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For some reason, the heroine divorced the man, and then followed her best friend to Shanghai. After arriving in Shanghai, the heroine began to submit resumes, find a job, and mustered up the courage to start from scratch and make her own career.
However, reality is cruel. Since the heroine has always been enjoying life at home after graduation, she has never been to work and has no work experience, so she has been eliminated by many companies!
and then had no choice, and entered a foot massage shop as a salesperson. During the process, he was also tragic encounters such as being robbed of customers by colleagues and being deceived by colleagues...Having this developed, do you still think that "the days of being raised by others" are a good life? Are you still looking forward to such a life?
Maybe some people will say, "What you are talking about is a TV series. TV series is different from real life..."
So, let's not talk about other things for the time being. Just talking about the "finding a job", in real social life, if a person does not have any work experience, can she (he) find a good job? If she can’t find a good job, how should she (he) survive?
It is obvious that If a person grows older but has no work experience, then her (his) value or competitiveness in the social environment will become weaker and weaker. This is an indisputable fact.
OK, let’s go back to the emotional relationship between the two sexes. In the emotional relationship between the two sexes, if a woman finds a man who is willing to support herself, will she really find her own happiness?
Regarding this point, we must be clear that no matter what kind of relationships, it is inseparable from the mutual benefit and win-win model. In other words, if a woman only relies on a man to support herself, and in the long run, the value of this woman in the mind of a man will become lower and lower, she will have to be restrained, and will lose her voice.
This is a kind of relationship imbalance, and the essence of relationship imbalance lies in the mentality of "willing to be raised". To put it more realistically, in this world, no one should have a right to support anyone. Every adult should have his own source of income. This is not only the key to balancing a relationship, but also a strong guarantee for himself!
Changyan Changyu:
"Willing to be raised" is digging a hole for yourself. In the emotional world of men and women, no matter it is a woman or a man, never fantasize about finding a partner who can support yourself and do nothing. Even if you really find it, it will only be self-consuming, weakening your confidence and value in survival little by little, and it will not benefit you from it.
So, no matter how the partner is about us, we must have our own self-sufficiency, because this is what we are truly reliable and this is our capital.
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Original author: Chang Tan Life
First release platform: Today's headline
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