text | Zhu Sinyong
There is no true love in extramarital relationships, there is real "love" and real "sex", but not real love.
"Love is dead and alive" is actually an illusion. The truth is that you have fun and have a lot of fun. It feels good to be in the beautiful bubble of extramarital relationships, but once it lands, it will be beaten up. Why did
finally separate? There are two main factors.
First, the marriage itself has quality. If the quality of the marriage is very poor, it will eventually divorce without extramarital relationships. If the quality of the marriage itself is very good, the driving force for a man to divorce and marry Saner will be much lower, and it will be easier to break up after being discovered. The higher quality of the marriage can withstand the risks and impacts of extramarital relationships.
Second, the real divorce is high.
Divorce is just a lip service, it is costless, if you really want to divorce, the cost is very high. The higher the divorce cost and cost, the lower the divorce rate. I couldn't divorce for a long time. The third one became more sober and less waiting. It was inevitable that he would be separated in the end.
The other factors include the following aspects.
1. The two people have different demands.
Men need to play, supplement, emotional value, happiness, San'er needs to harvest, live a life, status, and openness. The two of them have different purposes, so they are destined to be rarely to the end.
After a man has an extramarital relationship, his psychology towards Saner is not because of love, nor does he have to use extramarital relationship to replace marriage, or use Saner to replace his wife. The man wants to get a full score of 100 points for marriage and 80 points for extramarital relationship.
And San'er is thinking about the relationship, the old age, and the marriage and having children with him.
In the early stages of extramarital relationships, lies and passion can still maintain extramarital relationships.
But as time goes by, San'er finds that men always make short promises and their promises cannot be fulfilled. San'er will be disappointed, awake and disengaged.
Some San'er waited and endured. This kind of woman is actually the worst. In the end, she often consumed her youth and missed the opportunity to have children and get married. In the end, the property she obtained is also highly likely to be cannon fodder and adjustment for other people's marriage.
The earlier San'er wakes up, the more beneficial it is to her.
2. Lies do not last long, gains decrease, and pressure increases.
The man who had an extramarital relationship was not always happy. At the beginning, when the two women didn't know each other, this man was the happiest, but this happiness was short-lived.
There are requirements and pressure on both sides of the follow-up, and lies are difficult to sustain. The mental and economic costs of extramarital relationships are getting higher and higher, and the relaxed and happy things are getting less and less, men are becoming more and more inclined to break up.
The core lies in men’s need for extramarital relationships, not for taking responsibility and living a real life. Most men are for emotional value and satisfying their own greed.
3. Extramarital relationships are difficult to land.
Most men will have a flash of divorce when they are on the rise, but it is just a flash of thought. Because when you think about the actual cost and difficulties after the extramarital relationship is implemented, men will shrink back to marriage and do not want to divorce.
Men have their account in their hearts and will calculate clearly: what are the costs of divorce, what are the problems with San'er, and what costs to pay.
This is why most men will say to their wives when having extramarital relationships, "I never thought of getting divorced", "I never thought of marrying San'er", "I can't marry her".
These are not men’s surface excuses. The real life after divorce and remarriage will inevitably have more pressure, troubles and problems than first marriage. These real pressures and troubles will also make men afraid of extramarital relationships and choose marriage.
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