for their daughter. This is not only a reversal of the patriarchal concept, but also represents the dedication and love of parents to their daughter.
But girls should also be clear: the real confidence is yourself, not the house.
, rather than jealous of someone else’s daughter who owns a house, it is better to choose to fight with your spouse, or to work hard alone, this is the real confidence.
Discussion topic:
girls, will your parents prepare or have you bought a house for you?
Parents, will you prepare or have you bought a house for your daughter?
What do you think of "buying a house for your daughter"?
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