Two people choose to fall in love and live under the same roof, whether it is because they feel that life is boring and want to find someone of the opposite sex to fill the gap in life and try a new life, or they really like each other and want to stay with each other for a lifetime, build a beautiful marriage and leave no regrets in life.
When you start to fall in love, whether your original intention is to stay together for a while or to stay together forever; many things are difficult to change according to human will. Some "fate" may have been doomed from the beginning, but it was not clear at the time.
"You don't know what you mean by the song when you first hear it, but you already know what you mean when you listen to it again." When the people left the building, I realized that the choice to be together at that time had laid the foundation for today's separation. It’s just that life is not the same, everything has become old things, and old things will be replaced by new things, and life continues. If you don’t want to make the same mistakes again, you should be aware of these three details when you are in love with someone of the opposite sex. Do you understand these three details?
1. A matter of principle, is there a consensus?
Two people cannot reach a consensus on some principled issues, and fate is bound to happen sooner or later. Even if they barely live together, it is difficult for each other to feel happy. The result of their mutual compromise: each other's lives will eventually leave regrets that they are unwilling to face. In order to avoid such regrets, they are likely to choose to end the relationship.
Just like between lovers, one longs for a child, the other wants to be a DINK from the bottom of his heart and is unwilling to have children, one is career-oriented and puts career first, and the other values relationships, and also hopes that his partner values relationships and puts relationships first.
When lovers cannot reach a consensus on some principled issues, they may choose to tolerate it at first, but when they can't stand it anymore, they may quarrel, and in the end the quarrel will often get out of hand, and it will be a matter of time before the relationship is over.
2. Do you dare to work together to face real problems?
Between lovers, if they can treat each other as their own, trust each other deeply, believe that the other person can support themselves, and are willing to support each other.
When facing some real problems, no matter what kind of suffering they encounter, they choose to believe in each other and are willing to share each other's worries. Whether it is materially or spiritually, they are willing to dedicate everything they have just to help each other and to accompany each other out of the current predicament.
Two people can face real problems hand in hand, work together, and help each other in the same boat. The relationship between the two people can often be well maintained.
On the contrary, if two people are unwilling to face real problems hand in hand, and when they encounter problems, they each have their own intentions, treat each other as outsiders, and do not want to be implicated by the other party, it will naturally be difficult to maintain this relationship for a long time.
3. Can respect and accept each other.
When two people are together, they don’t take each other seriously, ask the other person to do this or that for them in the name of love, do not consider the other person’s feelings, and do not respect each other enough. This will often cause the other person to feel bored.
At the same time, when two people are together, they like to focus on each other's shortcomings, like to care about each other, and will not tolerate each other. The two people often quarrel over trivial matters, which eventually makes the relationship between the two people become more and more tense.
Between opposite sexes, if you do not know how to respect each other and are unwilling to accept each other, it will be difficult to maintain the relationship for a long time. If you want to stay together to the end, you must know how to consider each other, respect each other, and accept each other's shortcomings.
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