But if you just want to ask questions about the characters involved in this article, it is likely to be a vulgar title like "Why are young girls with 9.5 points of appearance always dumped" .
thought about it, and it would be better to see the essence through the phenomenon and start with a bigger title.
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This girl met in the cinema. It was morning and there was basically no one during this period. I was bored that day and went to watch a niche art film alone.
She sat there alone in the entire hall, probably waiting for other movies to open, with amazing beauty on her side.
I went up and talked for a few words, and then asked if I could add WeChat. She hesitated and added WeChat. Later, I chatted through WeChat and became familiar with each other.
She is a flight attendant at a certain airline base station.
The specific information is hidden, let’s talk about this girl’s confusion directly.
She was less than 25 years old. She had worked as a part-time host in TV media before, and later changed careers to be a short attendant. The family’s economic environment is good, and the family’s conditions are not particularly good, but there is no heavy burden.
When I first met her, although she was sitting, she was obviously tall at around 175. Later, she told me that the height was indeed 175
She said that there have been many men who pursued since childhood. They have officially had three formal relationships, and those who have not officially met are estimated to double (the number of times a girl tells you will be multiplied by 2 by default).
recently talked about a boyfriend in an outbound base city, a middle-level factory in the Internet. After talking for 3 months, I went to bed several times, but I broke up.
The man's "kindness" told her that according to her conditions, she should go to find a better man, saying that she is not a person in the pool (that is, she was sent a good person card. Because there is little information, I don't judge whether she has encountered a scum).
I have talked with her voice several times. I feel that this little girl's hatred for marriage is getting stronger and stronger, and sometimes even her words are frivolous. But I immediately felt that I was a little out of control, and then hurriedly said, "I didn't say anything just now, right?", just like the kind of little girl who has no backbone at all.
She Want to find a man with better conditions, but she doesn't want to be as unfree as the female classmates around her. At the class reunion, the married female classmates were talking about their husbands and their trivial and boring life. She joked that you can also find a man you like.
The students said it was not possible, and they still have to worry about their family feelings. She felt that they lived too selflessly. Even though they were married, could they not be able to live with the man they like?
. . .
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I didn’t say it directly, but told her that girls with similar mentality had come to consult before. The serious advice I gave is: is not suitable for marriage, and is suitable for finding a man who is much older than me who can completely take care of himself and control himself, and enjoy the life of a bird dependent on others.
I said that this is judged based on the world view, family view, and values reflected in the usual relaxed chat. Next, let me tell you,
your short-term ex-boyfriend, saying that you are suitable for finding a man with good financial conditions and enjoying life - I guess your previous boyfriends also had the same breakup excuses. Although they haven't been together for a long time, they can all see where your desires are worth.
They didn't understand it so clearly, but the subtext is roughly:
You are more pretentious. Although it seems that you want marriage on the surface, Your specific needs are-
requires the other party to spend a lot of money on you and provide super high emotional value. You can't endure hardships or be a good wife and mother .
and The conditions you have -
Salary man (the flight attendant has long been no longer the glamorous profession of the past, and has even fallen into it...), young and beautiful (but it has depreciated rapidly with time), and has a genetic advantage of having children . . .
You are not a person who lives a life by nature. You are only suitable to find someone who is much older than you, has some money, and provides you with the value of your life you want.
further, to put it bluntly, when you are young and beautiful, and the other person is deeply attracted to you, provide emotional or fertility value to the other person.
In fact, you can tell from the unintentional words of reunion with classmates -
You are, greedy for emotional value, love the new and get tired of the old, and both need money and freedom. . Both want and want .
Then, from your personal judgment of yourself, you can also see that -
You have a high degree of self-recognition, but only for your appearance, you don’t agree with your inner self at all. In this way, on the one hand, you think you can find a man with particularly good conditions, but I think your appearance value is not as important as you think it is, and it is not economical.
On the other hand, because of your lack of confidence in yourself, when you encounter a boy who is slightly better than yourself and who is stronger inside, you will have a dedication mentality ! ! ! You will hope to obtain the value of marriage and love by actively giving your physical value, which is also the reason why you are not valued.
But men with a slightly better financial condition than you, those of the same age will definitely look for younger ones.
Only men older than you, 10 years old or even over 20 years old, who are rich, will be willing to find a young woman who is 10 years old and 15 years younger than you.
The principle is very simple - the advantages you think are all the flaws that do not create family productive relationships, and are advantages that cannot help the other party's career and cannot bring benefits to both families (except for fertility value).
(Actually, I can hear the faint and occasional sobs on the other side of WeChat voice... I didn't stop, because it would be better to wake up in time than to let her continue to sink)
When you have no money, your competitors are not those rich and beautiful women with wealthy and superior family environment, but those ordinary girls. And those ordinary girls are younger and more beautiful than you, and in first- and second-tier cities.
Even if you are not as beautiful as you, and are a little shorter than you, so what if? As long as you are 5 years old and 10 years younger, and then ask for less emotional value and economic value, it is more cost-effective for men.
Most girls who sank into the ocean of marriage and love encounter two problems - , one is because of lack of activity, and the other is because of excessive activity .
lacks activity and regards boys as collective liars or collective scumbags. This is not explained, kindness will last forever!
and is too active. means that she makes random quotes and does not understand the market conditions. The person she meets cannot afford to marry her, which may satisfy the emotional value, but cannot provide economic value in time and cannot provide a sense of stability ! ! !
, and she always feels that she is very valuable and will meet a better man in the past, so she does everything, so she automatically "dissuads" the current boys; for a while, the price is high, but others can't afford it; for a while, the price is low, and she regrets it herself. In the end, before she knows it, an older left-over woman.
From your past love experience, I have had three formal conversations. The most recent one, I have been in bed several times in three months, and people have made excuses to break up with you "kind" and have been in bed without formal conversations. I guess it may double.
is too active. You can only choose shortly, but not long-term.
. . .
There are still some contents left, involving private information, and the girl later sobbed on the other end of WeChat.There is an advantage of remote chat: one party can boldly point directly to the pain, and the other party will listen more than usual. Although someone reveals the shortcomings, it may be really hurt. . .
(the picture characters have nothing to do with this article)
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