When it comes to marriage, some people will think of "times can be looked back and we will be together with each other", while others will say "will support each other and have deep love for each other", but these are not enough to describe the meaning of two people being together. In my opinion, it is not as appropriate as "young couples accompany each other in old age".
A person's life, when he was young, he had his parents rely on him, and after he got married and started a career, he had his lover and children to accompany him. It seemed perfect, but his life was short and he got old inadvertently. Maybe he had just enjoyed a comfortable life, but he was gone if he said he had nothing.
The feelings witnessed in time can always touch people's hearts. After all, it is easy to fall in love and difficult to stay together. We cannot stop ourselves from aging, but we have the ability to choose a way to grow old. If your wife leaves first, please rely on these three people to be safe and smooth for the rest of our lives.
children
people are not allowed to accept old age until their old age. The gray hair on their temples, the increasingly fancy eyes, the legs and feet no longer neatly, and the decline in functions in all aspects make the elderly feel sad.
The old saying goes well, "The daughter is the little cotton-padded jacket for her parents, and the son is the military coat for her parents." When we are in our twilight years, our children and grandchildren are surrounded by each other, which not only solves the elderly feeling of empty nests and loss, but also allows us to immerse ourselves in a warm family atmosphere.
However, some parents feel that even if they are filial, they are not easy to enjoy. After all, under the dual pressures brought by life and work, their children have to support their families and take care of their children, and the burden on their shoulders is really great. Therefore, when they face their children's concerns, they always report good news but not bad news. Whether they have a headache or have problems in life, they insist that everything is fine.
73-year-old Aunt Li is a retired worker in a packaging factory. Her wife has passed away for many years and has raised a pair of filial children, but she insists on not being taken care of by her children.
She believes that it is different for parents to raise their children and their daughters to feed their elderly parents, because no matter at any stage, parents do not seek rewards for their children, and do their best to ensure their children's life and education. But when children support the elderly, they may not necessarily have the selfless idea of parents taking care of their children, so when people get old, they will become more or less burdens for their children.
When the weather turned cold, Aunt Li always felt her head was drowsy and she was particularly tired. But she didn't take it seriously, and she didn't tell her children. Sure enough, she tripped on the stairs on the way to the vegetable market and fell, causing her ankle fracture in . Her children felt very distressed when they knew it. Although they didn't say anything, they could tell that they had been guilty for a long time.
As parents, it is necessary to maintain appropriate boundaries with children, but being too clear is to show off. If you have changed yourself, you must mention all the big and small things in your life to your children in a timely manner. Sometimes, inconspicuous small things can make your children prepare for the future, so don’t refuse them thousands of miles away, otherwise it will be difficult for them to be filial.
Life is only a few decades long, and children have a natural closeness to their parents. The experience and wisdom of the elderly can help the children. Children can also be filial to their knees, accompany each other, and care for each other. Isn’t it the warmth of family affection and the joy of family?
Friends
As the saying goes, "Socialization is done well, longevity is free of worries." For the elderly, if you have a few close friends accompany you during the old time, it may be more happy than the family. The reason is that close friends can find common topics, know how to listen, and will also enlighten the various unpleasant feelings encountered by the elderly, which can provide emotional support that their families cannot provide.
Friends can chat comfortably about what they see and hear, occasionally squeezing each other, occasionally laughing happily, without any worries about arousing the other party's disgust, and there will be no "generation gap" between parents and children. Therefore, friends are not only soulmates who enrich the spiritual world, but also helpers in life.
Uncle Song, who is over 60 years old, lives alone after his wife passed away. Once while making lunch, he suddenly felt chest tightness and dizzy. His son was away from home and could not relieve his near thirst. In a hurry, he called his friend Lao Chen and said that he was in a bad state. Lao Chen reminded him not to move around, and asked him to seek help from the property first.
When Lao Chen arrived, Uncle Song collapsed on the chair, his face turned pale, and his head was sweating on his head, and he was a little breathless. The property staff next to him fed him the heart-saving pills at home, saying that it looked like a sudden heart disease and had notified his son, and Lao Chen also asked for help on the way.
From getting into the ambulance until he was in danger, Old Chen was with him throughout the whole process, as if he was a relative. Afterwards, Uncle Song sighed, "Friends are the relatives we choose for ourselves."
I read an article before, saying that several best friends in their early 60s had joined the group to buy "oldering houses" in a city in the water town of Jiangnan. They took care of each other and supported themselves together, which really made many netizens envious.
People live for a lifetime, and everyone hopes to live comfortably, especially on the road to aging. If you can get three or five close friends, taste tea and flowers, recall the past, and face the rest of your life with a positive attitude, it seems that aging is not that scary, and it is not a way of life that is satisfying and comfortable.
Own
If you can rely on your children and rely on your friends when you are old, it is certainly the icing on the cake. On the contrary, if you can't borrow power, you might as well seek more blessings. As the old saying goes, "It's better to rely on yourself than rely on others." Don't ask for a dazzling life, at least you can shelter yourself from the wind and rain without worrying or caring about the faces of others.
First of all, you must master your pension money. Although talking about money is vulgar, it cannot be denied that the corresponding economic conditions of life you want must be. To put it bluntly, money is the confidence of your old age and the dignity of the elderly's life. If you go back for decades, you can make a living by physical and mental strength, but if you don’t have enough pension money for the rest of your life, you may be trembling and have to compromise with your life.
Secondly, please enjoy your body and mind. In the second half of life, we strive for health and mindset. Especially after the wife leaves, we must be calm and take a short look at it, and take good care of ourselves and learn to "do something big". If there is a small disaster, we must solve it in time. Don't drag small things into big things. At that time, we will be worried about ourselves. Regular exercise and regular experience are essential.
Then it is to cultivate some hobbies. Whether it is painting and calligraphy, raising fish and flowers, or singing and dancing, these seemingly entertainment projects directly affect the quality of life in their later years, and are a kind of cultivation and a source of happiness.
When we were in our prime, we were busy with our lives at all costs. After dying in our twilight years, we finally had the time and thoughts to "waste" the things we like, so don't think that cultivating hobbies is meaningless, on the contrary, it will allow us to have a more exciting life experience.
Tomorrow or accident, God knows which one will come first. Be kind to yourself who is getting old. Don’t expect too high, and don’t have unreasonable thoughts. Setting your body and mind is more important than anything else.
Conclusion:
Years have gone through a long road, and life has reached the second half in a flash. The gray temples and countless wrinkles have witnessed decades of time. We cannot escape the countdown of life and cannot stop our wife from leaving, but we can choose how to live in the future.
Whether it is living as an isolated island, chatting with children and grandchildren in the sunset, or drinking tea and flowers with friends in the courtyard, it is a unique feeling. Only by aging gracefully can you live up to your life. Only by treating yourself well, cultivating your body and mind, and managing your money can you face the afterglow of the sunset and enjoy the tranquility and comfort of your old age.
Today's topic: If my wife left first, how would you pass?
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