Some people say: "99% of the efforts of socializing among adults are useless." We often believe that as long as we treat others sincerely, we can get the sincerity of others. But in the end, I found that some people are futile no matter how much we pay. The more mature a person i

Some people say: "99% of the efforts of socializing among adults are useless."

We often believe that as long as we treat others sincerely, we can get the sincerity of others.

However, in the end, I found that some people are futile no matter how much we pay.

The more mature a person is, the more he will understand: the world of adults, only filter, not change.

People who are too honest do not have good rewards

People who are too honest are always afraid to refuse other people's requests.

In their opinion, once they reject the other party, it will embarrass the other party.

is not the case.

Before a person makes a request, he has prepared two answers: agree or refuse.

So no matter which answer he is given, he will not be surprised.

Many times, a person always responds to his requests, but what he receives is not the attention and respect of others, but the disdain of others.

The truth of human nature is: the easier things are to get, the more cheap they will feel.

So, instead of giving it to you, it is better to think more about yourself and do what you can, and refuse decisively when it is time to refuse.

People who are too honest always forgive others' faults easily.

As a result, what they received was the repeated harm of others.

Belly is a virtue, but it cannot be abused.

For some people, they choose not to forgive, or even "forgive tooth", it is not to be petty, but to make the other party "memory" and dare not make the same mistake again.

Do not overestimate feelings, and feelings can last long.

As the saying goes, "Brothers, you must also settle accounts clearly."

In life, some people think that they have a good relationship with each other, so they are embarrassed to calculate too clearly in terms of interests.

As a result, the originally harmonious relationship gradually created many contradictions.

Fellowship often cannot withstand the test of interests.

is unclear in interests, so some people will take advantage of loopholes to gain more benefits.

This practice leads to uneven distribution of interests and conflicts naturally arise.

Rockefeller said: "Enterprise is the shadow that shines on human nature. In front of it, all the essence related to morality and ethics will appear and be visible at a glance."

Human nature has a dark side.

The interests are the most powerful weapon to induce this dark side.

The reason why some people don’t betray us is just because there are not enough chips for betrayal.

As long as there are enough benefits, they will easily betray us.

So, truly wise people will not overestimate their feelings, nor will they use their interests to test their feelings.

A person is too "optimistic" about his feelings, which will only increase the chance of being "betrayed" and "harmed" by the other party.

Only by clearly and rationally aware of the dark side of human nature and the "unreliable" of emotions can we cleverly avoid testing human nature and feelings, and make the relationship last longer.

It is better to change yourself than to change others

Confucian said: "A gentleman seeks for himself, and a villain seeks for others."

In life, some people always like to find reasons from others, hoping that others can make changes.

result, the problem has not been solved for a long time.

A truly wise person will pin his hopes on himself and will let himself make changes first.

Some teachers believe that students’ poor grades are due to their inappropriate attitude towards learning.

So, they only know to blame students blindly, but the result is nothing.

Some teachers believe that students’ poor grades are because their teaching methods need to be improved.

So, they constantly improve their teaching skills, and as a result, the students' grades have been improved.

Many times, the root cause of the problem lies in yourself.

When we meet a arrogant and unreasonable person, although we cannot change the other person's perception and make them more reasonable, we can change our way of dealing with it without entanglement with it, and take a step back and the sky is wide open.

I have heard this saying: "Changing yourself is God, changing others is a crazy disease."

Only by focusing on yourself and letting go of the obsession of "changing others" can you lose many unreasonable troubles and effectively solve practical problems.

Conclusion:

Socrates said: "A life without reflection is not worth living."

Life is in the world, only by constantly reflecting and seeing the truth of life can we avoid wasting time on meaningless things.

Life is like a flash of time, and it's just a sudden change.

Only by spending time on the "blade" can you live up to your life.

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