There are three relatives who have the greatest influence on Deng Gong. One is his father, the other is his wife Zhuo Lin, and the third is his stepmother Xia Bergen. Mr. Deng was only 5 years younger than Xia Bergen. The two had never met before. When they first got along, they

There are three relatives who have the greatest influence on Deng Gong. One is his father, the second is his wife Zhuo Lin, and the third is his stepmother Xia Bogen. For a long time after the founding of the People's Republic of China, Xia Bogen lived with Deng Gong. The two got along day and night and had a very deep relationship. When Deng Gong passed away in 1997, she was extremely sad and shed tears. Four years later, she passed away suddenly and went to another world to meet Deng Gong.

Deng Gong left home when he was 15 years old and went out to work. He never returned home until after the founding of the People's Republic of China. At this time, his father and biological mother had passed away. Only his two sisters and stepmother Xia Bogen were still alive. Mr. Deng was only 5 years younger than Xia Bergen. The two had never met before. When they first got along, they seemed a little reserved. After getting along for a period of time, they gradually became familiar with each other and developed feelings, and they became much closer.

Deng Gong respected Xia Bogen very much and served her as an elder. He would discuss all important matters in the family with her immediately, and all marriages of his children would be approved by her first. Xia Bergen also cared for Deng Gong very much. She always treated Deng Gong as her own child. She would leave whatever delicious food she had to Deng Gong. If Deng Gong was in trouble, she would try her best to help him. She would never put on airs or show off.

During the turbulent period, Deng Gong was affected and was once sent to Jiangxi to work. Xia Bogen still lived with him. Every morning, Comrades Xia Bogen and Zhuo Lin would get up early to prepare breakfast for the family. After Mr. Deng went to work, Xia Bogen began to wash the dishes, clean up the housework, and take care of his young grandson. At that time, the living expenses of Deng Gong's family were only more than 200 yuan, and they had to save some money every month to send to the children who joined the queue in the countryside. Their life was very tight. In order to save money, the family raised livestock and grew vegetables by themselves. Xia Bogen often helped Deng Gong with the vegetable garden to ensure that the family could eat fresh fruits and vegetables all year round.

After the turmoil ended, Deng Gong was transferred back to the central government to hold important positions, and Xia Bogen also settled in Beijing. The Party Central Committee provided their family with service staff such as chefs and nannies, but Xia Bogen insisted on cooking and cleaning the housework by himself. This is the diligence and simplicity engraved in the bones of the older generation. It was not until the early 1980s that she suffered from Alzheimer's disease , and at the request of Mr. Deng and others, she stopped working and spent her old age peacefully.

html At the end of the 1980s, Deng Gong retired and spent more time at home. He often talked and laughed with Xia Bogen. Every holiday, the children of the Deng family would go home to have a reunion dinner. In order to prevent anyone from eating leftovers, Deng Gong stipulated that the meal could not be served until everyone was gathered. Once, Deng Gong's daughter's flight was delayed and it was already past dinner time when she got home. She thought she would be late for dinner, but when she opened the door, she found everyone sitting at the dinner table waiting. After she put away her luggage and washed herself briefly, the meal was officially served.

htmlIn the mid-1990s, Deng Gong suffered from a serious illness, and his health condition became worse and worse, and he was forced to stay in the hospital for recuperation. Xia Bogen's Alzheimer's disease also became more and more serious. She began to slowly forget her relatives, and her mobility became worse and worse. She would sit blankly after getting up every day and rarely spoke. One day in 1997, Deng Rong brought Xia Bogen food as usual, but she didn't eat a bite. She kept sitting on the bed and looking out the window in concentration.

Not long ago, Deng Gong passed away. The Deng family was worried that Xia Bogen would be mentally shocked when she knew the news, so they kept it secret from her. Deng Rong advised Xia Bogen to use his chopsticks and eat a little, otherwise he would starve to death. Deng Pufang also agreed, asking Xia Bogen to put his health first. If the food does not suit his taste, he can ask the chef to make it differently. Xia Bogen didn't speak, didn't move her chopsticks, and still sat there. It wasn't until the evening of that day that she said lonelyly, "He's really gone." Xia Bogen and Deng Gong were connected heart to heart. Even if the children didn't say anything, she knew something was wrong. Her favorite child left before her. Xia Bogen couldn't help but burst into tears, and Deng Rong, Deng Pufang and others couldn't help sobbing.

Since then, Xia Bogen's health has become worse and worse, and the smile on her face has become less and less. She always looks worried. Everyone understands that she misses Mr. Deng. Four years later, in 2001, she died suddenly at the age of 101. Her ashes were moved back to her hometown and buried next to Deng Gong's father's tomb. Many years later, when Deng Gong's youngest daughter wrote her memoirs, she commented in the book that Xia Bogen was a diligent Chinese woman. Although she did not know a single word, she understood many simple truths. Her life was ordinary but extremely great.

Xia Bogen and Deng Gong have no blood relationship, and they have never even met before 1949, but this does not affect the relationship between the two. They respect each other and support each other, and they have gone through glory and hardship together, survived the hard days, and ushered in a new life. Xia Bogen fell ill in his later years and forgot many things, but he still remembered Deng Gong. Such simple and sincere feelings are touching!