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When a man gets married, why can’t he be loyal to his family? Why do he like to have an ambiguous relationship with women outside the marriage?
Women outside of marriage think that it is because men love themselves, but in fact they are thinking too much.
Men to middle-aged men are very realistic and materialistic. If you consider any problem, you only start from your own interests. When he has a family and still has an ambiguous relationship with the woman outside, it is really not because of love.
1. I just want to relieve loneliness
My wife and I have been married for 20 years, and we have always been couples from another place.
Before getting married, I often lived and worked together. After getting married, with the birth of my child, my wife chose to be a mother who accompanied me, and I chose to stay in big cities to work hard and provide them with a life of food and clothing.
It was from that year that we have been a couple from another place for nearly 10 years. I go back to my hometown three times a year, and each time I stay at home, it takes about a week.
And the remaining long time of the year was all I worked alone in a foreign land. Sometimes the loneliness and loneliness of middle-aged men really couldn't tell anyone, even if that person was my wife.
Later on I met the woman now on the Internet. She is also working alone in other places. We all know that our feelings are just dewy love.
No love, no light feelings, but two foreigners working hard in other places, just to join forces to keep warm in their lives.
2. I just want to stimulate it for a while
In fact, my wife and I have been married for 15 years, and our relationship is very good. In the eyes of outsiders, we are all model couples and loving couples.
I am a very good husband in the eyes of my wife, I am a very good father in the eyes of my children, and I am also a very good gentleman in the eyes of outsiders.
Only I know how my mentality has changed during the 15 years of marriage between my wife and I.
After my wife gave birth to two children, her figure changed a lot, and her focus then shifted to the children, and I became an idle person at home.
In the past, my wife liked to stick to me. She wanted to share everything with me, talk to me about everything, and hoped that I would accompany her in everything.
But now, she just wants to be with her children, she is only willing to spend time with her children, and she is not willing to accompany me.
My job is a step-by-step rhythm, and my middle-aged life is a stagnant pool until I met such a woman while in a social event.
She and my wife have completely different personalities. No matter what I say, she will look at me with admiration, as if I am her heaven and earth.
The emotions I lack in my wife have been compensated for in her body, and she gave them different tenderness and affection as my wife.
When my wife doesn't want to pay attention to me, I will go to her and she is willing to accompany me.
Of course I know that I will not betray my marriage or my family. I am with her just to fill the current emotional lack, just for temporary emotional stimulation, and it is not really related to love.
3. Just for some kind of need
My wife and I have been married for ten years. We are not married because of love, but because of blind dates, just for the expectations of our family.
Of course I know that my wife has no feelings for me. After the child is born, my wife becomes a separation from me.
Usually in life, I ignore me, have no gentleness to me, have no smile on my face, and look at me, just ignore me.
I don’t know who she gave her tenderness, I don’t know who she gave her tenderness, but I know she at least didn’t give it to me.
I have to cook and wash clothes by myself after get off work every day. She orders takeaway every day. She has not fulfilled her responsibilities as a wife, nor has she fulfilled her obligations as a wife.
The child is also taken care of by my parents. She only goes to work and get off work every day, earns money and spends it herself, and does not ask about my thoughts or my needs at all.
We are like two roommates or friends living in the same house, but they are by no means husband and wife.
Later, at work, I met a person who was 5 years younger than my wife. She had just been freed from an unfortunate marriage. Our understanding was a coincidence. Maybe I gave her a lot of comfort. She has always been good to me.
We have always maintained this unclear relationship, but I never thought that if I wanted to marry her, I would not be able to raise the child she had with other men.
I don’t know if my wife knows it, my ambiguous relationship with her, but she doesn’t want to give me anything, but she hopes that I will be Liu Xiahui. Isn’t it very realistic?
Actually, I hope my marriage is happy and I hope I have a wife who loves me. Maybe life is always difficult to achieve. I can only choose someone who is more beneficial to me and have a better way to get along at this stage.
But to be honest, men have ambiguous and intimate relationships with women in marriage, not because of love, nor to leave their current family, but really just for their own physical needs.
The more you live a man, the more realistic he will be, and he will not care about so-called love. He cares more about the enjoyment of the present than the distant times in the future.
In love, women must be more rational. Don’t believe in the man in marriage, their sweet words to you, and don’t believe in the promise that he will marry you, unless he is single now, unless he is marrying you immediately, otherwise he is just coaxing you.
Women should not regard men's actions and language towards you as love, because true love must be to marry you, and to take care of you, rather than letting you bear other infamy.
Only when a man loves you will be responsible for you for the rest of his life. In addition, love is just his addiction.
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