Introduction
Everyone knows that after aging, a person's later life is destined to be difficult and difficult. There is no suspense. Although there are many ways for single elderly people to change the current situation, in comparison, more elderly people will choose to find themselves a partner and then live with each other.
Originally, the old man's idea was quite good, but in recent years, many elderly people live together with their partners, their lives are not happy, and sometimes they are even particularly miserable. The more reason is that the elderly people do not know much about their partners' details.
So, nowadays, when many elderly people find partners for themselves, they have to find one for themselves. They are very familiar with each other, preferably with their friends, classmates, or their former colleagues, etc. Only in this way can they live a comfortable life in the future. This sounds very reasonable, so is the case?
64-year-old Aunt Zheng decided to live a better life in her later years, and her former colleague promised her that during her time with her, she would give her 4,000 yuan in pocket money every month. The other party's attitude made Aunt Zheng very happy. Originally, she was full of various longings for her future life, but later she said that she could not live with him for a day and could only break up decisively. Why is this? Let's look down together!
64-year-old Aunt Zheng’s self-report
My surname is Zheng, I am 64 years old this year. It has been almost nine years since I retired. I am basically satisfied with my current life. At least I have food to eat when I am hungry, clothes to wear when I am cold, and have to eat when I am sick, etc. But I also have my own pain and difficulties, that is, when I was 50 years old, my original wife passed away.
When it comes to my original wife, I feel very guilty until now, and I always feel sorry for him. That night, because I still had work, I stayed at the unit to work overtime. When I finished my work, it was already eleven o'clock in the evening. At this time, there were no buses on the road, so I called my wife and asked him to drive to pick me up.
Before that, my wife was drinking in a restaurant with a few friends, but I later learned about this from his friend. My wife didn't tell me at that time. When he received my call, he immediately drove to pick me up. As a result, on the way here, he unfortunately had a car accident and died on the spot.
Later, when I learned the truth, I had been living in deep pain and guilt and could not extricate myself. It was precisely because of this incident that, for a long time later, I lived alone.
But at the beginning, because my daughter always took time to come home to visit me, I didn’t think there was anything wrong with this kind of living alone. But after my daughter gave birth to a second child, she could never go home to visit me again. So, I felt very lonely. After thinking about it, I decided to find a new and old partner for myself.
However, in terms of finding new and old couples for myself, I am different from some elderly people, because I think that if I find someone I don’t know or someone I don’t know at all, it will probably be very unreliable, and it is difficult for two people to live together to be happy. Mr. Lei, who lives in the same community with me, is the best proof.
is also at this point. Therefore, when I was looking for my wife, the first thing I said was that even if I couldn’t say that I knew the truth, at least, the other party must be someone I knew. In this way, everyone would understand each other and live a more relaxed and comfortable life in the future. After that, I met someone who really suited me, and he was Lao Mo.
Speaking of Lao Mo, I really know him very well. Why do I say that? Because Lao Mo and I were in the same unit and have worked for almost twenty years. Although we were not in the same department, we met almost every day due to our work relationship.
Lao Mo is a man who usually has no airs at all. Therefore, for a long time, he has gotten along well with his colleagues in the unit, and Lao Mo is also very popular. From the leaders of the unit to ordinary colleagues in the unit, everyone is willing to chat with him when they are fine. Of course, this includes me.
The most important thing is that Lao Mo is also a very enthusiastic person. For example, after my wife passed away, Lao Mo always took the time to comfort and persuade me. He asked me to forget the unhappy things in the past as soon as possible, and not be too stubborn and try to look forward. Therefore, I have been very grateful to Lao Mo for a long time. At the same time, Lao Mo has always given me a good impression.
But even so, my relationship with Lao Mo was limited to ordinary friends at that time. Since I retired, for various reasons, I completely lost contact with Lao Mo. Until one day last year, I went to a newly opened supermarket to buy daily necessities. During this period, I met Lao Mo. I met by chance, which made us both very happy. Then Lao Mo wanted to invite me to a meal, but I really couldn't refuse, so I had to agree.
I originally thought Lao Mo should have had a good life over the years, but after a conversation I learned that Lao Mo's wife passed away four years ago. The same experience made us feel a little sympathetic. During this period, we talked a lot. When we left after dinner, Lao Mo and I left each other with contact information.
Because Lao Mo and I live in the same city, since then, Lao Mo has called me every few days. He either invites me to dinner and movies or drives me to a farmhouse for fun. Sometimes he will buy me various gifts. One time it was my birthday, Lao Mo even specially found a few good friends and then set up a table in the hotel to celebrate.
