is often criticized in a person's childhood and makes it difficult for people to trust themselves. This effect will still work as you become an adult, and it will not only affect your perception of yourself, but also the quality of your relationships.
Growing up with highly picky parents often shows the following signs.
1. It is difficult for you to believe in yourself.
Continuous criticism during childhood will leave people with the sequelae: your thoughts, feelings or behaviors are in some way wrong. Therefore, you are often troubled by self-doubt.
2. You are hesitant to accept new challenges.
Self-doubt and low confidence make it difficult for you to believe that you are capable of meeting new challenges. You often act cautiously and choose not to try, rather than take risks.
3. It is difficult to recover from the error.
It is normal for people to make mistakes, but for picky children raised by parents, even a simple mistake will remind you of all your past failures because your sense of self-worth is very poor.
4. You tend to be perfectionist.
The motivation for your pursuit of perfection is not due to high requirements for yourself, but the fear of messing up and exposing your shortcomings.
5. You keep apologizing.
When you were in your childhood, your parents always made you think you were wrong, so even if you were an adult, it is easy for you to assume that others will look at you in the same way.
6. You often feel defensive.
Of course, you will feel defensive: you have learned to be highly adaptable to possible attacks from an early age so you can guard against them. Your defensive response may cause your friend or partner to be upset that you “always do things the wrong way” – which won’t make you feel less defensive.
7. It is difficult for you to accept love
Even if friends and family express their love for you, you will doubt that they are a little tired of you because your parents convey a confusing feeling to you: they are very nice to you the moment before, and criticize you with harsh words the next moment.
8. You rarely take praise to your heart.
When someone says nice things to you, you will find a way to transfer it: usually self-criticism.
For example, for example, someone says they like your new shirt, you might say it is not the best color for you. In one way or another, you neutralize any positive emotions targeting you.
9. You have experienced a lot of social anxiety.
Because you don’t trust others’ positive views, you are often afraid of others’ criticism, and you are often worried about embarrassing yourself at work.
10. You have a stern inner critic.
If you listen carefully, you may hear the voice of your parents criticism in your own words.
11. You tend to criticize others.
Although you don’t like being criticized, you like to criticize others. It is easy for you to see other people’s shortcomings.
12. You often think too much.
Self-doubt and distrust lead to you spending a lot of time in your mind, and you often think too much.
How to cheer up:
These behaviors are not something that cannot be changed in a lifetime, and may not be reversed immediately, but through continuous awareness and practice, telling yourself the mistakes of these behaviors and the reasons behind them, you can become better.
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