Whether a person is good depends on his personality. Whether a family is good depends on who is in the family.
The magnetic field is similar. Family members with gentle personalities will create a happy and fulfilling family; family members with magnetic fields that are repelled and conflicted personalities will often hinder the momentum of family development.
The relationship between family and people is complementary. A person's words and actions will affect the family. Whether a family is good or not will also affect a person's living conditions.
Why do we often say "A family that accumulates good will have good fortune, and a family that accumulates bad will have good fortune" ? It is because of the virtues of a person, good will bring blessings to the family and benefit future generations.
On the contrary, if the family lacks the awareness of "accumulating virtue and doing good", the family's blessings will not go much further, but will gradually decrease with the passage of time. The way to be rich lies in people and virtue.
For families, the virtues of elders are often particularly important. The so-called "The upper beam is not straight and the lower beam is crooked." The elders have a wrong view, and their children and grandchildren will also have a wrong view. And elders have character and virtue, and children and grandchildren will also have character and virtue.
Whether a family has the "nonsense" is related to the signs of the ten years you have from 50 to 60 years old.
1. Whether a certain "material foundation" has been accumulated.
As the saying goes, "A good wife cannot cook without rice."
No matter how careful the wife is, if she has no rice at home, she cannot organize her family and cook with peace of mind. Having a certain material foundation is a necessary prerequisite for the development of family and family.
If there is no certain deposit, this home is equivalent to being in the "cold wind". As long as the strong wind is approaching, it is likely to face the risk of "collapse".
If you don’t have certain assets, even if your family encounters any opportunities, you will not have the capital to seize them. in this way, we will pass by opportunities, which makes people feel helpless and regretful.
In the ten years of age 50 to 60, our children have grown up, our parents have grown up, and even we are preparing to retire ourselves. At this time, whether the family has a "family foundation" determines the "lower limit" of family development.
lower limit is too low, or there is no material basis at all, so our descendants will be more difficult. Only when generations of people contribute to the rise can families have a day of prosperity.
2. Is the family "healthy and safe".
"Zengguangxianwen" says: "Three inches of energy is used in a thousand ways, and everything will stop once it is impermanent."
people, no matter how capable it is, the key is to look at this "three inches of energy". The three inches of energy is still there, the family is happy and the family is reunited. And if Sanqian's angry is gone, maybe the family will fall into a miserable situation.
After these three years, I gradually realized the preciousness of "health" and the insignificance of people. In front of the god of death, everyone is equal, regardless of whether they have money or not.
For middle-aged people, after the age of 50, their body energy declines and their mental state is not as good as before. At this time, it is time to "stay safe" in time.
Many people disagree and think it doesn’t matter whether they are healthy or not. Just make money for their children and parents. Little do you know that once there is a problem with , the whole family will not have a good time.
A truly happy and fulfilling family should not only be enough money, but also have good family members and safe family. This is what it means to be "worthy in the world".
Is the third generation "compromising and tolerant"?
There is a "causal" connection between each generation. Grandparents are traitors and evil people, and their children are not much better. Even the third generation of grandsons will be affected by "virtuous elders".
The so-called "The elderly have virtue and benefit the three generations." The elders of this generation have virtue, and the next three generations will not be much worse. Because "virtue, goodwill" will be passed down from generation to generation.
How can we cultivate the kindness and virtue of a family? It is best to do these two things, compromises and include .
Elders in their seventies and eighties will not rely on their seniority. Middle-aged people in their fifties and sixties know how to be filial to their parents. The younger generation in their twenty or thirty years old can tolerate the shortcomings of the previous two generations. Such a family with "filial piety and brotherly responsibilities" will be happy no matter how ordinary it is.
Why were there many people in the countryside in the past who had no money, but they were still smiling? Because of their harmonious family, people know how to compromise and tolerate each other.
When the times have developed to this day, people's hearts have become impatient and human nature has become narrow. This is the root cause of "family decline", , but we all ignore it.
4. Is there a concept of "self-reliance" inheritance?
50 to 60 years old, is it better for us as parents to raise our children in wealth, or is it better for them to make their own freedom and rely on ourselves?
Many people think that it is better to raise children in wealth. This is my own children. If I don’t even help them, who will help them? There is nothing wrong with the concept of "spoiling children" in
. is just children who grew up in "parents' spoiling", and generally lack the ability to rely on themselves. This is the real big problem.
The so-called "Parents love their children and have a far-reaching plan for them." Really visionary parents will let their children learn to "self-reliance", learn to support themselves, and not grow up, but rely on their parents.
Just imagine, when we get old, the children will still be unable to stand on their own. Do we want to raise them until they are 100 years old? First of all, it cannot be done. Secondly, there is no need for this.
The blessings of the family need to be passed on. However, compared with inheriting the blessings of elders, only by passing on the concept of "self-reliance" can the family continue to live and pass on from generation to generation.
text/Shushan Youlu
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