Text: May
Under normal circumstances, a man will come back after a short break in his relationship. Because men are generally passionate and long-lasting, they will be tempted by other women they think of in marriage, but they will not abandon their pillow.
However, if a woman goes wrong in the relationship, the possibility of turning back is very small. Because women are infatuated and unfeeling, they can humble into the dust when they love someone, and when they don't love someone, it's hard for a daughter to buy her a smile.
Therefore, it is often said that you must not force a woman to change her mind. Once a woman changes her mind, it is easy to lose her mind. If she walks, she will be out of your world forever.
So, under what circumstances do women usually change their hearts?
01
When you completely chilled her heart.
Fireworks are easy to cold, and people are afraid of cold. Frozen three feet is not a day's cold, a heart from hot to cold is definitely not a matter of overnight.
When she encounters a problem at work and feels at a loss, you just watch and play games by yourself, interrupt her confession impatiently, and ask her not to bring work matters to your home to affect you mood.
She is uncomfortable, and when she is most uncomfortable and helpless, you can't see a half-careful and distressed expression on your face. You can help her pour a glass of water, and you are still reluctant.
She had a conflict with your family. When she was alone and helpless, tears were rolling in her eyes, but you chose to turn a blind eye, and even stood on the same front with your family and accused her of not being wrong.
You think these are trivial things, but you don't know that this trivial thing that you don't care about is like pots of cold water, pouring her heart down again and again. When her heart is so cold that there is no trace of heat like ice cubes, you won't be able to cover it anymore.
When you complained about her unfeeling, would you still remember that she had been tender in every way, but then she was chilled and her tenderness was frozen.
The chilled woman is like a locked door, the door will open, but not for you.
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When you completely disappoint her.
Disappointment is like a coin, you can always save enough to buy a ticket to leave. When a woman is completely disappointed in you, it is when she leaves you.
In the movie "Forgive Him 77 Times", the heroine has a diary dedicated to record what the hero disappointed her. When it was recorded for the 77th time, the heroine chose to leave decisively, ten years The long-distance love race ended in failure.
This reminds me of a friend of mine. She has been in love with her boyfriend for many years and has long regarded each other as her life partner. However, on the day when the boyfriend proposed to marry him in public, he left him with a decidedly cold back.
She said: "In the past six years, if you propose to me any day, it is not that you will not marry me, but now, I am sorry, I will never marry you."
They are together first In 1970, her boyfriend said that she didn't want to be too fast and wanted to get along more before considering getting married. She agreed.
When they were together for the third year, her boyfriend said that we are still young and we should put our career first. She also agreed, but she was a little bit lost inexplicably.
When they were together for the fifth year, her boyfriend said that getting married is a lifelong matter. I hope we all will consider it carefully. She was disappointed, but still agreed.
In the sixth year they were together, at the end of last year, she once again proposed to her boyfriend to marry. She said that after the year I will be thirty, and this year I can’t make a decision. Good to confess.
The boyfriend was silent for a while and said, I don’t want the two of us to get married for the sake of getting married. This will not be happy. The friend smiled, said nothing, and never came back.
No woman is willing to leave the man she accompanies with youth, unless the accumulated disappointment is enough to exchange a despair.
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When you never feel your love.
Women are like flowers. Love is nourishment. Women who are nourished by love will become more and more charming, while women who have not been nourished by love for a long time will only wither slowly in marriage.
A woman is beautiful in nature, whoever gives her nourishment, she will go with whom.
I swiped an anonymous post on Zhihu. The post was sent by a woman. She said that she had cheated on her marriage, but she didn't feel any guilt at all.
She and her husband have been married for three years, but their lives are even more prosaic than the neighbor’s old couple who has been married for thirty years. Her husband likes to be independent from each other, so he almost never accompanied her when he went to the supermarket, night shift, or went to the hospital. Her husband pays attention to personal space, so she doesn't know his social circle, his mobile phone or his bank card password.
In addition, the husband is not only uninterested, but also good at calculating. She wants to spend a romantic wedding anniversary with her husband, but her husband refuses to work overtime. She asked her husband for money, but her husband coldly refused. He said that an adult with good hands and feet should feed himself.
Later, she met another man when she was on a business trip. The man not only gave her all sorts of humor, listened to her, gave her money, and accompanies her to do whatever she likes to do. She feels like herself all of a sudden Come alive.
She filed for a divorce with her husband. Her husband used all kinds of insults and then all kinds of retention, but she remained unmoved. She said: "I am not unfeeling, but since I am alive, I don't want to go again. Die. "
Everyone who comes to this world deserves to be loved, if you don’t love her with your heart, someone will take her away with love.
Regardless of whether a man or a woman, as long as he changes his heart, he will definitely become very unfeeling. Because love is gone, indifference is the norm.
Sometimes, instead of trying to keep a person who has changed her mind, it is better to think about why she changed her mind. Then take this as a warning, stop here, when you meet the next person, keep her with love.
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