Some time ago, a very popular sentence on the Internet: "The world is panicked, but it's a few taels of broken silver, but this few taels of broken silver can relieve the world's panic."
Yes, although people often say that talking about money is vulgar, we have to pursue this vulgar and have to like this vulgar, because with it, we can live with dignity, not so embarrassed. Without it, you may not be able to survive, let alone dignity and other things.
Because money directly concerns the quality of our survival, it can become the most useful tool to test human nature and emotions.
The reason why talking about money is hurt is not because the relationship deteriorates because it is broken. It is because you can only discover the other person’s true face by talking about money, and only then can you realize that you were blinded by love and didn’t see through him.
Tu Lei once said: "Money is not the only criterion for testing true love, but money can measure the depth of feelings."
Don't believe that love is full of water. In real life, drinking water alone really cannot make you live. A good cook cannot cook without rice, and a poor couple is sad about everything. This is a portrayal of real life.
When choosing a spouse, we must talk about money. In the process of talking about money, you can find out in his heart, you can see the direction of your marriage, see through human nature, and understand whether he wants to marry you because of love, like, or money, or because of calculation.
Whether it is a man or a woman, if you find that the other party has been calculating you and is marrying you purely for the sake of profit, it is recommended to stop the loss in time and do not jump into the fire pit. If a marriage is entirely based on interests, then how long your marriage can last depends on how long you can bring to him.
"Not now, it's all your brother's future. I'm all for your own good. For our future considerations, don't be plotted against by your parents, but for our future considerations."
Seeing the message from her boyfriend, Gu Weiwei became even more confused. She didn't know whether it was her boyfriend right or her parents right.
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Two years ago, when Gu Weiwei was working in a company, she met her boyfriend Lin Zhihui. Under Lin Zhihui's pursuit, Gu Weiwei accepted his wishes and the two became lovers.
Not long ago, Lin Zhihui proposed to Gu Weiwei, saying that both of them were over 25 years old and it was time to consider starting a family and starting a career. His parents have been urging him to hold his grandson as soon as possible, and Gu Weiwei agreed.
So, they took each other to see their parents one after another, and after passing the level of their parents, they began to talk about marriage. As we all know, in the process of talking about marriage, money is an unavoidable topic, while bride gifts and wedding houses are the top priority.
After negotiation, the dowry money was quickly finalized, with 100,000 yuan, the same as Gu Weiwei's cousins and also meet the local standards. This is not a big pressure for Lin Zhihui's family background.
"Then we bought a house. Both of us like the city we live in now and want to settle down here. This is a first-tier provincial capital. The housing prices are not cheap. I also want to buy a school district house. Not to mention it should be too good, at least it should not be too bad. After all, if you want to have children in the future, you should consider the children."
Gu Weiwei looked at a lot of houses and finally fell in love with three houses. The down payment is about 500,000 yuan, and the monthly mortgage is about 6,000 yuan. Within the range of two people, Lin Zhihui chose.
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Unexpectedly, Lin Zhihui's choice was completely beyond Gu Weiwei's expectations. He just didn't like any of the sets, but instead recommended a large four-bedroom apartment, saying that Gu Weiwei chose two-bedroom apartments, which were too small to live in.
"Yes, am I going to buy a school district house? I also considered the financial burden and so on, so I chose a two-bedroom apartment. He liked a large four-bedroom apartment. Oh my god, the down payment was mentioned at once. How can I get it?"
Whether it is Lin Zhihui's parents or Gu Weiwei's parents, they are ordinary employees. Gu Weiwei's family background is better than Lin Zhihui. However, Gu Weiwei's parents have to raise two children, and the financial pressure is huge. There is definitely not much money to be taken out for their daughter to get married. For them, supporting their daughter to buy a house with a down payment of 500,000 is the limit.
When Gu Weiwei asked him if his parents could give them so much money to buy a big house for them, Lin Zhihui replied with confidence: "Of course my parents can't give so much, isn't your family still there? Marriage is a matter for two people, and you can't all be on me alone! The down payment is 900,000, my family gets 500,000, your family gets 400,000, okay!"
