It is true that in today's society, there are more and more men and women left. However, the situation of the leftover men and the leftover women is not the same. Most of the leftover men are left because of their inadequate conditions, and most of the leftover women are left because of excessive "picky".
With the openness of thinking and the improvement of women's status, women are no longer shackled by the traditional feudal thinking of "good women never get married". They not only dare to abandon the old bad marriage, but also dare to pursue a new life.
But in any case, marriage is sacred after all. For women, marriage requires caution, and remarriage requires caution. Men are generally more rational and realistic. Many men marry a second-married woman, mostly not because of love, but for the following purposes.
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has a stronger purpose of living together.
is influenced by human genes, and men are much more traditional in their bones than women. Not to mention marrying a second-married woman, many men will have a lifetime of cherishing their wives who are not virgins.
However, men are relatively more pragmatic than women. Even if a woman is married, some romantic imaginations will pop up in her mind from time to time, and men know that the essence of marriage is to live a good life every day.
So, when he realizes that a woman is very suitable for living, and he yearns for that kind of life, even if this woman has had a marriage, he will persuade himself to ignore it. Because living is his need, and the partner's marriage history is flawed. As long as the demand is greater than the flaw, then the flaw can be accepted.
In this case, for women, if you have the same idea. Then, it can be said that you hit it off, and your marriage will be smooth sailing, dull but warm.
However, if you still have some unrealistic circumstances or unsuitable feminine affections in your heart, and you want the second marriage to satisfy you. Then, you may be disappointed again.
Regardless of the first marriage or the second marriage, it is really necessary to find out the needs of each other and oneself before marriage.
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help him take care of his family and share the pressure of life.
In this world, almost every adult is moving forward with weight, especially middle-aged people. It’s really hard for people to be middle-aged, with old people at the top and young people at the bottom.
is like Su Lixing in the TV series "Dear Myself". He is a well-paid professional elite and he hardly needs to worry about money. But because he is a single father, he often feels powerless between work and taking care of his daughter.
Once he couldn't go to the kindergarten to pick up his daughter in time because he couldn't leave the meeting, so he met Zhang Zhizhi, who was also a single mother. Before long, he proposed to Zhang Zhizhi with the diamond ring.
Obviously, he wanted to marry Zhang Zhizhi not because he loved her much, but after several contacts, he found that Zhang Zhizhi was gentle and virtuous, patient with the children, caring for the children very carefully, and he did a good job. More importantly, my daughter also likes her very much.
Su Lixing is a man born for his career. He needs a woman like Zhang Zhizhi who takes care of his rear area. He asks Zhang Zhizhi to marry Zhang Zhizhi. Rather than marrying a wife, he should marry someone who will spend his life with him. housekeeper.
Later, Zhang Zhizhi finally figured out what she wanted and rejected Su Lixing. I hope that everyone can be like Zhang Zhizhi. When marriage and self-pursuing can only choose one, think carefully about which one is more important to yourself.
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The cost of marrying a second-married girl will be relatively small and easier.
Two days ago, I called home, and my mother told me that a distant relative's house was going to have a wedding recently and that my son was going to marry a wife. It sounds like a happy event, but I still hear a trace of regret in my mother's tone.
It turned out that my distant cousin was going to marry a second-married girl. I knew that the old parents were more traditional, so I comforted on the phone and said: "What's wrong with the second marriage, maybe someone is true love." Z1z
mother sighed: "What true love is not true love? It's not because I don't have money. I heard that I didn't ask for a lottery to marry this wife. I asked for a ring of 800. If this is a first marriage, how could it be so easy to get married?"
In my impression, this cousin's appearance and academic qualifications are not bad, but the difference lies in his family background. In the past few years, his father was seriously ill and spent all the money at home.He still owes a lot of money. In the past two years, I heard that he has been going on a blind date, but many girls are either scared off when they hear about his family's situation, or they don't care about opening their mouths or asking for a house or a car for a gift.
does not mean that second-married women must be cheap, but generally speaking, the cost of marrying a second-married girl is indeed much lower than that of a first-married girl.
Marriage cannot be measured by money, but in today's society, marriage does cost money. Without money, you may really not be able to get married.
All in all, marriage is about looking at needs and matching ability. Whether a man or a woman, there must be a balance in his heart. When the two are balanced, this is the most suitable marriage.
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