I am very good to my son and daughter-in-law, but unexpectedly, my wife only passed away for half a year and her daughter-in-law began to despise me and arranged to find a partner for me on a blind date, wanting to kick me out.
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My name is Uncle Liu, I am 61 years old this year. I used to be a math teacher in a middle school in the county. I retired last year and can receive a monthly pension of 4,500 yuan.
My hometown is in a small town. There is a five-story building in my home. The first floor is the storefront. The second and third floors live in my family. The fourth and fifth floors are for rent.
My parents opened a grain and oil store by themselves. My wife is from a rural area and has been helping her parents in the store after getting married. In the second year of marriage, my wife gave birth to a son, and our family was so happy.
Because my family is a single-handed family for three generations, my parents have always hoped that we could have more children and help the family grow up. But at that time, I was very careful with family planning and . I was a teacher. If I insisted on having a second child, I could not continue to work in school.
In order to let us have more children, my parents moved me to quit my job and said that I would get the little salary for a month, which is not as good as their income at home for half a month.
Although my parents persuaded me from many ways, I still don’t want to quit because I like the job of a teacher very much and don’t want to go against my wishes for money.
And I think that having too many children will distract your energy, so it is better to cultivate your son wholeheartedly.
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My parents couldn't persuade me, so they had to let me go.
Because there is only one child, our family put all their thoughts on his son, worried that he will be hungry, afraid that he will be cold, and holding it in his hand will hurt. My first priority when I came back from school on the weekend was to teach my son to read and read.
My son is smart and smart. With our careful training, he learned addition and subtraction within 100 at the age of five and learned more than 300 words.
My wife is a virtuous woman. In order to help me work with peace of mind, she kept her children and the family in an orderly manner and never had to worry about it.
says that behind every successful man there is a woman who silently gives. I am rated as an excellent teacher by the school every year, and half of my wife's contribution is given in it.
Although I teach in the county town, I didn’t let my son study with me because I was busy with work and was afraid that I would not be able to take good care of my son.
Fortunately, my son is also very successful. Although he studied in the town in elementary and junior high school, he was admitted to the best key high school in the city with his own efforts.
High school is a school accommodation, a little far from our town.
In order to take good care of my son, I asked my wife to rent a house near the school to accompany her. I occasionally see them on weekends.
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Three years later, my son was admitted to a 985 key school in Zhejiang with excellent results. I also specially set up more than a dozen banquets to celebrate.
My son came back from college and came back from our city and worked in a famous large company with very generous salary. In the second year of work, I also talked about a local girlfriend.
The day he took his girlfriend home, our whole family was so happy.
Later, my son got married, and our family took out all the savings and bought them a four-bedroom and one-living house for them in the city.
The son and daughter-in-law have been living a sweet world of two in the city, and will only come back to see us during festivals. We wouldn't go to the city to find them if there was nothing to do, for fear of disturbing their lives.
It was not until the grandson was born that the son asked his wife to go to the city to take care of his daughter-in-law and grandson.
The grandson grew up with milk powder. The daughter-in-law only had three months of maternity leave. She returned to the company to work just two months after her grandson was two months old.
The grandson has always been taken care of by his wife and has also taken care of all the housework. My son and his wife can eat hot meals when they come back from get off work.
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When my grandson went to kindergarten, my parents were in poor health and needed someone to take care of them. The store also needed someone to take care of them.
Before I retired, I discussed with my son that my grandson and his grandson would pick him up and drop him off and let my wife go home to take care of my parents. Both the son and daughter-in-law agreed.
Later, my parents died one after another, and my wife was the only one left in the family.
My son asked my wife to live in the city, but my wife did not agree and said that the grain and oil store was the lifelong effort of my parents, so they could not close the store just after they left.
There is another reason why my wife is unwilling to go to the city. She is so old that her son can take care of her, and she can’t do anything even if she goes. It’s better to stay at home and run a grain and oil store to earn some money to subsidize them.
Last year, I retired and I ran a grain and oil store in my hometown with my wife. When I was happy, I stopped business for one day and went to nearby tourist attractions with my wife to see the scenery and get some breath.
I really miss my son and the others, so we closed the store and went to the city to see them. But we won't stay in the city at night because their floors are always clean and we're afraid we'll get dirty accidentally.
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I originally thought of walking together with my wife in the town for the rest of my life. But in March this year, my wife was diagnosed with cervical cancer . The doctor said it was in the late stage and there was no need for treatment. Just let me try my best to satisfy my wife's wishes.
My wife barely lasted for a month, but she couldn't resist the erosion of cancer cells, so she left.
After my wife passed away, I was sad for a long time, I couldn’t think of food and food, the grain and oil store was closed, and I lost a lot of weight.
Seeing that I was like this, my son took the initiative to rent the store and the house and took me to the city to live with them.
At the beginning, they were afraid of making me sad, and they didn't dare to ask about the past in front of me. They always tried every means to enlighten me, make me happy, and took me out for a trip and relax.
Under the care and guidance of my son and others, my mood gradually improved and was not so sad. I will tutor my grandson’s homework from time to time and teach him the principles of being a human being.
I don’t know if it’s because I’ve been a teacher for a long time and my grandson is afraid of me. Every time my voice was a little louder, he would cry with tears.
