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Parents raise their children and when they get old, their children should support their parents. This is human nature and is clearly stipulated by the law. However, the current law does not stipulate that daughter-in-law should support her parents-in-law and son-in-law should support her parents-in-law.
But husband and wife are a community and cannot be separated. In real life, everyone must assist their spouse in fulfilling their obligation to support. A family is shared by everyone, and we should take care of each other and help each other. If everyone takes care of themselves, then this family will not be cohesive, and it will definitely not be done well.
Parents should also be considerate of their children. Nowadays, life is under great pressure and many children are under heavy burden. If the elderly are too pretentious, their children will have to work, take care of their children, and they will have to work with them every day, which will not be able to stand it.
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0 The daughter-in-law took her discharged mother to her home to take care of her. After the mother-in-law found out, she moved to her son's house. When the daughter-in-law wanted to accompany her mother to see a doctor, the mother-in-law insisted on following her to see a doctor, which resulted in a disagreement in the family.
This happened at Ji Xingyue's house. When her husband blamed her, she was so angry that she filed for divorce. Later, the couple did not divorce, but she no longer cared about her mother-in-law's affairs. Let’s listen to their family’s stories.
Self-reporter: Ji Xingyue
Age: 38 years old
Occupation: Shop owner
City: Fushun
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I run a fruit store and the store hires two little girls as clerks, so I work more freely. My husband works in a machinery factory. He goes out early and returns late every day, and sometimes he has to work overtime, but his income is similar to mine.
Because my husband is busy with work, I am responsible for the family affairs, and I also pick up and drop off my children to school. Sometimes I have to go to my parents' house because I am the only daughter in the family, so I will naturally be responsible for my parents' affairs.
Every now and then, I have to go to my parents-in-law’s house to see it and give them some fruit. My father-in-law has always been very nice to me, and my mother-in-law is very picky and often causes trouble for me. If it weren't for the sake of my husband and father-in-law, I wouldn't be willing to care about my mother-in-law, and she would always dislike me.
Later, my father-in-law died unexpectedly and my mother-in-law lived alone. My husband has no time to take care of my mother-in-law, so I can only walk more diligently, but my mother-in-law's attitude towards me is still not very good. In fact, when my husband and I got married, my mother-in-law looked down on me and thought I had a low education, so I only graduated from junior high school.
My mother always advises me not to bother with my mother-in-law. She is old now and the old man is gone again, which is quite pitiful. My mother also said that my mother-in-law may have that temper and likes to find other people’s faults, not targeting me. I don't care about my mother-in-law. She can do whatever she likes. Anyway, I'm still as usual.
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One day, my mother suddenly had a stomachache. After my dad called me, I hurried back to my parents' home. After my dad and I took my mom to the hospital, the doctor said that the surgery was due to a gallbladder problem. We were very anxious at that time, so I called my husband and he said he was very busy with work and didn’t have time to come. Fortunately, the operation went smoothly, and my dad and I were relieved. Later, my mother stayed in the hospital for more than 20 days, but my husband never saw her once, saying that she was busy with work. I was very angry and had a fight with my husband. He said I was unreasonable, he was busy with work and couldn't leave, and he had no choice.
I think it would be better if he showed up at the hospital even on the way off work, so that my parents felt better when they looked at it. Otherwise, he wouldn't show up every day, what would my parents think? A son-in-law is half a son. Because they only have me, they always treat their son-in-law as their son.
When my mother was discharged from the hospital, I took her to our house because it would be more convenient for me to take care of her. My dad is a rough man and has to work, so he can't take good care of my mom.
The night before my mother was discharged from the hospital, I told my husband that I would take my mother to stay for a few days and wait until she is better before going back. My husband's face was not very good at that time, but when I heard that I had stayed for a few days, he didn't say anything.
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When I took my mother home the next day, my mother-in-law actually moved in. She said she was feeling unwell and had to live in her son's house to raise her son to prevent her old age. I asked her where she felt uncomfortable. She said her heart was beating too fast; she said she was always dizzy; she said she felt sore in the waist and legs...
Anyway, she seemed to feel uncomfortable all over. I asked her, should she take her to the hospital for a look? She said no. I think she was targeting my mom completely. In fact, she didn't want my mom to live in her son's house, and she was mentally unbalanced.
Our house is three bedrooms and one living room. My husband and I live in one room and my son. The other room was originally a study room, and because I was about to pick up my mother, I temporarily set up a bed in the room. Since my mother-in-law has moved in, I will let the two of them live in a room!
