A while ago, Zhang Jiamei, the principal of Huaping Women's High School, objected to her students becoming full-time wives, which caused an uproar on the Internet. The cause of
was that a student of Zhang Jiamei brought his family back to school to make donations after getting married. When Zhang Jiamei learned that the student is now a full-time wife, she was instantly furious and asked her to "get out!"
Zhang Jiamei firmly opposed her students to become full-time wives. She said: "Women should be cruel to themselves, you still count on them Raise you, when you have the ability, men will take you seriously, so women rely on ability." The implication of
is that full-time wives are not so good, and sooner or later they will have to pay the price.
The price of being a full-time wife is actually hidden in the second half of life.
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Pain for a full-time wife
"Full-time wife", as the name suggests, refers to a woman who has no job and is responsible for taking care of the family's daily life at home, also known as a "housewife." The debate about "full-time wives" has never stopped.
According to a "Survey Report on Chinese Full-time Wife" circulated on the Internet, "full-time wives" has been on the rise in recent years, with the proportion as high as 26%.
Who is Zhang Jiamei who has caused widespread discussion in society this time?
Zhang Jiamei is the founder of Huaping Girls' High School. She has only done one thing in her life: "teaching and educating people." In the beginning, she was just an ordinary teacher in the Yunnan branch. Later, she experienced a heavy blow in her life and saw the warmth of the world. She planned to do something practical for her small county. This thing is "Xing Education" to save those girls who often disappear from the classroom.
In 2008, after Zhang Jiamei's unremitting perseverance and various support, she successfully established the country's first all-free girls' high school for girls from poor mountainous families. So far, she has helped 1,645 students from poor families get out of the mountains and fulfilled the college dream.
Zhang Jiamei protects these girls with her life, she is undoubtedly a great woman.
It is such a loving woman who resolutely opposes her students being full-time wives, does not approve of women being full-time wives, and even drastically drives her students out.
Zhang Jiamei's sharp words pointed to the drawbacks of a full-time wife: losing income, relying on her husband for life, and extremely low risk resistance. For example, Luo Zijun in the TV series "My First Half of Life" and Gu Jia in "It's Thirty" are beautiful, rich and leisurely. They are so perfect that they are abandoned and abandoned. In the end, you can only go back to the workplace with a little bit to regain your confidence.
These words are certainly what Zhang Jiamei said to her female students who have no way out, but the public opinion has fermented so far, and there are many supporters, and it can be regarded as a wake-up call for other women:
once a person does not participate in social production, he cannot get it. The recognition of society makes it difficult to be independent when the family changes. In particular, Kochi women choose to be full-time wives, which is a waste of social resources. When there is a certain percentage of full-time wives in society, the status of women will be greatly reduced.
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as a full-time wife
Zhang Jiamei's concerns are not entirely unreasonable.
For unmarried and unborn women, their imaginations about full-time wives basically come from TV dramas or the narrations of people around them.
However, we only see their casual and cozy side, but can't feel the boringness of them all around the stove and the table. A life like
, if you can't get the approval of your husband, will make people break down and doubt yourself. What's more, not every full-time wife can be unrestrained, go shopping during the day, take a baby at night, hand over housework to the nanny, and have unlimited pocket money.
Actually, you have to switch between "buying food, cooking and washing dishes" and "sending children to pick up and take children." waits until her husband is off work, and may have to accept the other party's unreasonable fault finding. It is simply a free nanny + tutor! The value of
a person needs to be evaluated by others. If you are a professional woman, your judges are leaders, colleagues, and clients; if you are a full-time wife, then your judges are only family members.
When there is no income, the husband’s way of evaluating his wife is: whether the meal is done on time, whether the child’s homework is progressing, whether the house is cleaned, whether there is squandering money for shopping...
is a full-time wife, you must Be good at the heart of being pinchedManagement preparation. Even when there is a change in your family, you are also the first to throw the pot.
chooses to return to the family, which means that it is out of touch with society, and society will naturally not recognize its value. Sadly, women's efforts in the family have not received the recognition they deserve. The society does not recognize it, the family does not pay attention to it, and the contribution of the full-time wife just "disappears out of thin air."
Think about it, from "women without talent is virtue" to "women can hold up half the sky", how many people have worked hard to liberate women from the fate of "surrounding pots and stoves for a lifetime"? However, for several decades, some people have to return to the starting point of history. This is the root cause of Zhang Jiamei's sadness.
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The way to a full-time wife
Fortunately, for most ordinary people, a "full-time wife" is just a last resort in life.
Many young people now know the importance of education and are more inclined to accompany their children in person. Some young people live separately from the older generation, and it is not convenient for parents to take care of their children, so they choose to take care of them by themselves. Asking wives with relatively small incomes to resign to look after their children at home is the best strategy that has been weighed.
At work, we also often meet some mothers who bring their children at home. In order to subsidize the family, we have to come out to find work. Their job requirements are also very simple and rude: get off work early, stay close to home, do not work overtime, wages can be negotiated, and everything must be children first. How many companies can provide such positions?
These women are also helpless as full-time wives. How to solve the problem of women quitting their jobs and taking children requires the efforts of the entire society.
As for those women who believe that "a good study is worse than a good marriage", and the women who plan to escape the pressure of survival by being housewives from the beginning are the people who need to be alert to risks. Maintain the connection with the society and do not give up the realization of personal value, so as not to bet all the bets on the partner and accept everything passively.
Being a full-time wife is certainly a personal choice and beyond reproach. However, the contribution of the full-time wife of has not been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and the society has no guarantee system for this group. Laziness at this time means "going against the current, or retreating if you don't advance."
At the end of the incident, the female student whose donation was rejected also came forward to reply. She thought Zhang Jiamei's words were "ugly and righteous". She herself was admitted to a special post teacher in the second year, returned to the workplace, and lived a life completely different from the original.
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Xuzhou Talent Network
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