Two days ago, a female host came to me and said that her relationship has been unhappy. After graduating from college, she fell in love three times in a row, but in the end she was broken up "inexplicably". Under the heavy blow, she now has no aspiration for career, her work performance is getting worse, and she has lost her energy, and she even lost confidence in life.
She said that she saw my introduction from a long-awaited official account, so she quickly added a friend to inquire, hoping that I could help her diagnose what was wrong.
In fact, I have received dozens of consultations on similar emotional issues, and have analyzed them one by one from the perspective of fate.
Today, we will focus on the situation of these fate masters and explain the ideas with everyone from the aspects of "love barrier" and "desire barrier".
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3 Many women always have some dreams in their hearts about their relationships, and they seem to be at ease thinking: when you are in love, you must find a man who is wholehearted and unconditionally good to you.
They believe that women are to be loved forever and given forever.
Indeed, some love stories sound touching, and some romantic behaviors sound touching, but unfortunately these rarely exist in real life.
Reality often pours us a piece of cold water and then tells us: Be more awake! Such a person does not exist at all. If you hold this fantasy, you will eventually be full of holes in your body and mind.
If women want to gain good love and marriage, they must be enlightened, and the most important core of enlightenment is to pass the "love".
Only women who have passed the love rift can truly have love and come and go freely.
The word "love" is often the biggest obstacle for women, because most women value emotions and are generally emotional, and cannot separate "people" and "love". They live in this obsession all their lives, and are often trapped, lost their minds, and even go crazy...
Therefore, there is a saying that "So many passionate women have been unfaithful since ancient times."
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As long as women fail the "love barrier", they will be trapped by love and be controlled by love all their lives. Whether in career or in love, they will suffer huge troubles at critical moments and end in failure.
However, passing the "love barrier" does not mean that people are ruthless. On the contrary, only women who have passed the "love barrier" are the most affectionate and the cutest people.
The so-called "love barrier" means that you have no "obsession" and "self-attachment". You can "let go" at any time, only have obsession with "love", only be loyal to true feelings, but not loyal to anyone.
For example: You and your boyfriend are in love very much. If one day the other person suddenly stops loving you and falls in love with others, what would you do?
Many women are sad and want to try their best to save and change, but this is very difficult.
Although it is difficult, many people are still unwilling to give up. In the end, they are injured and cannot get out of the haze of broken heart for a long time.
This is a typical "ego".
We need to understand the truth: if a man who loves you suddenly stops loving you, then he is not the "him" before.
Because the he you love is the one who likes you. Since he doesn’t love you anymore, he has changed. He is no longer the one he used to be. Instead of entangling, it’s better to let each other go.
There is a saying: It’s not the right thing to the person, this is a state of doing things.
In fact, the highest level of love is also "to love, not to people".
Love is in people, if love is gone, there is no need for people to nostalgia.
Only by not being obsessed with others and being able to take it away at any time can we truly experience the pleasure brought by "love" and happiness can be grasped in our own hands.
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Someone asked, don’t men need to pass the love test?
is different from women. In fact, the most important level that men need to pass is the "desire" level. Only men who pass the desire level can truly grow. Otherwise, they will have weaknesses and weaknesses throughout their lives and are prone to collapse at any time.
Men are born with the ability to pass the "love" level, but they are generally difficult to resist various temptations.
This "desire" link includes the desire for fame and fortune, the desire for women, the desire for power, etc.
Passing the "desire" level does not mean that you have no desire from now on, but that you can control your own desires and make desires a tool for your own development.
The so-called "no desires will lead to hardness". Only when a man controls his own desires can he be flawless and unleashed.
Women who have passed the love barrier are actually enlightened women.
In this era, the most scarce women are enlightened women. Because in this era, women can completely change their appearance as long as they spend some money. Beautifulness is no longer the scarce resource for women. Appearance can be achieved by plastic surgery and body shape. As long as you have ideas, you can get it by working hard.
And in this increasingly impetuous era, women who can think independently and truly enlightened are the scarce ones.
You should know that "guarding the brain like jade" is much more important than "guarding the body like jade". "guarding the brain like jade" means insisting on independent thinking and being able to distinguish the truth around you at a glance.
Women cannot win by their appearance alone, because women's appearance is too easily eroded by time and will be constantly replaced by younger people. And a person's appearance advantages can only be reflected in the eyes of strangers, or can play a role in unfamiliar relationships.
For example, after the couple has been together for more than two years, no matter how beautiful the woman is, the man no longer has freshness and pleasure. Instead, the woman's personality and ability are more valued.
Many women are arranged to get married and have children early on. They don’t need to work hard for the rest of their lives. They just need to take care of their husbands and children, take good care of their families, and their whole lives will be over.
Little do you know that women can have a different life. At the age of 30, for women, youth has just begun, and they can still constantly find themselves and start a new life.
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There is a story: Former US President Obama 's wife Michelle , one day, went to buy flowers, and the flower shop owner respectfully said to her: "You are so amazing, you married a president!"
She smiled slightly and said confidently: "I marry you, you are also the president!"
The owner of the flower shop realized that this is true self-confidence. No matter who this kind of woman can succeed, anyone can marry.
With the continuous development of society, the dependence between people is getting lower and lower, and in the future, everyone will be a very independent individual.
For women, the biggest benefit of this era is openness. Women are no longer single-labeled, but have more development opportunities.
You should know that no matter how beautiful the appearance is, it will aging day. Any stunning thing will become a numb and dullness after watching it for a long time. Only women with "high cognition" can withstand the washing and scrutiny of time and continue to increase value with the experience of time.
But this requires women to find their true self and be brave to be themselves. They must have the ability to enlighten themselves to pass the "love barrier".
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