My hometown Yunnan has 26 ethnic groups, and each ethnic group has completely different attitudes towards marriage. Compared with the Han people, these ethnic minorities have more pure marriage and feelings. They generally do not care about material deficiencies, but pay great attention to each other's feelings for themselves. For example, the Yi people that has been passed down for thousands of years and the myth of love Ashima . In order to be with their beloved, Ashima does not hesitate to transform into a stone statue. This is the desire of Yi compatriots for loyal and beautiful love.
Last month, the young man next door to my house married an Yi girl. The girl was dignified and delicate, beautiful and generous. On the day of the wedding, the bride entered the house wearing Yi clothes, which attracted everyone's praise. It is said that the bride's clothes were sewn by her mother stitched them one by one, and it took three years to sew it alone.
There are several older Yi brothers in the team that gave their marriage with their parents. When they were fine, they talked about the customs and habits of Yi compatriots. The topic unconsciously talked about marriage. When they talked about the Yi people's attitude towards marriage, they have always been very loyal, and they also hope that the other party will be as loyal as they are.
The seventh brother who went to meet the bride together asked curiously: Just now, I saw a little man carved from wood in the bride's box. The bride's mother mysteriously wrapped the little man in red cloth and put it in the box. I wanted to ask at that time, but I was afraid that it was inappropriate, so I swallowed it again when I said something. The Yi brother heard the seventh brother's words and looked up at everyone looking at him with confusion. The Yi brother said mysteriously: That is a custom of our Yi people, a token of their love, and we looked confused.
On the day we returned to the door, we had a drink with this Yi brother. After a few glasses of wine, the Yi brother said with a blushing face: Do you know what the bride's bride put into the box when Xiao Wuzi and his friends got married that day? It was a newlywed that day. In that occasion, I said this topic was not very good. Today I can tell you about the purpose of this bride's bride.
Everyone looked at the Yi brother with their eyes fluttering. The brother blushed and his tongue rolled in his mouth and said: Actually, that wood is indeed the token of love for the two, but this wood villain has an important role. He is not only a witness to love, but more importantly, the supervision of their future marriage life. In the era when there was no law in the past, our Yi people were more casual in getting married and divorced, and love was pure, and it was simple to break up without love.
Yi brother was confused and looked up and saw everyone confused. Then he continued: Our young Yi men and women are united because of love. Before getting married, the bride's family will find craftsmen to carve the avatars of the newlywed men and women on both sides of a piece of wood, and then engrave the names of the two people and some vows under the avatar. These vows were carved by the bride and the groom themselves in the witness of their parents. On the day of the wedding, the groom will go to the bride's house to welcome the bride's house, and the bride will take this wooden villain to live at the groom's house, so this wooden villain is a witness to the love between the two. If the relationship between the two is happy for a hundred years, the wooden villain will naturally be preserved. If there is a change in their marriage, when they divorce, the bride will take out the wooden villain, then use a knife to divide it into two, and each will leave with half of it.
When everyone heard this, they suddenly realized. The Yi brother was excited and then said to everyone: Our Yi people’s wedding is relatively simple and rough, and divorce is also very simple. Of course, there is a law now. Both couples must register at the Civil Affairs Bureau whether they get married or divorced. These customs have become a ritual.
The Yi brother laughed and said: In fact, this custom is constantly evolving. According to legend, in ancient times, it was easier for us Yi people to divorce. The couple didn't want to pass it. The party who wanted to divorce only needed to hand the wooden stick burned with fire to the other party. If the other party took the wooden stick, it means that they agreed to the divorce. Later, they felt that the wooden stick burned with fire was black and dirty, so gradually evolved into carving villains with wood to complete this ceremony.
Later, the Yi brother told us a true story in their village. The Yi brother said: There is an Yi father in our village who likes to drink and is drunk almost every day. He has no children in his life. When he was 65 years old, he felt that he was in poor health. Once he went crazy and went to the next village to recognize his relatives, but he was beaten up by others.
Everyone was puzzled. The Yi brother picked up the cup and took a sip of tea and continued: In fact, the Yi father did have a son. When he was 23 years old, he went to the village next door to get married. Two years after getting married, because the Yi father loved to drink, his wife could not bear it. After many persuasions failed, one day, while the Yi father was out for business, he secretly took his son over one year old to his parents' home. When the Yi father came home, he understood everything when he saw the wood with his avatar on the table that halfway through the halfway. The Yi father knew that the separation of the villain means that his wife had decided to leave, so he did not bother him anymore. In a blink of an eye, decades have passed. Although not far apart, he and his son and daughter-in-law have never met. Since then, he has been drinking all day long to drown his sorrows. As time goes by, everyone thinks he is crazy, and then gave him a nickname called Crazy San.
Yi brother smiled and said: Just last month, the Yi father felt that he had not had much time, so he dragged his seriously ill body to find his son, but was beaten up by several young people in the village. It was probably because the boy felt that a father suddenly appeared and could not accept it. The Yi brother then said: After his father was beaten by his own son, he returned to the village in disappointment. As a result, a few days later, the people in the village found that he was dead at home, and more than half of his toes and fingers were gnawed off by rats. When the Yi brother said this, his eyes were full of sorrow, and then he slowly stood up and walked towards the door. Everyone looked at the back of the Yi brother, and they dispersed in a little disappointment.
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