There is a question that says: What is it like to fall in love with "being a girl"? The answer below is very lively, almost a straight male complaint scene:
Some girls ask their boyfriend to delete all contacts of the opposite sex on their phone, including female bosses and customers;
Some girls have a foreign relationship with their boyfriends and break up with a boy. It’s useless for boys to explain and apologize. They have to buy the earliest flight of the class. The machine returned to her side to coax her;
There was also a girl and her boyfriend driving on their own. There was a little conflict between the two on the highway. The girl directly opened the car door and wanted to jump off the car - at that time their driving speed was 80 kilometers per hour...
The boys said that after breaking up, they felt like they were reborn, and their whole life was back on track.
If you simply look at the anger and grievance expressed by boys in these answers, many girls may think that men will not like girls who are willful and will do things - in fact, if you really ask men, they will definitely tell you this:
"Looking for a girlfriend, looking, looking, family background and work can relax requirements, but your personality must be good, and you must not do it!"
Men don't want girlfriends who are very "working", but they seem to be inevitably attracted by those girls who do things for the world.
This seems like a paradox, but it is actually not difficult to imagine.
I have a male student who is in the rising period of his career. I may not be able to take a day off for a month when I am busy. He actually thought about finding a girlfriend, but he just didn't want to find an ignorant little girl because he didn't have the time and energy to coax her.
Not long afterwards, he fell in love - the girl was very clingy and willful. She sent all kinds of aggrieved emoticons on WeChat if she didn't see him for a day. On Saturday, late at night, she pulled him downstairs to the night market stall to find her favorite barbecue stall. She also wanted to go to the boy's college class reunion, because "What if you see a female classmate who has become better and runs away with her?"...
This male student who had no time to make girls happy before did not complain. He said that because he had only two points and one line in his previous life, he looked fulfilling and busy every day, but in fact he was as bored as a black and white silent film.
and , a very "working" girlfriend, has become a rare color in his life. - she dragged him to watch love movies and read him fun jokes on Weibo to let him get in touch with these things that he had never had the chance to come into contact with before. It was also she who made him understand that he had to get home from get off work early every day because there was someone waiting for him at home.
student said that , a very willful girl, let him know how interesting love and life can be.
Just as the screenwriter Wang Hailin said: the heroine is mentally abnormal, and the great works in literary history are like this. From Lin Daiyu to Fanyi and then to Xiaoyanzi, the heroine is crazy. We were tortured by madness, but we loved them deeply because we were more ill.
"Xiaozuiqing" actually means this.
Boys' lives are generally not as rich as girls. From a material perspective, most boys' amateur entertainment activities are not just drinking and bragging with their buddies, but playing games, and they don't have as many tricks as girls.
From a spiritual perspective, boys’ minds are usually not as delicate as girls. Girls may even be able to make up for a prose poem when they see a flower, but it is difficult to see these interesting details in the world of men.
A girl’s “small work” is like giving a boy a key, allowing him to enter the girl’s emotions and thinking, and observe the world from a more delicate and gentle perspective, and experience every bit of love.
A girl full of aura and coquettishness brings such novel and interesting feeling that almost no boy can resist.
But at the same time, corresponding to "small work and pleasure", it is "big work and harm the body" - there are also girls on my knowledge planet who "death" their feelings every day, and are caught off guard by a boy who came to ask me for help.
There is indeed a clear golden thread between "small work" and "big work", and it is not what many girls think, "the degree of work should not exceed the appearance". As long as it is within the range defined by the golden thread, girls who are not beautiful enough can also make their feelings better and better. Once they cross the golden thread, even top beauties will make men lose patience and avoid it. The golden thread
is called "respect the rules of getting along".
Use the story of my male student and his girlfriend to give an example, which is like this:
Girls want to see their boyfriends every day. If they can’t meet, they act coquettishly on WeChat to “show their presence”. This is respecting the rules and a "small work". But if the boyfriend has something to do when he is on a business trip, the girl still requires him to come back on the same day to date him, otherwise he will quarrel without hesitation. This is ignoring the rules and is a "big work";
The girl pulled her boyfriend to accompany her to find a barbecue stall late at night on the weekend. This is respecting the rules and a "big work". But if a boy wants to attend an important meeting the next morning and needs a good rest, the girl still asks him to accompany her for midnight to have supper. This is ignoring the rules and is a "big work";
A girl wants to "swear sovereignty" at her boyfriend's class reunion. This is respecting the rules and a "small work". But if a boy wants to attend a formal business banquet, the girl insists on following, which is ignoring the rules and being a "masterpiece"...
Some men may be more patient with girls and have a higher degree of tolerance, while some men are not willing to spend too much effort on love, which also leads to the dividing line between "masterpiece" and "smallpiece" in the eyes of different men.
Then, a very simple criterion of judgment is that If you just want him to pay more attention to you and devote more to your feelings, then it is usually a "small work", but if what you ask him to do makes him very embarrassed, even affects his normal life, and cannot help your feelings become better, then it is undoubtedly a "master work".
Finding this "golden thread" between two people may be a compulsory course in love for every girl.
After all, your "work" is ultimately to make him love you more, not to push him further.
Who says it is not an art?
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