I am a veteran after all, and I am not young anymore. Lao Mo's actions are obviously interesting to me. If he just wants to be an ordinary friend with me, then there is no need for him to be attentive to me everywhere. Although I have already seen Lao Mo's thoughts, I did not immediately look like Lao Mo's clarification, but seemed very calm. After all, I am a woman.
Just like that, after dating Lao Mo for four months, one day, Lao Mo took the initiative to tell me that he wanted to live with me and hoped that I could agree. To be honest, I have seen Lao Mo's thoughts for a long time. This has always been a good impression on me, especially after recent contact, I felt that Lao Mo was the one I wanted to find that person, so I immediately agreed to Lao Mo's request without thinking.
Before this, Lao Mo also promised me that during the time we were together, he would bear all the living expenses alone. Not only did I not have to pay a penny, but he would also give me another 4,000 yuan in pocket money every month. However, I need to take on all the housework at home. Of course, if I need help, he would also do housework with me.
Originally, I thought that not only did I meet the "right person", but the other party also showed such a good attitude and sincerity, then my life will definitely get better and better in the future, and I will spend the rest of my life in happiness and comfort. But after I really lived with Lao Mo, I realized that I was too happy.
Lao Mo is particularly good at calling people. He can do some things by himself, but he doesn't. He insists on letting me do them for him. When he comes out from outside, he asks me to bring him slippers. When he is thirsty, he asks me to make tea for him. After brewing, he has to hand them to his hands in person. If I don't do this, he will not drink the brewed tea.
Even sometimes, he even asked me to wash his feet on a whim. And whenever he saw me idle, he would immediately find work for me. Once, I struggled to mop the floor and sat on the sofa, and he immediately asked me to do something else.
Not only that, Lao Meng is also a man who has a high pursuit of quality of life. Every time I go out, I must polish his suitcase with grease. After washing clothes, I must iron a lot of his washing clothes and then fold them neatly in the closet.
The dishes he usually wants to eat, if I don’t meet his taste after I prepare them, he would not choose to just make do with it. Instead, he asked me to either order takeout for him or buy a new one at a restaurant outside to pack it for him to eat. In short, he never made do with it in daily life, but in this way, I endured a lot of hardship.
In front of outsiders, Lao Mo always speaks softly and never loses his temper with others. Even if others do something wrong, he always smiles slightly and doesn't care too much. But when he is with me, he seems to have another face.
Whenever I have something wrong, he will not listen to my explanation at all, but will immediately scold me loudly. Once when I was cooking, I accidentally knocked over the oil pot. His mouth was like a pot, and he kept saying all my faults. Even if I kept apologizing like him, he still did.
And that's it. Lao Mo had promised me before that if I needed help with housework in the future, he would definitely be with me. But in fact, sometimes doing a lot of housework will make me tired and I can't straighten my waist. But when I actually went to ask him for help, he always rude for various reasons, or hides away.
Not only that, Lao Mo also doesn't know how to respect me at all. He always doubts me. If I go out alone and talk to a opposite sex, if he knows it, after I come back, he will keep asking me what I said to the other party? I didn't do anything wrong, and I usually tell him the truth.
Although I was telling the truth, he didn't believe it at all. I either wanted to come to the other party's phone number to verify it. If he met the other party that day, he must confront the other party in person. If there was any difference in the middle, he would immediately make a big fuss with me. Later, when I saw the opposite sex I knew, I would choose, lower my head and pretend that I didn't see it.
The most important thing is that since I got along with Lao Mo, I really have no personal freedom at all. I am like his personal belongings. I must seek his consent wherever I want to go and what I want to do. Only by obtaining his consent can I do my own thing.
In the first half of this year, Lao Mo went out and was not at home. I was watching TV at home. At this time, my daughter called me and said that my little grandson was sick and hospitalized. He missed me in the hospital, so he put down the phone. I was anxious and hurried to the hospital my daughter said. When Lao Mo came back, he asked me where I was? I told him the truth.
Lao Mo didn't say much at that time, but when I came back from my daughter's house, Lao Mo's nose was not the nose, and his face was not the face, and then scolded me hard. For this reason, Lao Mo threw a teacup on the ground.
Afterwards, I thought a lot. I felt that I could no longer be with Lao Mo, because since I was with him, I have neither dignity nor freedom, nor any right to speak. I was even worse than a nanny. If I go on for a long time, what's the point of living with him? This is not the life I want at all, and I can't live such a life for a day, so I decisively chose to break up with Lao Mo.
At that time, Lao Mo was very anxious when he saw that I was going to break up with him, so he kept apologizing like me, and he also promised like me that he would treat me well in the future, hoping that I could give him a chance. However, when I think of Lao Mo’s previous actions, it was really hard for me to believe that he would change it, so I still broke up with him with a very firm attitude.
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