But my mother-in-law disagreed, saying that she was not used to sleeping in the same bed with others and she couldn't sleep at night. In fact, my mother didn't want to sleep in the same bed with her mother-in-law, because she had injuries on her body. If she slept with her, she would have many inconveniences.
I'll let my mother-in-law sleep on the sofa in the living room. When the sofa in our house is opened, it can be like a bed. But my mother-in-law said that the sofa was too soft and her waist was not good. She couldn't sleep too softly, so she had to sleep in the bed. My mother said, she slept on the sofa and let her mother-in-law sleep in the study. I have no choice but to arrange it like this.
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A few days later, my mother was going to the hospital for a follow-up visit, so I went with her. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law suddenly suggested that she would also go to the hospital for treatment and asked me to take her with me. I really don’t know what to say, and I have to go with me to see a doctor. What’s the point!
After I arrived at the hospital, I took my mother to see a doctor first and asked my mother-in-law whether she would go with us or sit in the hall and wait for us? The expression on my mother-in-law's face was quite unhappy and said that she was too tired to run around, so she sat in the hall and waited for us!
Because my mother’s doctor made an appointment and there is a time limit, of course I have to accompany her to see a doctor first. After seeing my mother's illness, it was already noon, so I ordered three takeout dishes and wanted to accompany my mother-in-law to see the doctor after lunch. But my mother-in-law was very unhappy and said that I didn't pay attention to her illness and she was exhausted from sitting.
Finally, my mother-in-law was unwilling to see a doctor and was angry at fast food. I could only bring three lunch boxes to the car and drive the two old men back. After arriving at home, my mother-in-law said she wanted to eat the food she cooked at home. It was already past one o'clock at that time. My mother said she would just eat the boxed lunch. Now I don't know what time it will take to eat when I cook.
My mother feels sorry for me. I have been running around for most of the time and now I have to buy groceries and cook. It’s so hard. But my mother-in-law insisted on eating the food she cooked at home and not eating boxed lunches, and the two mothers started arguing. My mother-in-law said she came to her son's house to support her, and her daughter-in-law should take good care of her; my mother said she was not considerate of her daughter-in-law and was a bad mother-in-law who exploited her daughter-in-law...
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I don't know what to do? My mother is still sick, and if she continues to quarrel like this, I have to call my dad. Later, my dad came to pick my mom away, and my mother-in-law called to file a complaint with her husband. When my husband came back, he scolded me, saying that I only care about my mother and mother-in-law.
I told my husband about the past day that I don’t have three heads and six arms, and the two old men can only come one by one. But my husband still blamed me for being bad. He said I was biased and I got angry. It was obviously my mother-in-law who was looking for trouble for nothing, but she was driving my mother away in different ways, and her husband still had to protect her like this.
The more I thought about it, the more angry I became, so angry I filed for divorce. I shouted to my husband: Let’s find our own mother and go back to our own home. It’s up to my son to decide who he will follow. After saying that, I started packing up and splitting up!
Now my husband and mother-in-law were depressed, and they looked at each other and dared not say anything. Later, I wrote a divorce agreement and asked my husband to sign it. My husband became anxious and said he would not divorce. Then he pointed the finger at his mother-in-law and blamed her for being troublesome. The mother-in-law didn't want her son to divorce, so she was so scared that she didn't say anything.
Later, with my husband's plea and thinking about my son, I did not divorce my husband. But from then on, I didn't care about my mother-in-law's affairs, and my mother-in-law moved back to her home to live.I told my husband that I will not help him any more if my mother is responsible in the future.
Conclusion:
Mother-in-law was sick. When she was discharged from the hospital, her daughter picked her up to stay at her house for a few days to facilitate her care. This is also normal. The parents-in-law only have one daughter, so if there is something wrong, of course the daughter will be responsible. Ji Xingyue's mother-in-law also lived in her son's house because she didn't want her parents to live in her son's house.
This mother-in-law is too scrupulous and too good at interfering in her son's family affairs. Ji Xingyue's husband also has big problems. Although he is busy with work, he cannot ignore the family affairs and cannot give up the task of taking care of his old mother to his wife.
It is very troublesome to accompany the elderly to the hospital for treatment now. You have to queue up here and there, and you have to make an appointment here and that. It is not enough to miss the time. It is troublesome enough to accompany an elderly person to the hospital for treatment. You have to accompany two elderly people at the same time. These two elderly people are not suffering from the same disease.
Men like Ji Xingyue’s husband are very selfish and very macho, as if their wife was born to serve him. When you meet such a man, your wife should not be too weak, otherwise you will be bullied and oppressed by him all the time.
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