"If I were the only daughter, maybe I could consider it. , But, I still have a younger brother! My younger brother is in his junior year this year and is about to graduate. He will get married in the future. If I empty my parents for my marriage, what will happen to my younger brother? Let’s buy a smaller house! We can work hard and make money. We will change to a bigger house in the future if we have the chance."
However, Lin Zhihui refused and insisted on buying that senior four-bedroom apartment. He also talked about Gu Weiwei’s younger brother, saying that he was fighting for Gu Weiwei’s goodness and was fighting for Gu Weiwei’s interests, so that Gu Weiwei was careful of his parents’ thinking of favoring boys over girls.
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It turns out that Lin Zhihui believes that Gu Weiwei has a younger brother, and the family’s property will have nothing to do with Gu Weiwei in the future. If Gu Weiwei does not take advantage of the opportunity to get married and fight for more benefits, it will be a great loss.
"As your daughter, you must support your parents in the elderly. Why should you give the money to your brother alone? You don't want it at this time, when will you? I really do it for your own good."
Lin Zhihui kept urging Gu Weiwei and kept telling Gu Weiwei that he was for Gu Weiwei's good. This made Gu Weiwei shaken, but he didn't know how to talk to his parents, so he had to tell his best friend about his experience.
However, after hearing this, my best friend was confused by a sentence. Gu Weiwei: "Grand four-bedroom apartment? You and your wife live in the master bedroom. You and your children live in one room. What is the purpose of another house? Empty? Do you still understand? The reason why he insisted on buying a senior apartment is not because he wanted to help you win benefits and live comfortably, but because of his parents."
After hearing the best friend's reminder, Gu Weiwei felt suddenly enlightened. No wonder she always felt something was wrong, but she couldn't understand. After a long time of trouble, Lin Zhihui wanted a big house to take her parents over and live together.
"Your parents prefer boys over girls? Ask yourself, is there really there? From childhood to adulthood, you have more clothes than your younger brother! You change your schoolbag every semester, which makes me envious. Once summer comes, you have new skirts. This is called favoring boys over girls? When you go to college, your parents give you 1,500 yuan a month, which is 500 more than me. I am the only child. If you prefer boys over girls, don't say you support you in buying a house and don't let you hand over all your salary to your younger brother to buy a house, that's good."
Thinking of the love that parents have given you since they were young, and thinking of their sensible brother, Gu Weiwei couldn't help feeling guilty and angry that he was almost used by Lin Zhihui.
"He urged me again and asked my parents if they agreed. If my parents refused and asked me to make a fuss with them, I told him clearly that I would never accept living with my parents-in-law. He hadn't replied to me for a long time. A few days ago, he came to me and asked me what I meant. I asked him directly, who would live in another house for, and he talked about filial piety with me."
"You want to be filial to your parents, want to buy a big house, and take your parents over to live with you, what about my parents? The way you respect your parents is to force me to be an unfilial daughter, regardless of the feelings of your parents and younger brother, and make trouble and use your parents' money to fulfill your filial piety! Go and have your dreams! I won’t marry anymore, you can find a silly girl who is willing to be fooled by you! ”
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Shakespeare said in " King Lear ": "If love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with it, it is not real feelings. "
When you can bring benefits to him, he can use sweet words, be a small vulgar, please you in every way, and get the benefits you want from you. When you can no longer squeeze out the benefits, it is time for him to turn against you, abandon you, and find the next goal.
is like Li Yaping in " Double-Side Sticky ". When Hu Lijuan needs to ask her parents for money, she can use both soft and hard work, and she will do both soft and hard work. All kinds of tricks to please Hu Lijuan. When Hu Lijuan refused to give Li Yaping benefits, he exposed his true face and even attacked his wife.
Don't test human nature, especially with money to test human nature, don't cheat yourself and your parents.
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Today's topic: Do you have any good suggestions for Gu Weiwei? Welcome to share your views in the comment section.
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