"Divorce as early as possible, without delaying the situation"
Divorce is indeed a very difficult thing and an easy thing to decide. But sometimes divorce must be "as soon as possible"
The purpose of divorce is to stop losses in time and to live a good life. If you are dragging your mind and having a lot of connection, you will easily feel soft-hearted. If you can't tell the relationship between the two parties clearly, these will hurt your heart again.
Netizen Xiaoxi finally got the " divorce certificate " last week, but it took the two parties a full three years from "wanting to getting divorced to real divorce".
It was only three years before we finally got divorced.
She and her "ex-in-law" fell in love at first sight. They both felt that they had sex with each other and finally met their family and got married. It only took half a year.
It’s very romantic before marriage, but it’s very realistic to have a bad life after marriage. After more than a year of marriage, they discovered a problem. Both parties were unable to get pregnant. The husband asked around, but he couldn't find a suitable solution. However, he asked around, but he couldn't find the answer. She wondered if there was a problem with her husband. So after checking by the machine, she found that it was caused by weak sperm that could not get pregnant or have a child.
After returning home, she felt very wronged and tired. She thought it was caused by her own reasons, but later she found that it was not her own reasons. So she complained to her husband about her sadness and grievances over the past few days, just wanting her husband to comfort her.
But after hearing this, her husband slapped her in the face and said angrily: "Are you mocking me? Don't you respect others?"
Later, the two quarreled together and wanted to live a divorce. But later I thought that my husband also had his self-esteem, so I was wrong at that time and shouldn't have spoken like that.
She felt that if there were no children, my relationship with my husband would go further and further. So, after the two discussed, they considered doing IVF.
The family's financial conditions are OK, but Xiaoxi needs to bear the physical pain himself. But if the child can maintain the family and ease the relationship between her husband and herself, she is willing to take this responsibility and risk.
In order to ensure the smoothness of the test tube, Xiaoxi quit his job and took care of the children at home wholeheartedly. Fortunately, after more than a year or two years of hard work, they have their own daughter.
However, my mother-in-law said that there must be a boy at home. If there is no boy at home, the incense at home will be cut off. , but Xiaoxi retorted, I don’t want to suffer anymore, I no longer want to experience that pain.
The child is about one year old. Xiaoxi said she wants to go out and find a job and share the responsibility for the family, but her husband said coldly, when are you going to have a son?
Xiaoxi was a little confused. She couldn't believe that a man who had been with her for four years could say such cold and ruthless words. I had said that I didn't want to be reborn, but you insisted on persisting.
Xiaoxi firmly expressed his position, but the other party was still relentless and even took out a divorce to force Xiaoxi to have a child.
Xiaoxi was also very upset because of this. She did not expect her husband to do such a thing. Therefore, she also made up her mind to leave the family. Later, because of divorce, she fought for custody of her daughter, and the two parties began to get involved again. After more than a year in , the two parties finally divorced and ended the relationship.
In fact, since the first domestic violence of a man, this marriage was destined to be unable to end. Xiaoxi has been shaking, which is also the reason why her final marriage failed.
In a marriage relationship, both parties are equal
Many people are like this. When the first step is wrong, they always have a lucky mentality. thought I would not be wrong and thought I could avoid it, but in the end they were all wrong, because of their hesitation, which made me tired and exhausted.
The story of repairing the dead sheep and repairing the problem clearly has been learned in elementary school. Its purpose is to teach us to stop losses in time, but how many people really regard it as the wisdom of life?
Children may bring happiness to the family, but children are not the "root" to resolve family conflicts
A man accepts you because you have given birth to a son, it just means that you have met the other party's requirements. The other party does not thank you because he truly loves you, it is purposeful.
A partner who often breaks your bottom line is not worthy of your love. Love is broken again and again, and our love will disappear sooner or later.
All relationships in this world need to be built on equality. Only when equality can people support each other, build together, and move towards a promising future together.
So divorce should be fast, just to tell everyone that if you keep your slump in marriage, it will only make your sunk cost higher and more difficult to turn back.
Author | Some things about psychology, I will never give up love and freedom in my life.
pictures | Visual China, the Internet (If there is any infringement, please contact us to delete it)
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