In fact, when my husband was 40 years old, I was not so panicked about our marriage. There are three reasons: 1) I feel that my husband is also half a generation and will no longer struggle with his private life;

The reader wrote to me and said:

The husband is 41 years old, I am 32 years old, and we have been married for 8 years. My husband was my boss. When he met his husband, he and his ex-wife had not divorced. Although my husband is the one whom I pursued in my relationship with, I am the one who interfered in his marriage with his ex-wife (perhaps even if I don’t exist, my husband would divorce his ex-wife because of another woman). My husband and his ex-wife went through hardships. My husband and I were the product of my husband's wealth becoming bad.

After marrying my husband, I had this idea: perhaps one day in the future, after meeting a younger and more beautiful woman, I will let me follow the old path of his ex-wife. After having such an idea, in my marriage life with my husband, I have always insisted on three things: 1) Try to use makeup techniques to maintain my beauty; 2) I study food every day, hoping to tie my husband's heart by tying my husband's stomach; 3) I will seize every possible opportunity to make money from my husband as my own private money.

In fact, when my husband was 40 years old, I was not so panicked about our marriage. There are three reasons: 1) I feel that my husband is over half a generation and will no longer be troubled in the private life level; 2) My husband is particularly concerned about our children, and I think I can be expensive by my son; 3) I also have a certain amount of savings in my hands, and I feel that even if I divorce my husband, it is not a big deal (if I can grow old with my husband, it will definitely be the result I hope most).

What I didn’t expect was that when my husband was 41 years old this year, he met a 23-year-old woman and fell in love with the other person. After I discovered this, my husband and I had a negotiation. My husband's attitude at the beginning: I promised that I would draw a clear line with the other party; I negotiated more often, and my husband's tone changed again. As long as I could turn a blind eye, he would not divorce me; now, my husband has begun to frequently stay away at night and filed for divorce to me.

Perhaps there are no longer too high expectations for my husband. What I can do now: collect sufficient evidence of my husband's cheating, and strive to maximize the material benefits of me and my children during divorce.

Muzili Emotional analysis:

In the adult world, few people can regard money as dirt. All kinds of romantic actions originating from life require the support of money. The key is that while we love money, we also need to stick to our bottom line of being a human being. It’s like: when deciding to marry someone, the other person’s character will be a factor that cannot be ignored. Some things we need to understand during this period: 1) Don’t do things that interfere with other people’s marriages. If he abandons his lover and children because of your existence, one day in the future, he will drive you out of the siege because others will; 2) Don’t feel that you can be complacent if you defeat his lover. Let yourself understand that the real reason why you can be corrected by him is because he is fickle and loses the minimum sense of responsibility for the family.

In fact, when you get married to your husband, you know that you are an unlucky existence. Perhaps you will feel a little ashamed of his ex-wife and his and his ex-wife's children at some point, but at that time you were a little obsessed with money and for the sake of vested interests, you made yourself do something unconscience-free. You are also considered to be sober in the world: during your life with your husband, he often feels a sense of crisis that he will abandon you. For this reason, you carefully please and try hard to save yourself private money in this relationship. During this period, your shrewdness cannot be said that you are unwilling to grow old with your husband, but you will leave a hand for yourself: once the result of the divorce is obtained, at least you don’t want to lose too badly. Unfortunately, you finally waited for the result of your husband's divorce.

Because you have witnessed the whole process of your husband abandoning his ex-wife for you, after your husband is moved by his lover and filed for divorce from you, you know that it is only a matter of time before you and your husband divorce, so you don’t want to struggle anymore. The most affordable approach at this time is naturally to maximize the interests of you and your children.There is one detail: your husband is particularly concerned about your children on weekdays, which means that you and your husband may be competing for the custody of their children. As for who the child will eventually award him, his intention will play a key role. Perhaps after becoming a mother, you will also stick to a belief while loving money: your child has quietly become your weakness. Then, you must do your best to fight for custody of your child.

Although you really want to stay with your husband and live a wealthier life, in this era of heroes by money, there are too many girls who have coveted your husband. In this case, your husband will naturally have more choices in the marriage and love market. At this time, if he is willing to use responsibilities and obligations to restrain himself, he can guarantee his loyalty to his marriage. If he insists on being an ungrateful wolf, your fate will only be to follow the old path of his ex-wife. In a relationship that is accumulated with money, sometimes it also requires luck: after he has a state of unwillingness to struggle, the person who is by his side is his last marriage partner. Things he needs to beware of during this period: 1) He can use money to restrain the other party for the rest of his life; 2) The other party has the idea of ​​growing old with him.

In this era, the weight of money in husband and wife relationships is indeed relatively high, but it is definitely not possible without a slight emotional foundation. For this reason, we can also encounter cases: some people spend their lovers’ money to please the opposite sex they like outside of marriage. I hope your husband will never encounter similar embarrassment in his life. There is another situation: some people give their lovers endless torture when they are young and middle-aged. During this period, their lovers are tolerant in the face of so-called torture for the sake of their children and money, but when they are old, they will gradually retaliate against the grievances they have suffered before in an unwelcome form. As a human being, you should still have some conscience, because in a relationship, whoever blasphemed and who will eventually be played with, may be just a cycle of reincarnation.

A healthy marriage relationship must go in both directions, especially don’t frequently interpret shrewdness, calculating, selfish and double standards in front of your lover. Your tricks are just because the enthusiasm of love is still there, or if you feel that life with you can still be matched, so you are unwilling to expose it to you. If one day your lover is disappointed in this relationship, don’t blame him for turning against others. To this end, when managing a marriage, don’t be lazy and don’t be arrogant because the other person loves you. We must clearly understand that one person’s disappointment with another is a process of accumulation, while separation is just a momentary explosion. For this reason, when we take a clever attitude in the field of love, we will most likely not get the ideal result.

Postscript:

Many things in life are just a relative concept, just like the freedom we want, the happiness we want, and the success of our careers we desire. When the trajectory of our expected life is different from the trajectory of our actual interpretation, there is no need to complain frequently and try to face the reality that has become a relatively stable attitude. After all, there are many things and people's hearts that we cannot control, so try our best to protect our own acre of three parts.

Everyone values ​​vested interests more. The key is to try to reduce the behavior of harming others and benefiting oneself. Perhaps the person you bullied is not able to punish you, but don’t forget that there is someone outside of others. This means: when some people who are outstanding in strength give you a blow, you can understand their behavior in this way. They are just angels in the minds of those weak people who have been bullied by you. How can you not bear retribution because you do something bad?

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