Husbands and wives should keep in mind: if the body is far away, the marriage will be broken up

文|Xueluowuchen

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On weekends, a group of friends went to Huan Ge for dinner. During the dinner, everyone was chatting and laughing and joking with each other.

talked and laughed, I don’t know who said: "Don’t make a big joke, be careful that your wife is angry, and you can’t get in the door when you go home!"

"Who is sleeping with his wife now? How comfortable is sleeping by myself."

was originally. It was just a funny joke, but Li Qing's husband suddenly popped out this sentence.

I subconsciously raised my head and glanced at Li Qing. She saw a slight change in her face, but after a while she pretended to be nothing, tidyed up her appearance, smiled and said that she left the table when she was full.

The other women stared at each other, and were silent for a long while. I was thinking about saying something, not wanting the scene to be too ugly, but after all, I didn't say it.

I don't have much impression of Li Qing. I usually meet a group of my wives a few times in the afternoon tea and see her dressed up. Sometimes when we complain about each other's husband, she also laughs without saying a word.

seems that every family has hard-to-read sutras. I just didn't expect that whether the same "bed" is now a problem, let alone whether there are "different dreams".

papi sauce once said in a program: no matter how busy she and Lao Hu are, before going to bed every day, she and Lao Hu will sit down and chat for half an hour and talk about everything to ensure communication between the two parties.

And like Li Qing’s husband, who even sleeps in a comfortable and comfortable way, it’s hard to imagine such a high-quality company before going to bed.

In the past, husbands and wives were most afraid of having the same bed and different dreams. Now the big environment is better, the house is bigger, and there are more rooms. You have to prevent your partner from splitting the room. It is sad to think about it.

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Sanmao once said: If love does not fall into the real life of dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money, it will not last long.

Therefore, husbands and wives should keep in mind: if the body is far away, the marriage will be broken up.

This reminds me of the TV series "Thirty Only" I watched before, a couple in the last egg, those daily trivial and warm scenes. There is a scene in

, which is very impressive, and it is also about sleeping.

Because of economic reasons, a family of three lives in a small house. One night, the little boy wets the bed in the middle of the night. The woman gave her husband a little bit.

The man quickly got up and picked up his son, and walked to the other side of the bed. The woman also easily changed the sheets, and then let the child lie down gently before the couple fell asleep again.

repeated several times in the middle of the night.

saw someone in the barrage with emotion and pushed her husband, but there was no response at all. Z1z

’s superimposed likes are mostly sad and depressed.

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So, why do some couples choose to sleep in separate beds? There are probably the following situations:

The first type: the quarrel is too fierce, and there is no way to calm down in a short time, so choose to separate beds to calm down.

Although there is a saying that couples fight at the end of the bed. But in reality, there are some situations, it is indeed a moment and a half, and there is no reconciliation.

Therefore, sleeping in separate beds at this time is a good compromise.

Because the thinking structure of men and women is different, after a fight between men and women, it is often that women can't sleep and can't quickly calm down. And men, even if they regenerate, can still sleep as they should.

Therefore, if you can't sleep in separate beds, a woman who can't fall asleep will inevitably become angry when she looks at the man who is sleeping peacefully next to her. Maybe she will wake up the man for the next row.

The second type: There seems to be no problem on the surface of the relationship, but because of different life schedules or different sleeping habits, one or both parties decide, two people sleep separately.

actually keeps going like this for a long time, and it is inevitable to whisper in my heart. Even intimacy contact cannot be guaranteed, and if they cannot accommodate each other's habits, it is relatively more difficult to coordinate daily chores.

The third type: it is the more common one mentioned above, and it is divided after marriage with children.

is generally because men feel that their children are noisy, affecting sleep, and actively move to another room to sleep. This approach of

is actually very irresponsible. If the child's affairs are completely thrown out, the wife will inevitably complain.

waiting for the child to grow up, Asked to move back, but also said: I want to live a good life with you, but you care about so much.

Married woman's heart, that's how it gradually became calm.

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Huang Zihua said a very interesting thing in Dong Du Xiao: Before getting married, it was called desolate. Freedom is freedom after marriage.

Actually, this is an irony.

Let’s ask, a couple never cares whether the other party returns home or sleeps with themselves, free and unconstrained. This kind of freedom concept cannot last in marriage.

Therefore, between husband and wife, don't let the "body" be too far apart, it will ruin the marriage.

"Things from near to far, deep to shallow and clear streams. High to tomorrow and the moon, close to relatives to couples." This poem by Li Zhi tells the relationship between husband and wife very well.

Husband and wife can have an intimate relationship, but they will also become the most strangers because of not getting along well.

If you love, why do you have to live so pure and low-hearted, and your heart is as calm as water?

Therefore, it is necessary to deepen physical contact and increase the sense of inner security.

Don't change your mind because your body is far away.

It can be said that in a marriage, the harmonious relationship between husband and wife, the better the relationship goes over, in fact, it needs to be managed carefully, of course, it also needs some methods and methods, otherwise, the relationship will inevitably become weaker.

So, how do we manage marriage and manage the relationship between husband and wife?

has a book here, I hope you can read it carefully, the name of the book is "Marriage Psychology".

You can find answers to most of the problems you encounter in marriage, such as how to live a good marriage, solve various minor situations that arise in marriage, and how to deal with problems between husband and wife.

When you are more and more sure of marriage, how can you not feel the happiness of marriage?