I always say he is stingy and has no masculine spirit.
Every time this time, the daughter-in-law will be very unhappy and come over to take her grandson back to the bedroom and leave me alone there.
Although I didn’t help my son and their sons and their housework, I didn’t smoke or drink. I took out the monthly pension to subsidize them, and I also took a portion of the rent I collected for them, and saved the rest for spare.
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But I found that after living with my son for a long time, all kinds of conflicts arose.
The daughter-in-law went to do a hair, and she was still happy when she came back.
When I learned that it cost more than 800 yuan to make that hair, I started to feel distressed and couldn't help nagging: It costs more than 800 yuan to make a hair, and it will be enough to catch up with the food expenses of others for a month. You are really willing to do it. You are not young anymore. You must be more economical and save some money. It is hard to make money now!
The daughter-in-law, who was just sunny, suddenly turned dark and went back to the bedroom with a dark face. She didn't even eat that night.
I know she is angry with me, but I feel that I did nothing wrong!
After a while, the daughter-in-law took out her lips tattooed again, and it cost more than 6,000 yuan.
I heard that after spending so much money, my heart suddenly started to hurt and I immediately began to preach: I really don’t understand what you young people are doing! Can you be as beautiful as a fairy if you spend money? I didn't see it looking very beautiful, it costs more than 6,000 yuan! It's almost up to my two-month pension.
The daughter-in-law was not silent this time and said angrily: Dad, everyone has a love for beauty. People nowadays have different thoughts from those of your generation. You may not like it, but please don’t belittle it. Besides, I use the money I earned, not what you gave me.
My daughter-in-law's words made me speechless.
07
After dinner at night, my grandson was doing homework in the house, and I also read the news in my house.
suddenly felt a little thirsty, so I went out to the living room to find water to drink.
The door of their son’s bedroom was not closed, and quarrels were faintly heard from inside.
I walked over curiously, wanting to hear what they were arguing about.Who knows if you don’t listen or not, but when you hear it, you’re shocked that your son and his wife are actually quarreling for me.
The daughter-in-law said: Your dad is really right. He lives here with us. If he doesn’t want to live, I won’t talk about him. What’s so bad is that he doesn’t like anything. He has to say anything I do, but he really can’t stand it.
The son said: The old man is just like that and likes to nag.
The daughter-in-law said: Let him nag every day, and my son is afraid of him. I am almost collapsed. You should think of a solution now!
The son said: What else can I think of? My mother is gone and there is no one at home. I can’t drive him back to my hometown! No matter what, he is my dad.
The daughter-in-law said: It won’t be possible to rush home. I have a good idea, it depends on whether my father agrees or not.
Their voices gradually became smaller, and I couldn't hear what I was saying with my ears on my side.
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Back in the house, I couldn’t sleep all night. I didn’t expect that I would teach and educate people all my life, but when I was old, I was even disliked by my wife. It was really sad!
In the next few days, my son and daughter-in-law were still as usual, asking me to have a meal, pick up food, and make tea for me, but I didn't see anything wrong.
But I suspect this was the tranquility before the storm came. They must have something hidden from me, but I still can't guess what it was.
A few days later, my son and daughter-in-law rested, and they brought a guest, a woman in her fifties with a slightly gray hair, but she looked very energetic.
The daughter-in-law said that it was her cousin from afar. She happened to come to the city to do business and came here to sit down. Let me be more burdened.
The daughter-in-law and son are busy cooking, so her relatives are naturally my relatives. I didn’t think much about it, and helped me bring tea and water to chat with me.
While eating, my daughter-in-law kept introducing her cousin’s situation to me, and I was still confused and didn’t know what it meant.
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until the woman left, my daughter-in-law asked me what I think of her? Do you have any good feelings?
No matter how stupid I am, I will understand the meaning now. They are going to introduce me to a partner. Could it be that they are going to drive me out?
I was very angry and said that they should have arranged for me to go on a blind date without my consent because I never thought of remarrying.
My son comforted me and said: Dad, we are also doing your own good. Think about it, we have to go to work and Dongdong has to go to school, you are the only one at home, so lonely, we just want to find you a companion, there is no other meaning.
"This is what your wife means!" I glared at my daughter-in-law fiercely and turned back to the bedroom.
I was sitting on the bed with a lot of thoughts. I knew that there were indeed many wrong things when I lived with them. I also knew that my son and daughter-in-law did this for my own good, but it was still difficult for me to accept that they arranged a blind date for me by themselves.
At dinner, my son and daughter-in-law were careful, for fear of making me angry again.
No one spoke during the entire meal, and there was no normal atmosphere of talking and laughing.
Later, Aunt Wang from the village called me and said that her daughter-in-law asked her to find a wife for me. She had found a suitable one and asked me if I wanted to meet her.
I simply agreed. After thinking for several days, I finally decided to follow my son and daughter-in-law's arrangements. If there is a suitable one, I would find a suitable partner to spend the rest of my life with me. Anyway, I have a house in my hometown and I have a pension myself, so there is nothing to worry about.
After all, there are still many inconveniences when the elderly live with young people. I still can’t be too selfish, and I should also think about my son and daughter-in-law and others.
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