"It is not enough to know how to love, but also how to be loved!" Tell your family how to love yourself, and then your family will love you in the right way.
"It is not enough to understand the lover, but also to know how to be loved." Well-known actress Jia Jingwen and actor Xiu Jiekai are model couples admired by many people. Jia Jingwen once said that she used to be relatively independent in emotional relationships, but now she thinks she can be in need "Showing weakness and relying on the support of the other half" when helping is also the secret of keeping marriage fresh.
Becoming a person who can be loved is a very important part of a family relationship. If you only give love unilaterally, but you cannot be loved, not only will you feel unloved, but others will also feel frustrated. How to "practice to be a person who can be loved"?
Shows the cutest self to the closest people.
Appearance refers to not pretending to be cute or dressing up every day, but to maintain a clean, tidy and pleasing look. This is also a way to show respect for each other. "Never feel that you are an old wife, it doesn't matter," the pastor Kor Shaoen once shared. Many people feel that "you haven't seen anything before" after they have been married for a long time, and become sloppy and unkempt, but "don't be presumptuous just because you relax." Well, you must also have basic politeness at home.” Z12z will not be sloppy in front of important people. It is also a way to show respect .
Kou Shaoen said that everyone shows the best to outsiders and the ugliest to "insiders", but this little habit tends to "push the other side out". For example, what your husband sees in the office is the elegant side of other people’s wives, and when you come home you see you like a yellow-faced woman; or, your wife sees the handsome side of other people’s husbands outside, and look back at home. When her husband looked sloppy, when she was in a bad mood, this handsome male colleague made a cup of coffee to comfort her and said that it was okay. Can her heart not be shaken? Chen Wenqing, lecturer on the
i-family family education platform, also shared that in the past, in order to take care of the children, he didn’t care about what she was wearing. She wears sweatpants every day from morning to night, and she does not dress up. Just walk in by yourself, "because it's embarrassing to walk with me", but since she started to pay attention to dressing, the children walked next to her and felt "very face-saving!" The parent-child relationship also pulled in. Keep your appearance neat and tidy, and you will easily feel "cute".
is loved to practice! Train your ability to "carry on love"
"There is a mother who is used to giving fish to her children. She only eats fish heads. The children think that their mothers like to eat fish heads. When they grow up, they will buy fish heads for their mothers. In the end, my mother was angry and said that she didn’t like eating fish heads at all!” Chen Wenqing laughed and said, because her mother didn’t let her children know how she wanted to be loved, and the child wanted to love her mother but couldn’t find a way. “So I told my son, mother I also like to eat fish meat, but because you are still young, fish heads are not tasty, so mom eats it now, and you will have to change it when you grow up!" Tell your family how to love yourself so that your family will use the right way. love you.
Chen Wenqing believes that we must also become a "carrying over of love". She gave an example. The mother-in-law loved her husband very much, and she was reluctant to do anything when she was young. "I found that many people are like this. When others want to help you, you say No! It’s okay! Just sit there!” Until now, my mother-in-law is getting older, and sometimes she sighs: “I used to do so much, but now I ask him to change a light bulb. He has to take a long time to get it.” She thought, It’s because the mother-in-law didn’t let the child develop the habit of helping. The child naturally didn’t know how to be considerate of his mother. Therefore, he should practice accepting others’ good in a timely manner and become a person who can be loved. Train yourself not only as a lover, but also Only with the ability to be loved can the relationship last.
Do you want to keep the relationship long? In addition to giving love, it is also necessary to practice "cuteness" so that each other's love can be equal. Everyone at wants to feel that they are needed, accepting each other's love and help, invisibly can enhance each other's self-worth, and strengthen mutual feelings!
Article transferred from: Guo Guo
Author: Xiao Lingjie
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Proofreading: Grace
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