Introduction Everyone yearns for a beautiful marriage life. They can speak their own words and take care of each other. Whether in life or psychologically, they will have a happy mood every day. Good couples love each other no matter what, and do each other without distinguishing

Introduction

Everyone yearns for a beautiful married life. They can speak their own words and take care of each other. Whether in life or psychologically, they will have a happy mood every day. Good couples love each other no matter what, and do each other without distinguishing between you and me. Only by understanding and tolerance can they last a lifetime.

often not everyone can have a good person, because many reasons cause the partner to leave disappointed and sadly. At this time, some people will choose to live alone, and some people will find companions to live together. However, remarriage in the elderly is not as easy as imagined, because people of this age have formed their own habits and it is difficult to change themselves for each other, so many elderly people will leave disappointed again.

The elderly must live with people who have the same life philosophy as theirs, so that your life will be happy, otherwise it will be a mess.

is like the aunt below. She found her beloved and lived with her. But after they lived together for a few months, the 55-year-old aunt was crying and was leaving. What was going on?

from Aunt Xu’s story

Hello everyone, I am Aunt Xu, I am 55 years old this year. The monthly pension is 4,000 yuan. Although I don’t have to worry about food and drink, my marriage is not what I want. Because I was born in that era, there was no love at all and I could only obey my parents’ arrangements. So I got married after meeting my ex-husband a few times. After marriage, I had disagreements and often quarreled. I was a positive and motivated woman, but my ex-husband was a lazy and lazy person, so I decisively divorced him with my young daughter.

After divorce, I went to do cleaning, worked as a nanny, sold vegetables, and worked hard to get up early and late every day. A few years later, I also saved a savings. Later, I used the only 60,000 yuan to learn from others to do clothing wholesale. With my courage to endure hardships and try, I quickly gained a foothold in the clothing market. During this period, many men wanted to pursue me, but I refused them all.

At that time, I thought that there were too many conflicts about remarriage, and they had no common children. In addition, my daughter was still in junior high school. In order to avoid being wronged, I never looked for her. Moreover, I had the ability to make money, so what do I want a man to do! Why bother yourself?

When I was 50 years old, I saved millions of savings and paid social security myself. Although I have not issued a pension yet, the interest on the deposit is enough for me to live, so I simply quit and started my old age.

My daughter has also got married, only 10 kilometers away from home. After marriage, she has been very busy. She has to take care of her children and have to take care of her mother-in-law who is ill in bed. Seeing that she worked so hard, I took the initiative to help her take the child to kindergarten. Seeing that I was working hard, my daughter asked me to go home to rest.

After returning from my daughter's house, my friends and I signed up for the Senior Citizens University to study dancing, music and calligraphy. We have a happy and fulfilling life every day. Sometimes we will organize our friends to go out to the countryside, bringing our own dry food and water, and talking about life together. I am a person who is content with the status quo. As long as I am healthy, able to eat and drink, I think about how I live happily.

I thought I was doing well alone, until Lao Chen appeared, which made me fall into a love affair again.

Lao Chen is 6 years older than me. He looks very attractive and elegant, has a gentle attitude and a charming smile. He retires from corporate management and belongs to the civil servant. His monthly pension is more than 9,000 yuan. His children are also excellent. They all settled in other places. Lao Chen lives alone like me.

We met at the senior citizen university. His hobby is calligraphy and he once won awards, so after retirement, he went to the senior citizen university to teach calligraphy. I was his student. Maybe it was because I was too stupid. Every time I wrote calligraphy, I was full of ink everywhere. Sometimes my hands and faces were covered with ink. He always helped me tirelessly. Every time he taught me to practice calligraphy, he never touched my hands, which was very gentleman.

Since I met him, I have become a fan of dressing up. Every time I go out, I will put on light makeup and wear beautiful clothes. I also love to learn calligraphy more. I like to see his smile. It feels wonderful. I have felt this for the first time in my life.I don’t know if I thought too much or if he was really interested in me, but he would always teach me calligraphy and ask me for my contact information and address, saying that I was teaching me alone so that I could learn better. I didn’t think so much at that time and gave it to him.

Afterwards, he often asked me to eat, watch movies and visit the park for various reasons. Sometimes he met his acquaintances and others joked that I was his girlfriend, and he looked at me and smiled. Any clothes he thought were beautiful would be bought for me. When I went to pay, he said I looked down on him, and later I would give him some gifts back.

Because I know that my identity is very different from him, it is impossible to be together, so I have always hidden the emotion in my heart. But what I didn’t expect was that after half a year of knowing me, he suddenly gave me a bouquet of roses and said that I have liked me for a long time and asked me to give him a chance.

I asked him, "We are too different, it's not suitable!"

He said, "At all ages, I don't care so much, as long as you suit your own wishes, you can do whatever you want. Besides, I think no one can compare to the temperament you exuded from within, and I have never seen you get angry and are so enthusiastic about anyone. This is the companion I want to find."

So, I agreed to his request, and he also symbolically gave me a red envelope of 20,000 yuan and bought me some new clothes. We officially started living together.

was really good at the beginning, and he was not very macho. He would take the initiative to cook for me and do housework. He was considerate to me and gave me 5,000 yuan a month to use it for me to live. But after spending a period of time, his living habits and "excessive frugality" made me disgusted and disgusted.

Once, when I wanted to eat pork ribs, I went to the nearby market to buy pork ribs for 75 yuan. After I came back, he asked me how much I bought it per pound, and I said I didn’t know. He blamed me for being expensive and should buy it again. I can understand that if I compare the market, I actually asked me to ride an electric bike to go to a few more markets before buying. The market is also very far away. It takes more than an hour to ride a bicycle. The key is that he doesn't buy it and sleeps in at home and instructs me to buy it, which makes me very angry.

I retorted: "At all ages, my body is going downhill, and I need the quality of life. Besides, how much can I eat? Isn't it good to buy fresh ones nearby? If you have this time, it's better to do other meaningful things, let alone you not lack money!"

He said: "Even if you have money, you have to have a plan to spend money, and you have to be thrifty. Besides, we have retired and have plenty of time to go shopping every day. You can buy whatever is cheaper. You must make a living every day. This is a virtuous woman."

In buying vegetables, I pursue quality of life, but he only needs to be affordable. If you just can't buy vegetables and go together, I will endure it. will have differences in water use that I can't accept.

In order to save water, he didn't rinse after urinating. At first, I thought it was him who forgot and I would go over and rinse it, but after a long time, I realized that he had to save foot washing water before rinsing. Sometimes I said he asked him to change it. After a few days of improvement, it made the living room full of flavor, which made me upset and quarrel with him every day about these trivial matters.

Once when I went out for a trip, it was still in a hot day. He had to bring his own meals just to save money on those meals, and it was packed in plastic bags. It smelled very strong. I told him not to take him, and it made everyone in the carriage look at us with strange eyes. I also accepted him if he was a trash collector, but he was a well-known leader!

This is a world of difference with my former life. I also have my own old age plan. When I was young, I wore gorgeous clothes, but I had to live such a miserable life when I was old. I could not accept this life.

I know that it is right to be thrifty. It is a virtue. But being too frugal is just being stingy and becoming a slave to wealth. The purpose of frugality is not to get worse and worse in life, but to make your future life better. If your future life is secure and you are too frugal, it is not that you can't live with yourself. I was really not suitable for him, so I broke up with him decisively.

. Who is right and who is wrong? Do you support Mr. Chen’s living habits?