Aunt Zhang’s cry;
I have a daughter who graduated from a prestigious university and got married if she didn’t work. Her marriage partner was a daughter’s college classmate.
Both of them graduated from college and had no jobs, so they arranged to get married, so they got married first and then started a career.
Neither parents convinced the two children, so they could only agree to arrange for the two children to get married.
The man's family arranged a house and I bought a car for them. The man's family conditions were not good, and his parents were both working-class. In addition, my daughter got married with her son, so she didn't ask for a bride price and simply held the wedding.
My daughter gave birth to a boy just a few months after getting married. Because her daughter couldn't work, her son-in-law didn't find a job and played games every day.
All expenses are for my daughter’s mother-in-law’s family and our mother-in-law’s family. My daughter has postpartum depression , and her situation is getting worse and worse.
I took my daughter back to take care of her health. My grandmother was at grandma's house. Grandma had just retired at that time and her retirement salary was also low, and it was more than 2,000 yuan a month. I want to ask me to bring my child over and she will find another job.
The son-in-law still plays games every day, and doesn't go out, and is like being possessed. Playing games day and night, through the guidance and advice of parents of both sides. I found a job as an programmer, , and was fired after not working for three months.
The couple in the family are reasonable and know that their son is not good. I often come to see my children, buy things, milk powder, and get money.
Daughter Destiny is much better, so I found a front desk job in a beauty salon. I also moved back to my mother-in-law's house, and I will take my grandson with me for the time being.
Just like that, three years passed, the little grandson went to kindergarten, and the relationship between his daughter and son-in-law had reached a freezing point.
The son-in-law is still like this and does not seek motivation. He can’t find a job for a few months and has not officially started a year’s job within three years. I don’t care about housework and spend time in the game every day. My in-laws can't take care of it, so I can only make money and keep giving my daughter subsidies.
My daughter looked at her parents-in-law and her children for a few more years, and the children were in elementary school.
I am not in good health, so I asked them to take care of the children themselves. After the children go back, they will be in chaos.
My daughter filed for divorce and brought the child back, so she still asked her father and I to help with him. I disagree because I have been with me for several years, and now I have physical problems everywhere and physical strength and mental health cannot be supported.
The in-laws agreed to have a child, and I advise my daughter to divorce and give her the child to them! You have to work, and at that time my daughter also became the store manager of the beauty salon, and I also have a little shares and in it. She is very busy every day, but she is determined to want the child, but she can't take care of herself.
Grandparents love their children very much, so why do they have to take them with you? You can't fulfill your responsibilities as a mother.
Therefore, I had a big fight with my daughter and sent the child to her company.
After graduating from college, I advised her not to get married so early, and to abort the child if she doesn’t want to have a child. It’s the responsibility of the child, not just give up when she is born. If you have no job and no life experience, don’t get married so early. If she doesn't listen, her father wants a child with a divorce, and she wants the custody of the child.
The child’s grandparents agree that my daughter often goes to see the child and is in another city, so she can bring it back to live with her if she has time.
The grandparents of the child feel that they owe our family. They know that I am in poor health and don’t want me to keep taking care of the child. It is not that I have to rob custody of my daughter. The in-laws only sued for custody after I agreed.
The reasonable grandparents know that it is not easy for me to raise children in recent years and will not steal them from us.
also agreed to raise your child a little older, if the child wants to go with his mother, grandparents can do it.
But my daughter insisted on me to take care of her, and I didn’t want to take care of her anymore. I worked hard to raise my daughter and also raised my grandson.
I told my daughter that I have paid for her marriage over the years. I will not pay for her failed marriage anymore.
Once watched a TV series "Come on! Mom》;
Career-type woman divorced and fought for custody of her child, but she herself did not have the time and energy to take care of her child.
asked her mother to take care of her, and it happened that her mother was also a career-oriented woman.
After helping her take care of her children for a while, she collapsed and said to her: "Why should I pay for your failed marriage?"
"The protagonist Zhou Nannan in the play was pregnant and broke up with her boyfriend during her relationship. She left home and gave birth to a son alone. Her mother helped her raise the child together in order to reduce the burden on her.
The income of two women is also difficult to raise a child in a big city. In order to raise a child in a kindergarten tuition, the mother believed the fraud fund company and found out that she had a heart attack and died of after being cheated."
When each of us makes a decision, we have to think about whether we can bear the consequences of this decision?
It is natural for parents to raise themselves and it is understandable.
But after we are raised, we have to pay for our lives, choices, and life. When we are old, we are still working hard to make money until we die. Where is the meaning of raising us? Can we feel at ease?
What do you think of this? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area for discussion.
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