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What is "perfect marriage"? Regarding this issue, we can simply understand that two people are not tired of getting along with each other and never get tired of each other is a perfect marriage. In other words, two people are comfortable together, which is a perfect marriage.
So, if finds the perfect object, will he get a perfect marriage? Obviously, there is no definite answer to this topic, but from a high probability that a perfect partner does not equal a perfect marriage.
Just like when looking for a blind date, you will ask: "Do you have a house? Do you have a car?" If the other party has a house and a car, you can try it together for a while. If there is no house or a car, there is basically no following.
Of course, not everyone cares about the condition of "having a house and a car", and some people don't care whether the other party has a house and a car, but I hope that the other party's height is above 180cm... In short, each has its own standards. If you find an object that meets your own standards, it is equivalent to finding a perfect object.
So, if the conditions that the other party meet our standards for choosing a spouse, will we definitely find a perfect marriage?
For example, if the other party has a house and a car, has good family financial conditions, and is tall and handsome, then as a woman, will she definitely have a happy marriage and family after marrying him?
It is obvious that even if you enter a marriage with such a perfect partner, you may not be able to get a perfect and happy marriage. This is an indisputable fact.
Because we have a house and a car, our family has good financial conditions, it can only meet our pursuit of material life. Beautiful and handsome, it only meets our pursuit of visual and aesthetics. However, marriage pursues not only material and aesthetics, but also psychological and spiritual needs.
Going further, A perfect and happy marriage does not account for a large proportion of material and aesthetic needs, and the focus is mainly on the psychological and spiritual levels.
For example, it cannot accompany and communicate well, such as some contradictions and disputes in daily life, such as some differences in educating children, etc.
Of course, this does not mean that a perfect marriage does not require the support of economic conditions. It just means that if you want to get a perfect marriage better, you cannot pursue the material level too much.
So, we came to another conclusion, which is: Whether a marriage is perfect depends to some extent on our partner, and is the pursuit of material and aesthetic perfection? Or pursue psychological and spiritual perfection? Or is it a coordinated perfection between material and psychological, external and internal?
is obvious. The third perfection, that is, coordinated perfection, is more down-to-earth, and is more conducive to our perfect marriage.
Changyan Changyu:
Is a perfect marriage the perfect object? is not necessarily the case. If the perfection we pursue is perfection, it is obviously impossible.
If the standard of what we call "perfect object" is just the requirements of external conditions such as economic income, appearance, height, family conditions, then the probability of getting a perfect marriage will be very low.
If the standard of our so-called "perfect object" is just a psychological requirement such as personality, good temper, and knowing how to care for people, then we may not necessarily get a perfect marriage, because the management of marriage and family is also inseparable from the support of economic conditions.
corresponds to, if we define the standard of "perfect object" as the relative matching between the external conditions of material and the internal conditions of psychology, then the possibility of us getting a perfect marriage will be greater.
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