Introduction:
When a person is young, even if he has many difficulties, he can use his own strength to overcome all difficulties. However, when a person gets old, even if he encounters a small difficulty, he will quickly fall into trouble without the help of others.
The seventy-year-old aunt Wang fell into an unsolvable dilemma in her later years. Since she suffered from severe osteoarthritis and lost her ability to walk, she has encountered difficulties in pension.
Aunt Wang wants to go to his son’s house to take care of his old age, but his daughter-in-law does not agree with Aunt Wang living with them. There was no choice but to propose a plan to go to her daughter's house to retire, but she was firmly opposed by her son-in-law.
This time, Aunt Wang was completely in trouble and didn’t know how to solve her old age problem.
Aunt Wang:
I am seventy years old this year. My husband passed away many years ago because of an accident. The year my husband passed away, my daughter was in the first grade of junior high school and my son was still in elementary school.
When my husband just passed away, I wanted to die with him. My husband is the pillar of the family. As soon as he left, the sky at home collapsed. With my income alone, I have to support a son and a daughter. The degree of hardship can be imagined.
Just as I was about to lose my will to survive, the crying of my children woke me up. I looked at a pair of young children and felt that they were so pitiful.
The children have lost their fathers, and I can no longer let them lose their mothers. If I die, they become orphans without care and their future destiny will be extremely miserable.
For the sake of my children, I had to cheer up and hold on to the burden of supporting my family alone. For many years, I have been living a life of sluggishness. In order to make up for my children's tuition fees, I wish I could spend a penny in half.
Before my children started working, I rarely bought clothes for myself, and the meat was made for my children to eat. I never moved my chopsticks. I raised my children with great difficulty and watched them join the work.
When my son and daughter got married, I sold my house, collected the down payment for my son's wedding house, and rented a small house to live in.
I think buying a house for my son is a very normal thing. If my son doesn’t have a house, no one will be willing to marry him. Even if my daughter doesn’t have a house, someone still wants to marry him.
has this mentality, so when my daughter got married, not only did I not buy a dowry for my daughter, but I also asked my son-in-law for a dowry of 300,000 yuan. I have to be confident in
's 300,000 yuan bride price. I think I raised my daughter to college, and now she has married her son-in-law’s house to give birth to him. Moreover, every penny my daughter earns is just for her son-in-law, so he should make corresponding compensation to me. Although the son-in-law was unhappy, he reluctantly gave me 300,000 in order to marry my daughter. I originally planned to buy myself a small house for 300,000 yuan, but I encountered a difficult delivery of my daughter-in-law.
Son and daughter-in-law don’t have much money. I paid the hospitalization fee for my daughter-in-law. In order to help her recover as soon as possible, I hired her a confinement nanny and made nutritious meals for her every day so that she could rest with peace of mind.
The daughter-in-law was out of confinement and was still weak. During those days, I lived at my son's house every day, taking care of them, mother and son without any undressing. Not only did I work hard, I also took care of all the expenses in my son's family. I gave all my money for my son's family of three.
I lived at my son's house for three years until I brought my grandson to kindergarten that I returned to my rental house and lived my life with peace of mind.
Although the 300,000 yuan given to me by my son-in-law has been spent by me, I have no regrets when I think that the money was spent in my son's small family.
Although my daughter and son-in-law have great opinions about me because of this incident, I have never taken it to my heart. I think my son is my support in my later years, and even if my daughter and son-in-law are not good to me, it doesn’t matter. As long as my son and daughter-in-law receive my affection, I can spend my old age happily.
After returning to my rental house, I spent a few years of leisurely life. Every day I sleep until I wake up naturally, then go to the park and watch TV at night. The day passes in a blink of an eye. Although my life is still poor, I am used to being thrifty and frugal, and I don’t feel that it is too hard.
I rent a rental house worth 4,000 yuan a month with a pension of 800 yuan a month. Since the house is located in a village in the city, the rent is particularly cheap. The remaining 3,200 yuan is enough for me to live a life, and this kind of retirement life without worries makes me feel very happy.
But fate always goes against me. Not long ago, I felt that not only did my legs become weak when I walked, but my pain was also unbearable. After going to the hospital for examination, I found out that I had osteoarthritis.
Doctor said that my condition is very serious and can only be cured by joint replacement, but I have serious underlying diseases and the risk of joint replacement surgery is extremely high. Moreover, the surgical cost of about 100,000 yuan is also something I cannot afford.
I thought about it and decided to give up the surgery and choose conservative treatment. I asked the doctor to prescribe me medicine, but after I took the medicine, my legs were still in unbearable pain, and it was even difficult to get out of bed.
had no choice but to ask my son for help and ask him to take me home and take care of me for my elderly care. My son did not object to me to go home, but he was firmly opposed by his daughter-in-law.
In order to prevent me from going to my son’s house to retire, my daughter-in-law threatened her divorce. Seeing my son in a dilemma, I knew that if my son and his daughter-in-law divorced, his son would resent me for the rest of his life.
For my son's happiness, I had to give up my plan to go to my son's house to retire. I chose to go to my daughter's house to support me. Although I knew that my daughter and son-in-law had opinions about me, now I have reached the critical moment of life and death, and I had to ask my daughter and son-in-law for help with it with shame.
After my daughter learned that I wanted to go to her house to retire, she had no objection. However, the son-in-law jumped out and firmly opposed it, which was beyond my expectations.
The reason why my son-in-law didn't accept me was that I gave everything to my son, and even spent all the 300,000 yuan gift he gave me at my son's house. Since that's the case, I should let my son take care of me.
In my impression, men should be tolerant and generous. I didn’t expect my son-in-law to be so petty. Although I hate my son-in-law not to accept me in his house for retirement, the house was bought by my son-in-law, and he disagreed with me to go to his house, so I didn't ask for it.
In order to survive, I had to discuss with the landlord that when they were having a meal, I would give them a bowl of rice, and I would give them 2,000 yuan in food expenses every month.
The landlord is a kind-hearted aunt. She understands that I have no money and only charges me 1,500 yuan. She gives me three meals every day, and fish and meat, which touched me so much that I burst into tears.
I never expected that I had paid so much for my son. When I got old, my son was not even as good as the landlord and aunt. If I had known this was the case, I would not have given my own benefits for my son, and I should not have favored boys over girls so much, which led to my lack of access to him.
I found that those "selfish" elderly people are living better than me. Although they love their children, they will not give them all for them. They left themselves a way out, so they were able to have enough confidence to enjoy their old age.
Now I understand how crucial it is to have a house of my own and leave enough pension savings for myself to be happy in the elderly in their later years.
Conclusion:
For some families with both children, most people think that instead of relying on their daughter to support themselves, it is better to rely on their son to support themselves. It is precisely because of this that they devote most of their efforts to their sons, which is commonly known as "referring boys over girls."
However, when they reach old age and need their son to support themselves, they unexpectedly discovered that even if their son wants to respect themselves, their daughter-in-law will block them.
The daughter-in-law believes that it is natural for the elderly to give their son, so they will not be grateful to the elderly and willingly support them for their elderly because they give everything to their son.
Because the elderly have been favoring boys over girls for many years, their daughters feel resentful, which leads to the elderly being unable to rely on their sons or daughters in their old age, and they fall into a miserable situation of being helpless in old age.
Smart elderly people, when they treat their children's relationships, they can convince people with reason. While caring for your children, leave yourself a way out.
They will save enough savings for themselves, firmly guard their nursing home , and will take good care of their bodies. With these three magic weapons, even if the children are unfilial, the elderly can rely on their own strength to provide themselves with a comfortable old age.
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