The reader wrote to me and said:
Qianzi (the name of the ex-husband, pseudonym) and I fell in love and got married. When we got married, I did not ask his family for a penny of betrothal gift (mainly because their family is poor), and our wedding house was also bought by my parents for us (Qianzi’s hometown is in the countryside). There were two reasons why I was willing to post in this relationship: Qiangzi was handsome enough; Qiangzi was particularly good to me during my relationship with Qiangzi.
Xiaohui (the best friend's name, pseudonym) and I have a similar family background (to be precise, Xiaohui is better than my family), and we are junior and high school classmates, so I have a good relationship with Xiaohui. When I got married, Xiaohui was a bridesmaid. After I got married, Xiaohui often went to my house to play. I don’t know when Xiaohui actually had an ambiguous relationship with Qiangzi (I discovered it by reading Qiangzi’s chat records). After the incident, I scolded Xiaohui and told Qiangzi that as long as he could draw a clear line with Xiaohui, I could do my best to betray him. Unfortunately, after I made the relationship between Qiangzi and Xiaohui clear, they became blatant. In this case, I can only choose to divorce.
On the day Qiangzi and I divorced, Qiangzi moved to Xiaohui's house and lived with Xiaohui (Xiaohui has her own independent house, of course, Xiaohui's house was also bought by Xiaohui's parents for her). As of now, Qiangzi and I have been divorced less than 3 months ago, but we have heard from our mutual friend that his marriage and Xiaohui are getting married (they are still one week away).
Two sentences I often hear from childhood to adulthood: 1) Good people will be rewarded; 2) Bad people will be rewarded. The cruel reality is: I treat Qiangzi well with my heart, but he abandoned me because of Xiaohui, who has a better family background. I certainly won't bless their marriage, and I even hope they will be in trouble. Unfortunately, they are very happy now, and I can only be sad in the corner where no one is.
Since the incident happened, although many friends have given me too much comfort, it is an objective fact that I was snatched away by Xiaohui: if it is not illegal to kill people, I will definitely chop them into meat sauce and then sprinkle them in the river to feed the fish.
Muzili Emotional analysis:
I believe that many people like stability in their lives, and even many people plan their lives in a few years every day, but ignore one thing: Have you lived your current life well? Recently, I have seen too many complaints related to the sufferings of the world, and it seems that those words showing off their wealth have suddenly disappeared. From this we can judge that in real life, many people are a bit troublesome even if they maintain normal daily expenses. Of course, what makes more people worry about is the monthly mortgage loan and the credit card that is overdrawn when they are slapping their faces. I also believe that after some special experiences, people's attitudes to life have quietly changed. To this end, we need to understand two things about life: 1) the importance of saving money; 2) maximize the happiness of life as much as possible.
always feels that divorce is not a big deal. Poor is the most helpless thing in life, because with age, people are increasingly understanding one thing: having money can really help you solve 95% of your troubles in life. Of course, some people are lucky because they can live a life of food and clothing from the moment they are born, because their parents have helped them accumulate wealth that can at least protect food and clothing. Under this circumstance, perhaps face and dignity have been valued more seriously in recent years. But don't forget: any relationship needs to be fulfilled by each other. If you perform deep affection in front of the ungrateful wolf, the only person you will be suppressed in the end. So I want to remind everyone: there is no need to make yourself sigh all day for a scum.
When you are lucky enough to make your life performance worthless, maybe your husband is taken away by your best friend, which will make you particularly angry, and more often it is because you can't hold on to your face. At this time, you will be thinking randomly inside. The most common thing is: Why can't those bad people who tease your feelings receive retribution? In fact, what is usually called retribution is just an abstract concept.But we must believe that when a person’s mind is not right, he will only show selfishness and calculation in his or her life and work. For such people, they will eventually become isolated objects in interpersonal communication. By that time, if there are fewer friends around you, there will naturally be fewer helpers. In this case, your career will inevitably be hindered and retribution will follow.
The picture we often see in life: It’s not your own business to hang up. But please also be sure to believe that a person's way of doing things will reflect his character. Although those bystanders may not vent your anger when you are hurt, they will definitely give a character denial to those who do evil in their hearts and form a subconscious awareness of being away from them. A person needs to establish too many relationships for himself in his life. When a person loses his conscience, he will naturally not have too many friends to make friends, which will lead to his own path being blocked by himself invisibly. When a person makes people around him dislike him, the retribution of this person actually comes quietly. For this reason, some things may not be objective in the naked eye. At least you do not belong to the unconscienced worries, which can bring peace to yourself.
In this life, every cause will correspond to the corresponding result, because there is a saying that "it is not that you don't repay, it is that the time has not come." Perhaps sometimes people feel sad: many people have done bad things, but they can be free and easy in life. My understanding of this is: in any era, the final result of anything must be that evil will not suppress righteousness. We might as well take a longer time and wait for the consequences of those who are ignorant of their conscience, which will definitely allow you to see the results that will balance your mind. In addition, we need to remind everyone: when some things are not able to change the results, we need to accept our fate and try to eliminate some bad things from our thoughts, which is due to the inconsequence of the unworthiness and the need to affect your mood because of bad people and bad things.
Being abandoned by someone you love very much will indeed make you escape the shadow of love or divorce for a long time, or may cause your view of marriage and love to change drastically, but we also need to accept the results of being disappointed in life. When some things are hard to let go, please stop paying attention to the people and things related to them. Please believe that time is the best medicine to heal all harm. Several years later, when you look back at the bad experiences you have now, you may not bother to mention them. Even if you are mentioned by others accidentally, you will find that your past experiences are just "story" and it has no longer been related to yourself. Some relationships are missed not because I am not good enough, but because I am ungrateful.
Editor:
Living in a diverse world, most kind people desire that the relationship between people can be in a relatively harmonious state. The key is that there are all kinds of strange things in the world. For this reason, we allow some bad people and bad things to exist. Sometimes, we can punish bad people and bad things. When your wings are not strong enough, then sleep on firewood and taste gall. When you are full of wings, maybe your roll of eyes can make the other person shudder.
Don’t believe that people are equal. In any era, we must accept the so-called precepts of the weak. To this end, the best way to take revenge on a person is to let yourself one day live a life riding on the other person's head, and then give the other person a cold look. The tears, sighs, anger of the weak are really cheap at some point. Don’t you feel that sometimes you really feel like a coward? To this end, in the face of life, it is the bottom line to speak when it is time to speak, shut up when it is time to shut up, and silently make yourself strong.
(The picture is from the Internet, the picture is irrelevant)
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